Hubbys job at risk because of family

[Pickybitsheatwave]

DH trusted his brother with his Clubcard employee card. He gave it to his partner to use as she was doing the food shops. She’s been caught twice stealing with a trolley full and hubby is now being investigated at work. Apparently BIL knew she had a habit with stealing as he already pre warned her not to use the card if she is going to be stealing. I should add that they are very comfortable and don’t need to be stealing. She is the other woman and I have never been able to gel with her. Now i can’t bare the thought of being around her even more. DH is in a management role so i can imagine they are going to take this very seriously.

I feel like DH is downplaying it all because he doesn’t want to rock the boat but I am fuming!!!

Am I over reacting? Hubby says he didn’t want to tell me because he knew I’d over react. She’s potentially put my husband at risk of losing his job.

Who cares.

Aldi is better.

I think it pays its staff better too.
Win-win

She effectively did. If he gave it to his brother to use legally, and she took it and used it illegally, that is surely the same thing?
If I lend my brother my car and his girlfriend goes speeding in it, I'm not to blame.
Even if the husband shouldn't have lent the card, for the girlfriend to go and do something that is absolutely illegal-as opposed to it should really be a different card- is totally wrong. Your husband should say she stole it (she did didn't she-he never said she could have it?) as she's a thief anyway.
She's also really stupid-paying for some and still stealing?

Ultimately it is DH’s fault. He is a manger himself he should know the rules, you have to live together to use the benefits of his employee clubcard and he has given his brother the card which is against the rules. It is his responsibility and if he gets fired, it’s his fault.

Obviously brothers partner is in the wrong for stealing and using the clubcard for part of the times but that’s sort of not the issue here.

Your DH has been caught out

The brother wasn’t using it legally either. Op’s dh could have applied for a family card for him to use, but didn’t bother.

Very stupid of your DH to let his brother use the card.

OP I am sorry this has happened. I can’t imagine having a thief like this in the family. Your husband made a mistake and now it could be very stressful for you all. I would struggle to remain in touch with your in-laws in this situation.

Nope- if the conditions of the card are: you cant lend it to others then the OP's husband is 100% at fault here.

Your analogy would be more accurate if a condition of your car insurance was:- you are NOT allowed to lend your car to anyone else to drive and you did it anyway. Doesnt matter what they do with your car, if you werent supposed to allow someone else to use it then the fault is with you and you alone.

He'll almost certainly get sacked. I know someone who was sacked for saying they'd used more of their own bags than they had to get extra 'green' points. They'd only gained about £4 in points when they were caught.

It will be treated a theft of whatever the value of the discount is that your ILs got that they weren't entitled to. And any theft is a sackable offence.

Your sister in law is a theif and her husband condones her stealing. I would want absolutely nothing to do with them and your husband is deluded, thinking you are over reacting.

And Sainsbury's. The only person I ever let use my Sainsbury's staff discount was my ex-husband (obviously before we split up.)

@Pickybitsheatwave what are the wider family saying about what she has done and how he likely will lose his job which affects you and the children?

That's no longer the case. Tesco changed their policy two or three years ago to allow the second card holder to be at a different address.

If he loses his job, it’s a direct result of his own actions, not hers.

If he loses his job I assume you will be accused of kicking him when he's down if you said you told him this would happen.

How long does the investigation take? Have you heard anything yet?

I.wpuld have nothing to do with SiL from now on.

I hope the OP comes back and updates everyone with the inquiry findings. I doubt this could regarded as fraud, but Tesco could possibly insist it’s gross misconduct. The theft of goods is a side issue and not one that the OP’s husband is implicated in - as far as we know. I’m keen to find out what happens!

“Illegally”?! Honestly it’s only a staff discount card. Tesco deal with it every day no need to be dramatic!

Tesco have always been very strict about employee discount. If he has breached the terms and conditions of the card ie let someone else use it then there’s a high chance they will go down the disciplinary route. He is responsible for this as he would have been told the rules and you are also given a paper copy when you sign for the card. He needs to take accountability: the misuse would not have occurred if he hadn’t given his brother the card to use.

The card is more akin to a company car that is for the exclusive use of the employee. If you let your brother use that car, knowing full well that doing so is a direct violation of strict company policy, then you are the one that is responsible for that.

The theft is a separate issue entirely, and frankly irrelevant. He would be in the same situation even if she hadn’t stolen. He should not lie and claim the card was stolen, as they will be going through all his previous transactions and checking CCTV. They will see that this is something he has repeatedly sanctioned.

That stores deal with theft every day doesn't make it any less illegal. Your comment makes you sound like you have no problem with a 5 finger discounter.

Maybe he should. He knows the rules surely.

His BS about you over reacting would piss me right off too.

the poster not talking about shoplifting. They’re talking about misuse of staff discount

Which is not the no big deal they’re implying. It’s gross misconduct.

You’re taking the piss. I said saying he was “using the card ILLEGALLY” was dramatic.

gross misconduct is a big deal for the person being sacked. It’s not actually a big deal, in the big wide world

I’m taking the piss?
I genuinely have no idea what your point is. Gross misconduct allows for instant dismissal, of course this is only a problem for the guy being sacked, we all know the rest of humanity remains unaffected
What on earth are you actually on about?