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Unnecessary comment about my outfit from male member of staff at the school - your thoughts?

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TwatAtSchool91 · 02/08/2026 21:49

I live a stones throw from a secondary school which I have to pass daily on our school run.

A male member of staff stands outside in the morning greeting the kids.

A few months ago he made a comment to me as I walked past him. It was a stupid remark, nothing vulgar or massively offensive, but it has bothered me to the extent I'm now self conscious about what I'm wearing whenever I have to go past him.

The comment he made was "morning Blade" in a mocking tone, both infront of the secondary school kids and my own.

(for reference I was wearing a belted leather trench coat and some black riding style boots)

It wasn't a friendly jibe, he was being a twat. I wouldn't give it much thought if he were a random in the street but he's stood there representing the school 😐

Would you have raised it with the school or not? Do you think it was inappropriate?

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CountBoscoTheSecondsWife · 05/08/2026 14:18

I think it's funny and I'd have laughed at overhearing it. Hope you can shake it off and not let it continue to bother you.

Illegally18 · 05/08/2026 14:54

CedarFlag · 03/08/2026 11:18

To complete Strangers? How often do you see this stuff? When did you last see a man shout out to another man, ‘come on love cheer up; it might never happen’?

😂

Henhipster · 05/08/2026 20:42

theneighboureatmysalad · 02/08/2026 22:16

What was inappropriate? It's funny and on point. It wasn't mean or unpleasant.

He could have made a comment about the Gestapo, that would have been less acceptable.

This. He might have thought he was flattering you, as in you being a cool character.

ttcat37 · 06/08/2026 08:25

You ought to write this off as a major sense of humour failure OP. His comment was hilarious, I would have belly laughed if directed at me. Perhaps need to take yourself a bit less seriously.

Are you just mad because you thought you looked mega cool in your top to toe leather ensemble and it clearly didn’t quite work?

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