AIBU to object after he assumed he and his daughter would move in?

[Trombolice]

Name changed for this.

Been seeing someone for around a year and a half. This morning he casually dropped it into conversation that his daughter might have to move schools when they move. I asked where he was moving to and he said “I mean when we move in together?”

I said “who said anything about moving in together??” So he said “well not now obviously but at some point we will surely?” So I said “and where are you assuming we’ll live?”

Long story short he had it in his head that he and his daughter would be moving in to my house. His rationale is that I have “so much more space” and much more space than I need and it’s selfish to not want to share it.

I said I have no intention of having anyone live with me! He’s now gone off on a major strop saying I have too many unused bedrooms and it’s “unfair” etc

I think he has got his daughter believing they will be moving in to my house too. They live in a two bedroom house.

AIBU??

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5538910-consultation-on-unmarried-couples-sharing-assets-when-they-break-up?page=3&reply=152749190

There’s a consultation on unmarried couples sharing assets if they cohabit for three years or have a child. Might be worth considering.

It is natural progression of 'most' relationships. The OP hasn't said, but if she never has any intention of living with him, then I think it should be spoken about earlier - within the first 3 months of the relationship. It doesn't have to be difficult. A casual comment - 'Just an FYI - I'll never live with another man again as I'm very happy with my setup and our relationship' - so he knows where he stands.

I maintain that saying this 1.5 years in would be a shock to me, as in the vast majority of cases, progression would mean living together at some point.

I will re-iterate that expenses should be 50:50 when/if that happens.

It’s another version of the Script isn’t it. Manipulative bastards.

Well he thought he was getting his feet under the table didn't he.

I started a thread in January about my cocklodger loser and before I dumped him, he wanted me to buy him a car. We'd been together for a couple of months. I don't even drive myself.

Ironically, this loser's surname was Carr.

Weird.

For the best seeing as there's currently a live consultation asking if the law should be changed
to give those who move in rights over your finances if they stay 3 years.

What’s happened since then, @Trombolice? Is he still saying you are being unfair?!

School walking distance wouldn’t be a problem tho ….
You could chauffeur her to school and back 😂😂😂😂

Oh yes that would be handy...and expected I imagine 😆

Can you link this thread pls or share the title? 🙏 Thanks

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/thirtydaysonly/5536138-dsds-new-partner-is-now-telling-dh-to-get-legal-advice-about-our-house

@MyCottageGarden Part 2 of the thread

30 days only do disappeared?

THANK YOU!

Run a mile OP.