To ask ds to ask his gf to dress appropriately?

[Daisypod]

We are going to a national trust place soon and ds has asked if his relatively new gf can come. I’m fine with that but she does tend to wear very revealing clothing (skirts only covering half her bum!)
Would I be unreasonable to ask for her to dress a little more conservatively for the day? If so how would you say it?
I really try to not judge others clothing choices but honestly I think showing this much is a bit much for a family day out.

I just came from a beach bar that required shirt and shoes. Sometimes there is such a thing as appropriate dress.

I agree that these skirts which flash the arse-cheeks are pretty vulgar and usually unflattering, but if that's how she rocks, then that's her choice.

If you were her mum, granny, or sister, you could say something. As the mother of her boyfriend, your lips must remained sealed. You have to accept her as she is, unless she's hurting others.

I don’t think you can dictate the footwear but can give heads up if it’s going to a lot of walking/ muddy ground/ lots of steps etc

some comments are so aggressive, the op only asked a question, she doesn’t sound particularly judgy

If the OP’s so is between the age of 13-50 he absolutely is not going to come out with drivel like that 🤣🤣🤣🤣

"I just came from a beach bar that required shirt and shoes. Sometimes there is such a thing as appropriate dress."

One of our local shops has put up a sign asking men to wear shirts.

I had the misfortune of being behind someone on an escalator who had the shortest skirt. From the view I got I can't say for definite she had any pants on.

I wouldn’t say anything, but I wouldn’t take her either. She should have a variety of clothes for different occasions like most people do. Festivals and concerts, fine to show your arse. Afternoon with bf’s mum, show some respect instead.

Does the visit involve going for a walk not on tarmac paths? If so you could say to him that it would be good to suggest she wears suitable shoes and trousers/ shorts because the trip involves walking over rough terrain. This is a practical thing rather than being judgemental

I wouldn’t mind someone saying trainers is recommended but telling me to wear jeans 😖

This summer’s batty riders are a bit much for many.

Bring a jumper to cover her bum if you go into a chapel or similar. No drama, it’s a respect thing.

I had an ex whose mum often commented that my clothing was "too bright" or "awfully colourful." I like bright colours, and I wasn't wearing neon - think coral, sunshine yellow etc. Her comments did not endear me to her.

We were all young once, so grin and bear it and enjoy the day.

It’s not worth causing any harm or embarrassment.

If you show your disapproval, has it occurred to you your DS won’t ask you again in the future?

Wot?

Don’t take her if you’re going to be embarrassed by what she wears. National Trust properties aren’t that flipping posh.

As far as the argument some say that you can wear whatever you like, there is a decency issue, today I saw more bum cheeks than I care to, hanging out from short shorts and I know that some young women don’t wear any pants under skirts, others wear thongs, i should not know this information but I had a few hundred people walk past me at an event and they were flashing too much! Saw more men’s bare chests than I wanted to too.

Why do you care! So what if her skirt is short - you’re not wearing it so not your problem. And maybe you will get some cool points for having this lass with you.

"If so how would you say it?"

How about "could you wear a skirt that covers the whole of your bum?"

Correct.

Imagine it the other way.. Ill only come if your mother doesn't wear them shorts, I think they look horrible!!

you would be fuming.. just cos you dont like what she wears doesnt mean you can change her..

Just don’t comment and let her wear whatever she wants

Ok, there is no objectively “correct” way to dress at a national trust property!

Agree
I would find a reason to not take her along.

I didn’t realise there was a dress code for going to a NT place!
Maybe I’ve been out of line for ages 😱😱

What a weird woman she sounds your clothing sounds lovely. Bright colours are nice. Glad you took no notice. Nothing to do with her anyway.
Bet she walked round in morbid black and grey all the time lol.

I am with you on this OP.

As usual you are getting a lot of comments about how this young woman should be able to dress as she wishes, blah, blah, blah...

The thing is you are allowed to have standards and not want to be around someone who might turn up with half of their backside hanging out in full view or wearing any other inappropriate clothing.

You are planning a family day out not a trip to an Only Fans convention...

I bet most of the people commenting here and trying to make you feel judgmental would change their tune very quickly if their own kids' boyfriend/girlfriend routinely wore that type of clothes.