Unnecessary comment about my outfit from male member of staff at the school - your thoughts?

[TwatAtSchool91]

I live a stones throw from a secondary school which I have to pass daily on our school run.

A male member of staff stands outside in the morning greeting the kids.

A few months ago he made a comment to me as I walked past him. It was a stupid remark, nothing vulgar or massively offensive, but it has bothered me to the extent I'm now self conscious about what I'm wearing whenever I have to go past him.

The comment he made was "morning Blade" in a mocking tone, both infront of the secondary school kids and my own.

(for reference I was wearing a belted leather trench coat and some black riding style boots)

It wasn't a friendly jibe, he was being a twat. I wouldn't give it much thought if he were a random in the street but he's stood there representing the school 😐

Would you have raised it with the school or not? Do you think it was inappropriate?

Were you dressed as Blade for a party? If so I can’t see an issue.

The best part is this happened months ago and OP is still thinking about it

I was going to ask OP if they were in the southern hemisphere! I hadn't clocked that it was ages ago.

It’s quite funny tbf

I care. And it doesn’t happen. Because it’s men doing it to women and not other men.

And obviously, this instance is relatively trivial. At one end you have men abusing women. In the middle you have the catcalling and wolf-whistling which most decent people would agree is demeaning and a show of powerplay. Although there are plenty of women on MN I know who think it’s funny and a compliment. And then at the much milder end is this ‘joke’ incident. But it all comes from the same place, a misogynistic desire for men to humiliate women, whether the men acknowledge it or not.

55-year-old me couldn’t give a shit about this stuff. I would either ignore or challenge it robustly. But 18-year-old or even 22 year-old me could have felt embarrassed and humiliated by somebody saying this.

I think we should have zero tolerance to men doing this stuff to women. And it’s always women.

And you are unreasonable for not reading the post properly and making snarky comments about the weather. 🤷🏼‍♀️

What a depressing read this thread is. We have a long way to go before making things better for the new generations of women.

I’m so sorry I chuckled when I read what he said!!! I’d have laughed tbh, sorry you didn’t like it but reporting him will just make you look very ott!!!

If you walk past daily you obviously recognise each other. Sounds like he was trying to get your attention. Which he obviously has. Job done.

Ps a woman would definitely make a joke at how a man dressed if he was dressed in her opinion like a character- ridiculous this is being called as a man vs woman thing!!!

Oh good God. I'm guessing you're relatively young. Why does everything offend everyone these days? The amount of comments/jokes I got as a teenager and into my 30s for outfits I wore, how high my heels were, etc. It was so common in the 90s, 2000s.

As long as they aren't being offensive what does it matter? This guy wasn't rude. He made a crap joke.

There are all sorts of people out there, and once you accept that, the better you'll feel.

Can you imagine a woman teacher shouting this out at a strange man whilst at work? How often do you see women telling strange men to cheer up, or make unsolicited comments?

It's not always women. Ds2 was sporting a trench coat and on the train last spring (part of a show costume) and got various comments over the course of the week (Inspector Gadget was my favourite). He's also had comments about eye makeup when he's not had a chance to clean that off. He didnt particularly love it but neither did he contact the British Transport Police.

You poor thing
You must absolutely raise this with the school
There should be an enquiry, he should be reprimanded and it should go on his record.
This is unlikely to be an isolated incident and it’s quite likely other victims of abusive filmic references will come forward

He literally said "morning Blade" because she was in a leather trench coat. He didn't call her anything offensive at all. It's such a nothing comment.

The unusual crush thread was a right laugh. Women showing they can dish it back out to the men and pisstake about looks. Refreshing.

at least I dont walk around dressed as Blade.

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Yes, but in the meantime she’s put the time to good use.

She’s done the school run dressed as Selene, Elastigirl, Wonder Woman, Jean Grey and Scarlet Witch.

Well, OP didn't bother to stay up and respond, just chucked the pebble in the mill pond and left it....had a boring weekend possibly?

Lighten up FFS.

She's done a runner - blade runner.

😂

Don’t see a major issue (had to look at the photo). But if a daft comment but not sexist,racist, homophobic so I’d leave it.
This was a few months ago then really you need to let it go and get on with your life.

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