AIBU to object after he assumed he and his daughter would move in?

[Trombolice]

Name changed for this.

Been seeing someone for around a year and a half. This morning he casually dropped it into conversation that his daughter might have to move schools when they move. I asked where he was moving to and he said “I mean when we move in together?”

I said “who said anything about moving in together??” So he said “well not now obviously but at some point we will surely?” So I said “and where are you assuming we’ll live?”

Long story short he had it in his head that he and his daughter would be moving in to my house. His rationale is that I have “so much more space” and much more space than I need and it’s selfish to not want to share it.

I said I have no intention of having anyone live with me! He’s now gone off on a major strop saying I have too many unused bedrooms and it’s “unfair” etc

I think he has got his daughter believing they will be moving in to my house too. They live in a two bedroom house.

AIBU??

Exactly what I was going to say. Good use of alarm emoji too 👏

Not to mention that he called her selfish and unfair.

You could end up like the poster on another thread in a few years, where his daughter will be ringing you with her new boyfriend demanding that your house is left to her as her inheritance when her dad dies so she can boot you out into the street!

He has got it all worked out , hasn’t he ?
Free accommodation , cook , cleaner, nanny and sex on tap
The audacity

It seems to be so common now that men expect to move into a woman's home. This was an issue when I was dating in my 40s/50s. At that age a lot of single men were living in one bed flats, at best. Some were in studios or house shares. I get it, we live in London and it's hard so I didn't judge. But ultimately I don't want to live with anyone again and, ultimately, I think these men are looking for a home. It made things feel unequal and it's hard to know how much they like you and how much they like your home!

Tbh I think it’s fair enough to maybe think about the idea of living with your gf/bf in the future if you’re building a life together. It’s not fair to just decide whose house that will be without a discussion or a talk about whether it’s something you both want

Rent-free too?

A year and a half and he's got a kid and already wanting to move into your place because it's bigger.

He's not in it just for you, he's got his greedy eyes on your property. He showed what it's about when he got mad about you saying no to his assumption he and his kid would be moving in.

Dump. He's extremely unreasonable to be making any kind of assumptions about moving in in the first place. Moving in with his kid, come on. He's looking for a bangmaidnanny with a nice home. Now you know.

This assumption would massively piss me off too!

I don't think he's necessarily a cocklodger OP. Just that he's got a sense of entitlement thats all.

Selfish not sharing your space- CF!!!

He’s shown his hand as a cocklodger. Bin.

Isn’t that the same thing ?

Check out PithyBeaker's posts for how it would end up.

Starts here:
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5513388-aibu-to-think-blended-family-life-is-draining-us-all

Another freeloading cunt

I'd be wondering what's going on with His own house here, does he rent? Alarm bells if he is. They could end up on your doorstep anyway.

The one good thing about this is that he let you know his plan/assumption well before he'd got his bags packed. Kick him to the kerb - and beyond,

God, next he will expect you to be a live in babysitter. Get rid of this one.

Sod that for a game of soldiers! Kick this one to the kerb, OP. He's a user

Except the husband in that case agreed with the OP that the daughter was completely unreasonable.

Well at least you know his plan for you and your home.

Cheap housing and a skivvy aupair to do the grunt work.

Unless you are desperate for a man, like most women who entertain guys like this tend to be, rethink this relationship.

His entitlement is most distasteful as is his belief you owe him housing🙄.

Major ick.

And egged on by a CF boyfriend who was in ‘finance’ !!

I'd be wondering if he got together with me for my big lovely house with too much space, my money I greedily hoard for myself, and all that time I selfishly spend on myself when I could be someone else's nanny and housekeeper.

Hills are that way, @Trombolice >>>>> RUN!

OP how old is his daughter ? Have you ever heard the term nanny with a fanny ?

I mean it's not unreasonable to think that you might move in together at some point.

Or that it would be to yours if it would be suitable & convenient.
(Maybe not if his daughter would need to move schools).

But this is hilarious much more space than I need and it’s selfish to not want to share it.for everyone.