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To be a bit cheesed off by this window display?

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Utterlybananas333 · 29/07/2026 23:34

Saw this on the high road today. My daughter asked what it meant bless her. The rest of the display on the other side included cross dressing obscene mannequins who had large breasts and moustaches etc. This was a charity shop that supports homelessness.

To be a bit cheesed off by this window display?
To be a bit cheesed off by this window display?
OP posts:
TheChickenRun · 30/07/2026 18:07

Utterlybananas333 · 29/07/2026 23:34

Saw this on the high road today. My daughter asked what it meant bless her. The rest of the display on the other side included cross dressing obscene mannequins who had large breasts and moustaches etc. This was a charity shop that supports homelessness.

Always entertaining to see signs denouncing the universal reality of the two sexes alongside pink and blue, the cultural symbols of sexism in colour.

a great opportunity to explain to your child about boundaries and exposure and equip her to be able to stand up for herself should the need arise.

I’ve had some useful conversations about consent and the public exposure, without consent, to adult fetishes. The most important discussion arose from the word “community” which gave me the chance to illustrate how disconnected adult expressions of “gender” are from children or young people who feel uncomfortable in their changing bodies.

cornflakecrunchie · 30/07/2026 18:14

TERF? CIS? I've had to use google a lot today.
When I was young, it was men & women..
What a world to bring kids into. So depressing, along with all the ones on trips from France & Belgium. It's not what the (normal) men in my family fought for in the war.

Datafan55 · 30/07/2026 18:21

GerryPix · 30/07/2026 18:03

Will you be "cheesed off" if your child grows up and realises they are part of the LGBTQ+ movement ?
Live and let live.
The only time someone's sexuality has anything to do with me is when sex between us is discussed

T is nothing to do with sexuality.
And the +, for instance, includes Minor Attracted Persons - to do with all of us, given what that means.

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 30/07/2026 18:26

GerryPix
Will you be "cheesed off" if your child grows up and realises they are part of the LGBTQ+ movement ?

I think "cheesed off" would almost certainly be a massive understatement if her daughter decided to chop off her breasts and take health-threatening hormones in order to try superficially to resemble a man. I think "devastated" would be more likely. Possibly "horrified".

Greyma · 30/07/2026 18:29

What is the evidence for this assertion?

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 30/07/2026 18:30

Datafan55
And the +, for instance, includes Minor Attracted Persons

That's paedophiles to most of the population. A type of sexuality it is hard to find anyone, not themselves a paedophile, to support.

(And yet when I point out how much the remaining members of the PIE were in favour of all the trans brainwashing, it is taken as bigoted of me. Sigh.)

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 30/07/2026 18:32

Greyma · 30/07/2026 18:29

What is the evidence for this assertion?

Which one?

Kalalily · 30/07/2026 18:35

Datafan55 · 30/07/2026 17:33

They get masses of compassion, including from Terfs.

This is so true. @CalishataFolkart it is not compassionate to surgically remove the breasts of a gender questioning youth. Just as it would not be compassionate to give weight loss jabs to an anorexic, as someone else pointed out. Compassion in both cases takes the form of talking to the individuals, possibly during years of therapy, and getting to the root causes of the distress.

Datafan55 · 30/07/2026 18:42

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 30/07/2026 18:30

Datafan55
And the +, for instance, includes Minor Attracted Persons

That's paedophiles to most of the population. A type of sexuality it is hard to find anyone, not themselves a paedophile, to support.

(And yet when I point out how much the remaining members of the PIE were in favour of all the trans brainwashing, it is taken as bigoted of me. Sigh.)

You really would hope that people think 'I'm standing up for padeophiles' or 'I'm standing up for men to go in the changing rooms with teenage girls' and think 'Oh, wtaf is wrong with me?' But in some cases, nope - still got to be 'inclusive' and 'kind'. Just girls and that who suffer, so hey ho.

Datafan55 · 30/07/2026 18:43

cornflakecrunchie · 30/07/2026 18:14

TERF? CIS? I've had to use google a lot today.
When I was young, it was men & women..
What a world to bring kids into. So depressing, along with all the ones on trips from France & Belgium. It's not what the (normal) men in my family fought for in the war.

The world is in dire straits, that is for sure.

Kalalily · 30/07/2026 18:44

grasschunks · 30/07/2026 15:39

I also saw double mastectomy scars on a cartoon for a costa coffee advert complete with rainbow background.

Unbelievable. Clearly the people making these campaigns have lost the ability to think. At best, they think that they are being kind and inclusive, believing it to be like gay rights, which of course it isn’t. Being gay is a physical attraction and does not require you to be a lifelong medical patient. The harm that some people do without realising. It is only when trans ideology enters your own family that you can truly understand how harmful it is.

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 30/07/2026 18:46

Datafan55 · 30/07/2026 18:42

You really would hope that people think 'I'm standing up for padeophiles' or 'I'm standing up for men to go in the changing rooms with teenage girls' and think 'Oh, wtaf is wrong with me?' But in some cases, nope - still got to be 'inclusive' and 'kind'. Just girls and that who suffer, so hey ho.

It is now acceptable for adult strangers to instruct children to keep secrets from their parents, and for adults in authority over those children to collude in keeping secrets from their parents. The members of PIE have achieved their aim of destroying child safeguarding, thanks to the trans ideology.

