Was I wrong to refuse DP a lift meaning he had a £90 taxi?

[Bethsvint]

DP got the train to a nearby city with friends yesterday (a day drinking basically).

He was expecting to get the last train back at 10.30pm. Shortly after this, he called me to say he’d been told to leave the platform by the police. Reason being that he thought it would be a good idea to try to wind up his friends getting a train on the opposite platform by dropping his shorts/boxers and bending over in their direction. This was spotted by police who told him to leave the station or he’d be arrested.

I told him no. It was late, a 45 minute drive each way including the motorway. He got a taxi but is off with me as it cost £90 and he said he’d have picked me up in the same circumstances.

We help each other with lifts usually, have a good relationship and no issues etc.

Was I wrong to have refused?

Next time when he feels like being a dick he might think twice.

He also sounds like a complete knob TBH, no one wants to see that behaviour. Is he 12? Very childish.

this, but my god the cringe, OP. Unless he's younger than 18, surely someone so immature just gives you the massive ick?

I certainly WOULDN'T have got him!!

FAFO.

Women getting trains late at night are vulnerable precisely because twats like the OP's partner expose themselves in public.

That will really teach him to not do it again won't it 🙄

Why do women feel they should help/put themselves out for a grown man who has acted stupidly and then has consequences for their own behaviour?
Absolutely bizarre

This, what would he have done for 45 mins outside the train station?

i reckon he would have wondered off somewhere and you would have to drive around looking for him or worse passed out somewhere making himself even more vulnerable

getting in a taxi and getting home was the right choice

You say "hate", I say "face consequences as a grown-up"

I wouldn't have some that drink in my car.

No, it really isn't! I've been with my partner for 21 years, in no way is he a 'fuck buddy' (and I have had fuck buddies prior to current partner).

I wasn't clear but I meant the risk of driving late at night on the motorway, as the OP specified these two points as why she didn't want to do it. If she was already tired as it was 10:30pm , then doing a 1.5 round trip drive at night wouldn't be wise.

Tell him if you ever decide to flash everyone at the station and get thrown out by the police that you won't expect him to come and collect you either.

He’s the 1 being unreasonable!
If I was in your position, I’d have said, I’d had a drink & wont drive.
What if you had children, would he expect you to get them up to drive & pick him up🤨!
…he got off very lightly with a £90 taxi fare imho.

As far as I've always known, the phrase "I'd argue that [person B] was [this]" means that person making the statement putting forward the claim that person B is that quality, not that he/she isn't.

He could have taken a cab to the next station and got the train home from there. I wouldn't have picked him up. If he is angry with you his bad luck for deliberately exposing his privates in public.

Yep, same here. He sounds like an absolute child, and I actually wish they had arrested him.

He sounds like an immature dickhead.

See, I’d have left my Dh to it. Not least because he wasn’t abandoned - he was able to get a flipping Uber. If he was big enough and ugly enough to get that drunk he could take the cost of the Uber on the chin and learn the lesson.

Why are people in relationships with scumbags like this?

His own fault, why do men think anyone wants to see this, gross.

Tell him not to drop his knicks in public and that he's lucky it only cost him £90. Oh, and possibly dump him, he is not a grown up person.

I’d have got him - surely that’s family money?

idiot tax!
I think it was Josh Widdicomb on parenting hell that said it, accept that a certain amount of money a year goes on fixing stupid mistakes.

isn’t he a prince among men?

As my mother said

'Drink in, wits out'

YANBU

Why should YOU be punished for his immature teenage behaviour?

Serves him right! He should focus his energies on growing the hell up, rather than being off with you.