AIBU to expect the adult to address that playground behaviour?

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If your 6½yo kid was in a playground with 3 other similar aged kids who yours was trying to play with, and they were all talking about what they wanted to be when they were older... And one child kept interrupting your child with silly comments like "a poo head" or "some jam" and laughing at you and your child was standing there head down upset while the other child did that...
Would you expect the adult standing nearby to comment "oh come on now they're just being kids" when you went over, intervened and said "that's enough, they're being silly, we're leaving"

I'd be telling my kid not to get upset at silly comments

Really?

You'd think it ok that your kid was being bullied by 3 other six year olds?

And if another child called your kid names all morning when they were trying to play?

You'd be cool with that happening to your child?

Not quite sure of the circumstances. Was this a playdate and you know the other children or was it random kids?
It sounds pretty silly but I would probably be telling my own kid they don't want to play with them.

What do you mean ‘yours was trying to play with’? Do they all know each other?

If they were just random kids in the park and not people you were actually there to see I’d just encourage my child to play somewhere else.

I'd get involved in dangerous, but not in silly.

It doesn't sound like your child was part of their group - and that's okay. They were not obliged to play with your child.

If your child is classing being called a poo head as being bullied he's in for a rough childhood

She knows A from school. B from around the village and C we don't know.

When A and B are in the playground together they will exclude my child (ignoring her, running away, not including in games, hiding sweets to share etc) but if alone they'll play with her.
It was child C that was being silly and unkind and making DD upset, but this was later on after about an hour of A and B pretending to play with her and only because parent of A was making them include her.

I had encouraged her multiple times to play with others,but she didn't understand why A and B weren't playing like they normally do when she's alone with each of them.

And when child C joined the playground, that's when B and C turned silly and unkind and bullying behaviour.calline her a baby and silly names whilst she was trying to talk.

No they aren't obliged to. I actively encouraged her not to. But the parent of A made them play with her and she was not sure why A and B weren't playing when they usually do.

I wouldn't bat an eyelid, my kids would have just buggered off and played if they were pissed off with a kid in the playground.

It sounds like they are making it clear they dont want to play with her and she's hanging about them anyway.

She doesn't understand why the children will play with her when they are alone with her. As soon as A and B are together they exclude her.

So tell her not to play with them then?

This is normal childhood stuff. Your job is to guide her how to deal with it.

Imagine your kid standing there head down upset while 3 other kids surrounded them and laughed at them and called them names...

I'm sure your response would be to not bat an eyelid.🙄

I did!
But Parent A told their child to play with mine and they did for a bit, reluctantly and kept kinda half arsong it and then Parent A led a game of football with them and they kinda drifted off... and then my child goes to climbing frame a d then this started happening.
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How old are the children?

Well you've clearly decided you're not unreasonable so why did you bother asking?

And I would have diverted my kids away before it got to that point, I wouldn't be forcing reluctant kids to play with mine, nor waiting for my kid to get upset before I intercepted, especially since it sounds like a recurring thing.

6-7

I'm absolutely did not force anything!

I had told her more than once to leave them alone, not to play with them. Then parent A decided to make their kid play with mine!

Some friendships only work in certain combinations. My DD1 has two friends, let’s call them Ella and Maisie. DD1 and Ella play great together, DD1 and Maisie play great together, DD1, Ella and Maisie end up with someone (DD1 claims it’s always her) being left out or feeling picked on because three is just a bad number.

I am confused though. In your original post you said they were all talking about what they wanted to be, and one child was being silly. Now all of them are being silly/rude and it was only your daughter talking about it?

Anyway I wouldn’t intervene but I would try to help DD1 if she came to me upset and come up with some strategies for the future. If I was the parent of another child I probably would say something if another child was upset, but with 6yos, the truth is almost always somewhere in the middle of two perspectives.

Move your child away complete to another part of the park?

Do you know these kids from school or somewhere or are they just randoms in the playground? But sounds like they didn’t want to play with your child and were immature/silly about it because they’re 6. If it were my kid not taking the hint, which is fair enough because she’s 6 and still learning social cues, I would have just redirected her into playing elsewhere, like properly elsewhere not next to these kids. I would not have expected parental intervention for saying ‘some jam’ or ‘poo head’ but actually it sounded like the kids parent was really on it and went over and above to encourage them all into a game of football… so I don’t really get your objection tbh.

My child went over to climbing frame. The other three followed and They were talking with mine, saying what they wanted to do when older, like a builder or whatever, .and then mine said "when I grow up I want to be a-" and child C started the silly interruptions/name calling, and the other 2 started laughing at it all, and my child got upset hanging their head down. They didn't interrupt each other (A,B,C) they listened to each other, the silliness started when my child was trying to say what they wanted.

I might be too protective of my child and think this is bullying.

I have spoken to mine and said to not bother with A and B again when they're together as the only time mine was smiling and laughing was when A, B and C weren't playing near/with her.

I'd hope they weren't such a wimp they'd be worrying about such a thing.abd stood up for themselves

Different parents.

Parent A was encouraging playing.

Parent B stood and watched them all be silly and tease my kid (particularly child C)

I walked over and took mine away from it all.

Fine.

I'll just let the others bully her next time.