AIBU to expect the adult to address that playground behaviour?

[Oscillating]

If your 6½yo kid was in a playground with 3 other similar aged kids who yours was trying to play with, and they were all talking about what they wanted to be when they were older... And one child kept interrupting your child with silly comments like "a poo head" or "some jam" and laughing at you and your child was standing there head down upset while the other child did that...
Would you expect the adult standing nearby to comment "oh come on now they're just being kids" when you went over, intervened and said "that's enough, they're being silly, we're leaving"

" I'd hope they weren't such a wimp " " Getting upset about it is wimpish" You sure you didn't " suggest " the kid was a wimp?

And where does it say I called a kid a wimp??

I said I would hope MY kids
Weren't being a wimp.

Someone asked what is do if kids were talking to mine like that.

No you were clearly suggesting OP's kid was a wimp as you went on to say you can see where the kid gets it's over sensitivity from.

@Oscillating My child is obviously weak and needs to toughen up and become more like the kids laughing at others who are upset.

@Oscillating I'm at fault as is my child. These kids were behaving normally.

@Oscillating I get it. I'm wrong. My kid needs to toughen up and next time I see a kid upset and 3 others laughing at them I won't intervene and just say "they're just being kids"..

From reading your posts, I think you actually do get it now. Thanks for the update—I’m glad you finally understand what you need to do.

lol as if I'm going to teach my kid to be a nasty little shit that laughs at, teases and excludes others and then stand by and watch them gang up on another child 😂😂😂😂

You might all think her a wimp, and you might be raising kids that are like them and think its fine for them to behave that way.... but I'd be fucking mortified if any kids I were raising behaved that way. I'd rather my "wimp" child than a horrible one.

There's an in between though that most parents would aim for. A confident child that can stand up for themselves without resorting to picking on others or crying

Yes. Sort of behaviour you nip in the bud, just like all the other bad silly things boys do at this age. It's just basic parenting.

Definitely. It's the difference between aggressive and assertive. You can put personal boundaries in place without verbally or physically attacking others. It is a skill that can take practice, but good preparation for when she is older.

What a nasty post. Are you advocating for children picking on others? You think that an upset child is responsible for spiteful children picking on her?

"that's enough, they're being silly, we're leaving"

You were right to intervene with the above and the parent's response shows what a dick they are.

There are lots of parents who will actively use other people's children as collateral to make their own children more confident.

I bet you if someone else had been doing it to their own kid, they would have intervened.

Well, for a start when OP intervened and said "that's enough, they're being silly, we're leaving", there was no need for the bully's parent to pipe up with "oh come on now they're just being kids".

The apple clearly does not fall far from the tree. Tosser parent with little shit child.

Maybe it's not just a nasty post. Maybe it's a social experiment being carried out to identify arseholes!

Absolutely not. I was responding in a sarcastic way to OP's sarcastic posts. Did you think OP was being serious in the three posts I referred to? The irony seemed pretty glaring.

Exactly. OP initially said she was not hovering over the children, but sitting quite a way away. Now she seems to be able to report these children’s interactions verbatim. It does feel as though extra details are being added as she did not get the response she wanted.

And if OP was close enough to hear every single word of these interactions, she should have intervened rather than letting her daughter “hang her head” and expecting the other parent to step in. Parent B might be the parent of multiple kids of whom child B is the youngest, and may well spend the whole time listening to them calling each other poo head (and worse) at home so thinks it’s just normal kid silliness.

If my child was being unkind to another child I would absolutely interfere and ask my child to stop and then later have a conversation with them about it.

If another child is unkind to mine I'd first see if my DC can handle it themselves and if they can't I'd encourage them to play with someone else or elsewhere. Sometimes I feel I don't interfere early enough. I don't want my DC to learn it's ok for someone to treat them badly. Being called a poo poo head is not a big deal but being excluded passive aggressively and teased is not ok and I want my kids to learn they don't have to put up with that shit. They can give back or walk away.

Sometimes I just go and hover close to the kids if they start being mean or directly look at them. Some kids do behave better when they know an adult is watching

I do struggle with this sort of stuff though as I never know when it's ok to interfere or to talk to another child. I tend not to interfere a lot (unless it's my own child that is not behaving well) as I'm a bit of a people pleaser but I do feel that's unfair to DD and I don't recommend it.

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It was a sarcastic post (not a serious one) in response to OP's sarcastic posts.