AIBU to expect the adult to address that playground behaviour?

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If your 6½yo kid was in a playground with 3 other similar aged kids who yours was trying to play with, and they were all talking about what they wanted to be when they were older... And one child kept interrupting your child with silly comments like "a poo head" or "some jam" and laughing at you and your child was standing there head down upset while the other child did that...
Would you expect the adult standing nearby to comment "oh come on now they're just being kids" when you went over, intervened and said "that's enough, they're being silly, we're leaving"

Bullying is repeated. This was a one off and your DC needs to learn some laughing-it-off skills.

Ok

Parents should parent. At least one was not.

Teach her to stand up for herself or walk away

Who,.me?

What would you do if 3 kids were laughing at yours and calling them names? Just sit there and watch it happen?

As I previously posted a 6 yo calling another 6 yo a poo head is not bullying.

Okay....and how do we do that? After the incident?

Fine.

Ok

The kids were playing really nicely with mine and mine was at fault for being a wimp. Maybe I should encourage her to interrupt other children, call them names and laugh at them when they're standing there hanging their head in silent upset..

During would be an idea. But surely by now you should've taught her to walk away or tell the silly names child " don't be so silly"

It's something many learn at nursery

You do sound rather overprotective and taking 6 year old silliness as a personal insult.

I did remove her during the incident. But no.... I've just been told that my kid should toughen up, I'm overprotective and the kids were behaving just fine and I should have just let them crack on with their behaviour

They were being silly. Commonplace in 6 year olds. But getting upset over it is wimpish. Mind you I can see where the kid gets such over sensivity from.

It's not " bullying"

My dgc and his friends were fond of calling each other poohead smelly bun etc at 5 and 6.

But they didn't sit there getting upset, they just came out with more ridiculous names for each other

Or, just look up ‘bullying’ in the dictionary.

That isn’t bullying. Look up the definition before you brand that word around.

Six year olds were acting like 6 year olds. The dynamic between the 3 girls doesnt work. You should have left when they arrived. She needs to have a thicker skin as kids are mean but this just sounds like silliness. Shes not been hit or called proper names she is been teased. You teach her to talk back for herself and not let it upset her as she be dealing with idiots for the rest of her life

Not every undesirable or unkind behaviour is bullying. Do you and DD know this child from elsewhere or had you literally just met them in park? If the latter it just cannot be called ‘bullying’ and it’s ridiculous to even suggest that’s what it was.

She’s going to encounter unkind kids, kids that don’t want to play and kids that are overly silly again and again. You need to teach her resilience to cope with it like saying don’t be so silly, walking away and finding something else fun to do. You won’t be doing her any favours by calling it bullying and by teaching her that an adult will intervene over trivial comments like ‘some jam’.

I already answered how we know each child.

My kids would probably have said something back but they’re gobby. Generally I just tell them if someone’s excluding you it’s their loss. You need to just get comfortable playing alone and doing your own thing and when they’re alone and try and play with you, don’t be a back up option - the younger they learn that the better.

Oh so now I should encourage her to call other kids names.

You are getting a lot of harsh replies her OP. The children were being unkind and if it was my child calling someone names I would step in and tell him to play kindly or I would be taking them home. I'm a primary school teacher and I teach 5 and 6 year olds. Kids are mean to eachother all the time and we are constantly stepping in to correct behaviour and talk through good choices, kind words, social stories etc. It's not a joke if someone is getting upset. They are only 6 and 7 so I wouldn't get too worked up about it, it is just silly immature behaviour, very typical for that age group. As time goes on your child will need to develop a certain amount of resilience but YANBU. Some kids are more sensitive and it's upsetting to see your child being hurt.

Sorry missed that. So you’d never met silly kid before. Then absolutely it’s not bullying. It’s just an annoying random kid in a park that doesn’t want to play.

It's okay she just needs to learn to be as horrible as the other kids apparently

The thing is in school it's easier to manage a situation and know the kids involved.

Here there is an unknown child (C) so I think it would have been better for OP to have just explained to her child that A and B are playing together and have made a new friend. Perhaps she can play with A another time.
I might even add a comment about the behaviour not being kind or that they are being a bit silly so let's play with them a different time.

Your replies are really dysregulated. You need to work on your own resilience and then model.

OP, kindly, this response comes across a bit childish.

You've asked for feedback on this situation by posting here - and I agree, people could be a bit gentler in this. But you're not taking on board what people are saying.

Your child is absoltely not a wimp. Nor is she being bullied (from what you've said about this one incident). My daugher's friendship group are a similar age to these children and also has a tricky dynamic where there are regular fallouts where one is left out (DD always says ut's her) and the others are mean. I reflect on it with her afterwards and we talk about what to do in similar situations in the future. I'm trying to teach her resiliance and the social skills she needs to cope in these situations when I'm not there to intervene.

YANBU to intervene in the moment as your child was upset and of course you want to protect her emotional wellbeing. Use it as an opportunity to reflect and practise how to respond in future so she can decide whether to walk away or call the others out for being rude, it'll stand her in good stead.

Kids definitely should be encouraged to stick up for themselves, but I do find it strange when adults expect kids to stoically deal with shit from other kids that they wouldn't expect an adult to accept equivalent behaviour in a workplace.