Was I wrong to refuse DP a lift meaning he had a £90 taxi?

[Bethsvint]

DP got the train to a nearby city with friends yesterday (a day drinking basically).

He was expecting to get the last train back at 10.30pm. Shortly after this, he called me to say he’d been told to leave the platform by the police. Reason being that he thought it would be a good idea to try to wind up his friends getting a train on the opposite platform by dropping his shorts/boxers and bending over in their direction. This was spotted by police who told him to leave the station or he’d be arrested.

I told him no. It was late, a 45 minute drive each way including the motorway. He got a taxi but is off with me as it cost £90 and he said he’d have picked me up in the same circumstances.

We help each other with lifts usually, have a good relationship and no issues etc.

Was I wrong to have refused?

Presumably you would dump him anyway.

such low standards on here. I wouldn’t even consider staying in a relationship with someone who would get so drunk and out of control that they would expose themselves on a train platform. Never mind pick him up!

£90 is cheap for the value of this story whilst dining out in future. Refusing to pick up will become part of the tail - oops tale. He will thank you for it one day. Not now but one day.

I wouldn’t be either so I’m assuming this is an out of character one off. If it’s normal then I’d be divorcing.

This!!

Yanbu.

He chose to get so drunk that he lost all judgement and capacity to make sensible decisions and did something stupid and antisocial. A lot of people in prison have similar narratives for why they did the monumentally stupid thing that led to someone being killed or injured - being drunk is not a mitigation for culpability, because the choice to get so drunk as to lose judgement is in itself culpable. He is simply lucky that the stupid thing he did was not something that led to more serious consequences. It is quite correct that the consequences - luckily for him just a £90 taxi fare - fall upon him, and maybe he might therefore learn from the experience. It would be totally inappropriate for you to have your evening's rest destroyed in order to save him the inconvenience of having to face the consequences of his stupid decisions.

Asides from anything else... collecting him would have meant leaving him, drunk and proven not to be able to make sensible choices, standing around waiting for 45 minutes...

Taxi means into a cab and away near instantly and at home in 45 minutes.

So I'd still pick taxi, even if I didn't think it was a case of FAFO.