To ask ds to ask his gf to dress appropriately?

[Daisypod]

We are going to a national trust place soon and ds has asked if his relatively new gf can come. I’m fine with that but she does tend to wear very revealing clothing (skirts only covering half her bum!)
Would I be unreasonable to ask for her to dress a little more conservatively for the day? If so how would you say it?
I really try to not judge others clothing choices but honestly I think showing this much is a bit much for a family day out.

Time to practise being a good future MIL op. Take her as she is, include her, be friendly and totally ignore her clothing choice- it’s literally nothing to do with you.

"Going to idea someone hates women just because they object ti you doing whatever you klike with a disregard for everyone around you..."

You're literally referring to women choosing what clothes they wear. If me choosing what clothes I wear is "doing whatever I like", then I will do whatever I like. You object to women wearing what they want. Yikes. Have a wonderful evening.

You're completely correct OP, it isn't appropriate. The same way no one would want their sons sagging their trousers on a trip to Buckingham palace.

Does the venue have a dress code e.g. smart casual? Everyone should adhere to that.

Younger you sounds lovely

Pretty unlikely.

True, you do sometimes see men's arse cracks (occasionally women's too, but not nearly as frequently); that is similarly unpleasant. However people who do this haven't deliberately put their outfit together and chosen to dress that way. Also, you will see people's discomfort when they see it; and if their mates notice it, they will often point it out and ridicule them for their malfunction. Nobody is defending their right to present hiw they choose and blaming anybody who points it out to them - whether discreetly or mockingly - of 'shaming' or 'controlling' them.

The crazy trend for wearing trousers underneath pants was indeed ludicrous, and I'm very glad that it disappeared. That said, at least the private flesh areas were usually not on display - albeit only covered by full-covering pants... mercifully nobody was ever wearing thongs or otherwise skimpy pants with that 'look'. Also, it was acknowledged as being rebellious and ridiculous - with parents and other adults commonly berating them to stop it - nobody saw it as a valid personal style choice that should be respected and accepted as normal. I can well imagine the parent of a GF who saw it freely mentioning that the man/boy in question 'may' need to pull up his trousers.

It's difficult, because there isn't really any male equivalent with which to properly compare it - and standard male clothing options don't usually allow for or encourage deliberate boundary pushing. Inappropriately under-dressing in public only seems to be the preserve of certain young women - and the ones who do so tend to be bold enough to turn it all straight back on to the person who objects - maybe painting them as jealous and/or dull (if female); or as a pervert for looking in front of him (if male); and/or as being controlling and seeking to police other people's personal choices/identity (both).

Men showing their arse crack out is rank. Absolutely rank. Wearing a short short skirt flashing a thong and an arse is rank.

Agreed.

Yesterday I was at a train station going up the stairs to get to my platform. There was a young woman in front of me with a mini skirt that barely covered her backside.

As she started walking up the stairs in front of me I could see half of her bum cheek and her thong.

Frankly it is not a sight I wanted to see.

Whether male or female, I really don't want to see that amount of flesh on display forced on me when I am out and about.

I think it looks vulgar and it is imposing parts of your body on others that frankly are better covered.

I feel the same about men exposing their sweaty chests or their builder's bum in public spaces/shops.

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There really aren’t. I was in Kingston (London) yesterday and must have seen at least 30 teens wearing shorts so small they might as well be pants and crop tops that bared 80% of their bra. I know we all wore inappropriate things and maybe I’m just old but my mum would have grounded me for them. Lots of unbuttoned shorts too with the fly down and the crotch of their thongs showing.

Horrible .

80% of their bra and the crotch of their thongs?

That's not true is it.