LeopardStar1 · 30/07/2026 19:01

The trans people I'm aware of would cringe at this virtue signalling and poorly dressed drag mannequins. It's an insult to the genuine trans people. Trust. The real trans people in my experience (and Id have to quantify what I mean by "real trans" with a definition which I'll do if anyone cares enough but I'll not bore you now) want to blend in with whatever sex they're aiming at transitioning to. So a trans man is going to look at mens clothing, and transwomen, the women's clothing. They don't go out to have tit's and a moustache and some weird pink little red riding hood outfit. They also don't need shops to "support" them. They just want what the rest of us want : decent items sold for a bargain and a real person serving them at the checkout as opposed to a AI self serve.

Datafan55 · 30/07/2026 19:15

OwlBeThere · 30/07/2026 15:40

It’s not clear at all. the OP said a mannequin with boobs and a facial hair was obscene. How does she know a person with breasts and facial hair is cis or trans? just by looking?

Normally, yes.

JennyBG · 30/07/2026 19:17

I think it’s tongue in cheek, but, if it gives someone who is hesitant, the opportunity to buy clothing without being judged, then it can only be a good thing. No one knows what their future self will turn out to be, and everyone deserves to make their own choices in life…without being mocked.

Linnende · 30/07/2026 19:25

I think the world is going mad. Must be very confusing being a child and being told you can identify as whatever you like. What is so offensive about being male or female 😒

SALaw · 30/07/2026 20:01

LeopardStar1 · 30/07/2026 19:01

The trans people I'm aware of would cringe at this virtue signalling and poorly dressed drag mannequins. It's an insult to the genuine trans people. Trust. The real trans people in my experience (and Id have to quantify what I mean by "real trans" with a definition which I'll do if anyone cares enough but I'll not bore you now) want to blend in with whatever sex they're aiming at transitioning to. So a trans man is going to look at mens clothing, and transwomen, the women's clothing. They don't go out to have tit's and a moustache and some weird pink little red riding hood outfit. They also don't need shops to "support" them. They just want what the rest of us want : decent items sold for a bargain and a real person serving them at the checkout as opposed to a AI self serve.

Where’s the backlash against those people, that seem to shout loudest? If a reasonable person is walking alongside someone in bondage gear with a “Gas Terfs” or whatever sign, why aren’t they saying “hang on you are making life considerably harder for me and I don’t support you”?

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 30/07/2026 20:17

I suspect they don't walk beside such a person, do they? Only other extremists would be prepared to, I'd've thought.

SapphireSeptember · 30/07/2026 20:19

grasschunks · 30/07/2026 15:14

@KitRange

How did they know which fetuses’ were female if sex isn’t binary

An estimated 3.1 to 6 million female fetuses have been aborted in India over the past decade due to a cultural preference for sons, leading to a significantly skewed sex ratio. The current ratio is approximately 914 girls for every 1,000 boys among children aged 0-6 years.

That's horrific. That makes me feel so sad.

TahliaBanania · 30/07/2026 20:37

sillypuss · 30/07/2026 17:59

Careful, cultural appropriation! Anyhow, most women have hairy legs and some have broad shouldered so that in itself is no explanation of anything.

The shop sign is supposed to convey that there aren't two sexes, which is of course magical thinking.

Tell your dd that "some people with mental health issues feel uncomfortable with being a woman or a man and feel more at ease presenting with what they believe the opposite sex presents as. Much of it is based on dumb stereotypes and sexism but that is how they wish to present as. I recommend we treat such people with the same basic respect as anyone else, such as the elderly, disabled, your neighbour down the street, shop assistant at Aldi, but we as a family don't believe in such stuff, as it is not factual."

That's what I did with mine and they are polite to the occasional trans person they come across e.g. teacher at school but they are completely gender critical. They don't buy any of that stuff nor do any of their peers.

How do your children address the trans teacher? Do they have to use 'Mr' or 'Mrs' etc?

grasschunks · 30/07/2026 20:38

SapphireSeptember · 30/07/2026 20:19

That's horrific. That makes me feel so sad.

It is absolutely.

Those unborn girls did not identify as female, they just were female.

Hallamlass · 30/07/2026 20:40

TahliaBanania · 30/07/2026 20:37

How do your children address the trans teacher? Do they have to use 'Mr' or 'Mrs' etc?

Where I work they have to use the preferred pronouns. So the teacher I work with is known as Ms X.
Students do get into trouble for misgendering.

SapphireSeptember · 30/07/2026 20:48

grasschunks · 30/07/2026 20:38

It is absolutely.

Those unborn girls did not identify as female, they just were female.

Indeed. We cannot identify out of our biology.

ImogenBrocklehurst · 30/07/2026 21:06

Why “bless her”? She asked a question. Don’t children usually ask questions? As @Aco8171 said: an opportunity for you to explain the concept of accepting diversity.

RunsABit · 30/07/2026 21:31

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 30/07/2026 18:26

GerryPix
Will you be "cheesed off" if your child grows up and realises they are part of the LGBTQ+ movement ?

I think "cheesed off" would almost certainly be a massive understatement if her daughter decided to chop off her breasts and take health-threatening hormones in order to try superficially to resemble a man. I think "devastated" would be more likely. Possibly "horrified".

Edited

Exactly this.

And chiming in to at least attempt to educate/ inform/ enlighten the genuinely unknowing/ stubbornly ignorant/ captured gullibles/ aggressive apologists/ utterly lost, this:

Do not conflate LGB with the TQ+ alphabet nonsense.

LGB is sexuality, TQ+ is ideology. One is proven scientific fact, the other is a dangerous obfuscation built on misogyny, fetishism and delusion.

They are not and never will be the same.

And for the hard of reading:

LGB without the T. Or Q. Or +

Edited for typo