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AIBU to think if we need to politely ask men not to rape women (or men), then we don't want such people in the UK? PART 2

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CoventryCity · 24/08/2026 11:09

'Don't rape, sexually assault or make kissing noises' at people, asylum seekers warned in guidance about living in UK

UK arrivals have been told to treat women equally, not sexually assault partners or have sex with children in a new Home Office pamphlet. As well as the guidebook, a series of posters have also been designed by the government.'

https://news.sky.com/story/asylum-seekers-warned-not-to-make-kissing-sounds-at-people-in-new-guidance-about-living-in-uk-13574744

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GunnelVallquist · 24/08/2026 11:17

Thank you for the new thread @CoventryCity .

LuckyHazelFox · 24/08/2026 11:23

Thanks Bobby. Checking in.

LuckyHazelFox · 24/08/2026 11:24

Sorry @CoventryCity

5MinuteArgument · 24/08/2026 11:25

This influx of military aged males from incompatible countries has to stop. It's poisoning our societies all over western Europe. There will be a surge towards anti-immigration parties as the only way to stop this madness.

Women and children are at risk but men are also at risk as shown by the case of the elderly man sexually assaulted by an Afghan asylum seeker in Leicester.

I really don't understand the liberal left mindset that thinks this is a price worth paying in order to be seen as 'tolerant' and 'welcoming'. Those people have blood on their hands.

CoventryCity · 24/08/2026 11:33

LuckyHazelFox · 24/08/2026 11:24

Sorry @CoventryCity

😂I'll let you into a secret, but don't tell anyone. Neither of them is my first name!

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CoventryCity · 24/08/2026 11:34

5MinuteArgument · 24/08/2026 11:25

This influx of military aged males from incompatible countries has to stop. It's poisoning our societies all over western Europe. There will be a surge towards anti-immigration parties as the only way to stop this madness.

Women and children are at risk but men are also at risk as shown by the case of the elderly man sexually assaulted by an Afghan asylum seeker in Leicester.

I really don't understand the liberal left mindset that thinks this is a price worth paying in order to be seen as 'tolerant' and 'welcoming'. Those people have blood on their hands.

Totally agree.

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Nuthatch26 · 24/08/2026 11:35

Checking in, thanks OP.

LuckyHazelFox · 24/08/2026 11:37

CoventryCity · 24/08/2026 11:33

😂I'll let you into a secret, but don't tell anyone. Neither of them is my first name!

😆 🤣

EasternStandard · 24/08/2026 11:37

5MinuteArgument · 24/08/2026 11:25

This influx of military aged males from incompatible countries has to stop. It's poisoning our societies all over western Europe. There will be a surge towards anti-immigration parties as the only way to stop this madness.

Women and children are at risk but men are also at risk as shown by the case of the elderly man sexually assaulted by an Afghan asylum seeker in Leicester.

I really don't understand the liberal left mindset that thinks this is a price worth paying in order to be seen as 'tolerant' and 'welcoming'. Those people have blood on their hands.

I don’t get the price worth paying mindset either.

Thanks op

keeptalkinghappytalk · 24/08/2026 11:40

Yes deeply worried ... there are hundreds ( not an exaggeration) of bored young males around one of my local hotels/ hostels whose background and history is unknown to us. ' Security checks' are from point of arrival, may include one terror database but effectively there is no ' dbs' equivalent check for men from so many misogynistic countries.

LuckyHazelFox · 24/08/2026 11:41

Somebody even alluded to the fact we shouldn't stop the boats, on another thread. She would rather it be dealt with by letting them all through because it's unfair on the legitimate cases. There's no letimacy in being smuggled in!

CoventryCity · 24/08/2026 11:43

@bubbleandleek from previous thread. Yes Saudi under MBS is definitely better for women (not as sex segregated in cafes, can drive etc). But the roots run deep. Still many human rights issues. Much better that Iran, Afghanistan though.

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Nuthatch26 · 24/08/2026 11:43

5MinuteArgument · 24/08/2026 11:25

This influx of military aged males from incompatible countries has to stop. It's poisoning our societies all over western Europe. There will be a surge towards anti-immigration parties as the only way to stop this madness.

Women and children are at risk but men are also at risk as shown by the case of the elderly man sexually assaulted by an Afghan asylum seeker in Leicester.

