Hubbys job at risk because of family

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DH trusted his brother with his Clubcard employee card. He gave it to his partner to use as she was doing the food shops. She’s been caught twice stealing with a trolley full and hubby is now being investigated at work. Apparently BIL knew she had a habit with stealing as he already pre warned her not to use the card if she is going to be stealing. I should add that they are very comfortable and don’t need to be stealing. She is the other woman and I have never been able to gel with her. Now i can’t bare the thought of being around her even more. DH is in a management role so i can imagine they are going to take this very seriously.

I feel like DH is downplaying it all because he doesn’t want to rock the boat but I am fuming!!!

Am I over reacting? Hubby says he didn’t want to tell me because he knew I’d over react. She’s potentially put my husband at risk of losing his job.

I don't understand. How was she both shoplifting and using the card?

It sounds as though he's put his own job at risk by letting his brother have his card.

Doing a big shop paying for a few items then scanning DH’s card to get even more discount! I think he’s going to lose his job.

Why did he let his brother use the card?

Is he allowed to let family members use the discount? If he is, then I don't really see how he can be held responsible if they steal stuff.

You can order one for a family member but he never did so hubby gave him his.

True. It all hinges on whether he's allowed to let family members use the card.

In that case the prospect of losing his job is down to his own actions.

You can have a second card for a family member, why didn't he do that? What card do you use when you shop? You should have your own or are you using his too? You can't do that with colleague discount.
The best thing to do would be to say the sister in law stole his card she owes him that much

OP, if your DH has an employee club card that gives him extra perks for being employed by (I assume) Tesco, surely it’s non-transferable, so that he absolutely should not have given it to his brother in the first place. It’s one thing for your DH to do a bit of shopping for his DB, and quite another to let him not only have possession of the card, but pass it along to his partner. I’m sorry to say, OP, that your DH has put himself at risk of losing his job by abusing an employee’s perk. The fact that your husband’s brother knew and seemingly condoned his partner’s stealing just makes it even more stupid of your DH to have entrusted his brother with his card.

Several supermarkets have the rule of the members of the family that have the discount card must live with you as part of your family.

I know for both M&S and ASDA it is a dismissal situation.

They all sound like they are lacking in any sense or decency

It does sound like there is at least an element of flexibility with the use. At least it is not strictly for the employee only. I would just deny all knowledge and point out that the shopping she did pay for was on her own bank card and nothing to do with him. Keep his powder dry on the brother and his wife being known to be untrustworthy.

My late mum worked for Tesco the rules were the colleague clubcard discount was only for family members who lived with you. But you couldn’t give them the card to use you had to go with them. A second card could be ordered but it was usually only for a spouse. I’ll be surprised if they’ve changed the rules. What DH has done is gross misconduct

Bad move on Dh's part but given be gave it his brother to use only could he report it as unauthorised usage to police ( a bit like if it was a credit card.) It will make no difference regarding the actually transaction but at least will show that he had not consented. Clutching at straws admitted!

I sympathise OP but your husband has put himself in this position by giving his card to his brother (which I assume isn’t permitted). If he’s a manager he’s not going to be able argue he didn’t know the rules so it’s not looking good. I suggest he apologises profusely, makes it clear it won’t happen again, he’s learned his lesson, and they might, just might, go with a warning.

Well that was a stupid move wasn’t it? Your DH knew your SIL had previous stealing incidents but still gave his card to his DB? He’s now probably going to find himself dismissed. Why are you blaming the SIL when he shouldn’t have given the card in the first place? No she shouldn’t be stealing but I would assume there’s term and conditions of employment attached to the discount card your DH has. This is your DH’s fault for giving his card in the first place.

Maybe as thieves they stole this card too? …..and your DH learns never to be so stupid again and protects his job

Surely if she's been caught while using his card, they know it's not him stealing? And he could just say that it was used without his permission?

He’s a manager, he knows the rules and he broke them, which is effectively stealing from the company.
Yes, he should lose his job.
However, if he says it was taken from the hallway table without his knowledge, so didn’t think to report it, he might get away with a warning.
Tesco then might decide to involve the police for theft if the card though, at which point he’d be caught lying and lose his job anyway.
I’d be livid with him, BIL and SIL.

Why you blaming her? Your dh is at fault here and he’s the one who’s risked his job. Stupid man.

No hubby didn’t know, When he chatted with BIL he told DH that he warned her not to steal if she’s using DH card. We never knew she was a serial shoplifter! But yes hubbys fault but he has always been able to trust his brother so this is a shock.

She’s got a trolley full of stuff, but only paid for a few bits using self scan and used the discount card on the transaction.

So she’s been caught thieving whilst using the discount card.