AIBU To Point Out Opinions You Don’t See Outside Of Mumsnet …?

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So I have noticed that according to (a lot of posters on) Mumsnet:

-Transphobia is perfectly acceptable.
-Ageism is the worst/most prevalent type of discrimination going on in the uk today.
-Cheating in a relationship is tantamount to murder.
-Enrolling your children in boarding school means you don’t love them.
-Teaching is always a miserable profession, with no exceptions.

What else have you noticed is a very common MN opinion but not one you hear in real life?

I’m not trying to start an argument on the truth of any of these statements, just curious what others have noticed.

Oooh one opinion I see on Mumsnet but never see in real life is that blended families don’t work and are generally harmful to any children.

I can’t lie I completely agree with this one, I don’t believe in step parents. Both my own awful experiences and those of the people around me have confirmed this and it’s quite validating to see others that agree.

Most people aren’t putting their newborns into a separate room but next to them in their bedroom though. That doesn’t feel like a fair comparison.

What if there’s a fire?

I just don’t get this behaviour. You all can’t have been that starving to risk your childrens’ wellbeing.

It’s just madness and definitely neglectful.

Most people I know co slept.

They're a bloody sight richer than I am.

I am often shocked that a male partner that is out of work, depressed, burnt out, anxious, chronic illness, ND, has trauma etc is a freeloader and a CF that should be dumped immediately. I understand that this can be the case. However, here on MN there is no possibility it being temporary or something to work through. I think both partners should have the opportunity to turn to each other and be supported in the difficult stages. On MN it only has to last a week and the advice is LTB.
(Not referring to abuse or ongoing trauma)

Also the moment a woman isn’t working full time, regardless of her health, childcare options or other commitments she is a lazy freeloader. Any problem she faces is met with a post telling her she bought it on herself. I understand advice like “try to get back into the workforce asap” but when she is piled on for not working it gets a bit much.

When people make snarky comments about an OP having a difficult situation and also has kids she is told she shouldn’t have had them. Without access to a time machine I am not sure how she is supposed to send them back.

A male partner or relative does something that is a bit rubbish as a one off. The advice often can be to respond with extreme petty passive aggressive behaviour in response. I can’t see that serving anyone except to escalate a situation. If the relationship is an abusive one can put the poster at serious risk of harm.

Finally the lack of awareness on MN of signs and patterns of abuse, risks of harm and victim blaming. Not everyone but sometimes I think posters are being deliberately obtuse.

£100k a year earnings are average.

I don’t know anyone who would do this

I’ve never met a person in real life who could make a whole chicken and salad last a full week.

Don’t think I know anyone who earns a 6 figure salary. (Apart from the board of directors at work).

Sorry I know those aren’t “opinions” as such.

I see so many on here talking about private schools and how state schools are so bad. I didn’t even know private schools were a thing until I was a teenager. But maybe because I am from a deprived ex-mining town, I don’t even know where our nearest private school is, must be hours away. How the other half live 😅

The hatred for weddings on here. I can understand the logistics (distance, chlidfree, expensive) can be a pain (and worth a moan), but all the actual weddings I've been to I've enjoyed - its often a great way to catch up with friends/family I haven't seen in a while. But so many on here just complain about going - presumably the you're close to the bride/groom so why can't you just be happy for them? Although I do recognise some weddings can be awful.

What exactly was the point of setting up a bunch of straw men for people to beat down? Every single one of your MN proclamations is a wildly exaggerated version of what is actually said here.

I have done. Or "but they've got a cock so they are men"

Sorry-not prepared to engage with hyperbole. Very tedious.

I used to do it. Smaller hotels only. DCs are now young adults.

The complete and utter disdain for SAHP.

Given that "transphobia" in the context you seem to mean it usually means "asserting the reality and importance of biological sex" I'd say that opinion is everywhere, just no one expresses it to avoid being harangued by a minority of strident, hostile flat earthers who are unable or unwilling to grasp the debate.

You go back upstairs and get your kid. I think in a decent hotel with smoke detectors they would hopefully set the alarms off in plenty of time. 🤷‍♀️. It’s something I always used to think about and would email the tour operator before going and ask for a room on the 1st floor. My thought process being I could get back to the room quicker.

I was once in a 5 story chalet hotel when the fire alarm went off and there was a stampede of parents up the stairs. Hotel manager was having a fit and telling people not to go upstairs but they ignored him. Was a false alarm.

When Madeline McGann happened they started posting childcare staff in every corridor to “improve safety”. Was a Mark Warner type tour operator. I still used to use the baby monitor.

That an evening wedding invitation is a huge insult. I've ever felt that when I've been asked to one - colleagues, friends of friends etc.

I wasn’t being judgemental. I was describing my reality versus what I see on MN - the topic of the thread? And I have no idea what you’re talking about with “splitting bills” and “Revolut after date night”, never done either of those things with DH. Utility bills and the like are paid in full from the joint account, never split. And is ‘date night’ just going out with one’s husband? Then we just take it in turns to pay and would never bill the other person after the fact. Or if one person bought the theatre tickets, the other pays for dinner, that sort of thing.

Even if it is the minority it’s something I personally don’t hear in real life so I would agree with that poster , it’s an opinion on here that’s not representative.

That private school education isn’t a privilege

That the term Karen is highly offensive

The Labour will win a landslide every election (one out of five so fate has been correct)

I’ve also stayed in many UK hotels where leaving babies/toddlers in the room whilst you have dinner with a baby monitor is actively promoted. These are all small family friendly country house hotels, where you’re no further from your room than you would be sat at the end of your garden at home.

Have also stayed in ski hotels where everyone does the same, although they sometimes have a staff member sat on a chair in the corridor on each floor during dinner.

You must never punish a child with anything they might actually dislike.

Not giving a teen a phone is literally impossible.

The average wage is not £38k, don't be ridiculous, nobody could possibly live on that, let alone raise kids on it. Those on 60k or more are not high earners, don't be silly, we're middle, etc.

I really don't think it matters that it is actively promoted. Only because something is offered doesn't mean it's a good idea, just means it isn't a criminal offence. If something happened to the child you could not say well the hotel offered it, it would not give you much solace. It's an unnecessary risk to take just to go out for dinner. In reality unless your completely alone you won't have your eyes and ears on the monitor all the time, you will be chatting, eating drinking, maybe going up to the bar etc, need to toilet . The child could be sick and choke on it or be struggling to breathe for whatever reason. Why take the risk, I would not do this