I really don't understand the liberal left mindset that thinks this is a price worth paying in order to be seen as 'tolerant' and 'welcoming'. Those people have blood on their hands.

Same. Its awful to read women dismiss this. We're supposed to pretend that its not happening for the greater good.
Why do women on the left put men, who despise women, before women? I don't get it. They've shown who they are in their own countries.

There are state elections in Germany next month. AfD polling well. I wonder why. 🙄

CoventryCity · 24/08/2026 11:44

keeptalkinghappytalk · 24/08/2026 11:40

Yes deeply worried ... there are hundreds ( not an exaggeration) of bored young males around one of my local hotels/ hostels whose background and history is unknown to us. ' Security checks' are from point of arrival, may include one terror database but effectively there is no ' dbs' equivalent check for men from so many misogynistic countries.

There's nothing to check them against a lot of the time. No documentation. Could be anyone. Are anyone.

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Nuthatch26 · 24/08/2026 11:46

LuckyHazelFox · 24/08/2026 11:41

Somebody even alluded to the fact we shouldn't stop the boats, on another thread. She would rather it be dealt with by letting them all through because it's unfair on the legitimate cases. There's no letimacy in being smuggled in!

So the victims are just collateral damage. It doesn't make sense.

MaturingCheeseball · 24/08/2026 11:49

I simply fail to understand why their phones can’t be checked. They may throw away their papers, but I can’t believe they don’t connect with “home” once here. It’s absolutely astonishing to me that the rights of some man turning up in this country trumps the safety of its citizens.

EasternStandard · 24/08/2026 11:52

I think there’s still a contingent who believe it’s the headlines at fault and they’d prefer if that was suppressed.

I’d bet the Greens would push for that. Scary when you think crimes against women are so irrelevant people would rather do that.

Nuthatch26 · 24/08/2026 11:54

EasternStandard · 24/08/2026 11:52

I think there’s still a contingent who believe it’s the headlines at fault and they’d prefer if that was suppressed.

I’d bet the Greens would push for that. Scary when you think crimes against women are so irrelevant people would rather do that.

Yes I've seen that too. Blaming the media/SM for reporting on the crimes committed.

Somerford · 24/08/2026 11:56

GunnelVallquist · 24/08/2026 11:17

Thank you for the new thread @CoventryCity .

Are you threatening me?

GunnelVallquist · 24/08/2026 12:01

CoventryCity · 24/08/2026 11:33

😂I'll let you into a secret, but don't tell anyone. Neither of them is my first name!

Oh no…you’ll be accused of all sorts now!

BubbleAndLeek · 24/08/2026 12:01

CoventryCity · 24/08/2026 11:43

@bubbleandleek from previous thread. Yes Saudi under MBS is definitely better for women (not as sex segregated in cafes, can drive etc). But the roots run deep. Still many human rights issues. Much better that Iran, Afghanistan though.

Ta

Nuthatch26 · 24/08/2026 12:02

Somerford · 24/08/2026 11:56

Are you threatening me?

😂😂

GunnelVallquist · 24/08/2026 12:02

5MinuteArgument · 24/08/2026 11:25

This influx of military aged males from incompatible countries has to stop. It's poisoning our societies all over western Europe. There will be a surge towards anti-immigration parties as the only way to stop this madness.

Women and children are at risk but men are also at risk as shown by the case of the elderly man sexually assaulted by an Afghan asylum seeker in Leicester.

I really don't understand the liberal left mindset that thinks this is a price worth paying in order to be seen as 'tolerant' and 'welcoming'. Those people have blood on their hands.

I agree with every word you said.

Everyone who still agrees with this is complicit now.

LuckyHazelFox · 24/08/2026 12:02

The common theme is race, which is ironic, considering these people complain we make it about race. They use culture identity as a weapon against women, in particular. Gaza conflict = tugging at women's heartstrings. Immigration = gaslighting women into believing we are exaggerating our fears. When that fails (how dare we be resilient) we have to be racist. Trans rights intertwined with all other Liberal causes. I could tag a specific recent example on here but with liberals, it's all about identifying what they perceive as vulnerability and skewing context. There's no reasoning at times, as we've seen on part one of the thread. Sorry but in short, a lot of them thrive on finding ways to guilt trip white people.

GunnelVallquist · 24/08/2026 12:05

Somerford · 24/08/2026 11:56

Are you threatening me?

🤣

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