AIBU To Point Out Opinions You Don’t See Outside Of Mumsnet …?

[D0ntB1t3]

So I have noticed that according to (a lot of posters on) Mumsnet:

-Transphobia is perfectly acceptable.
-Ageism is the worst/most prevalent type of discrimination going on in the uk today.
-Cheating in a relationship is tantamount to murder.
-Enrolling your children in boarding school means you don’t love them.
-Teaching is always a miserable profession, with no exceptions.

What else have you noticed is a very common MN opinion but not one you hear in real life?

I’m not trying to start an argument on the truth of any of these statements, just curious what others have noticed.

You’re asleep in the same house. I didn’t have mine in another room actually. The first was in with us. When we had the second we took turns to sleep in with the oldest in “his” new room and the other had the baby in “our” room. The oldest always ended up back in the bed in our room no matter who was in it until his wee brother annoyed him waking up for feeds and he flounced into his own room stating that “that boy is annoying”.

If you had a necklace worth say £250k, would you leave it on your bed in a hotel room when going out for dinner and take a monitor so you could hear if someone was trying to steal it?

Private schools - rarely worth it

Grammar schools - I wouldn't bother, he/she's not Einstein

I'm not going to book a holiday during the school holidays - it's not on, is it?

I don't expect my parent(s) to do childcare - but it's nice when they do

It's perfectly OK for my neighbours to park on the road outside my house - I mean, it's not an allocated space is it ?

Quite happy to sit apart from my OH with a child each on our travels, I really should have booked seats, and it's completely unreasonable of me to ask complete strangers to sit at the back near the toilets in a middle seat to accommodate us.

Of course it is! I have just noticed on Mumsnet it’s blown out of proportion in a way. Anyone that has cheated, for any reason, is reprehensible and deserves to be hated on. In real life I feel like there is more nuance.

OP, I totally agree re infidelity (and this is from someone who has been cheated on and grew up with cheating parents). I don't think it's always the worst thing in the world in some relationships, there are all sorts of reasons why it happens and it's not completely black and white. On here, some people act like they'd like to recreate the scene from Ryan's Daughter, if anyone dares mention they're having / had an affair.

Where did I say that I consider people who ‘have no problem with trans people’ to be trans rights activists, @Differentforgirls? I was referring specifically to trans rights activists.

People do often use it when speaking as a filler, usually when they are trying to give themselves time to think of something to say, eg: "So.... (and then what they actually wanted to talk about) ", but there's not really all that much excuse for it when writing.

I consider this extreme neglect. Whether it is criminal, I don't know. I have never even considered doing this, let alone actually done it, and I dont know anyone who has/would.

Are you being deliberately obtuse?

What, specifically, is a TRA because I get called it all the time on here.

So do I! I have never been to a protest or worked with activists to send any kind of message I just don’t hold prejudiced views about trans people and find the whole thing to be blown completely out of proportion.

I also know a lot more trans people than the average mumsnetter and it shows.

Same. Never been to a protest but have trans pals.

I think in real life people only reserve that nuance for people they know well and like. Generally cheaters are seen as the scum of the earth is my experience.