AIBU we don’t want to see your bra

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Just seen a woman wearing a red boob tube with a grubby white strapped bra. If she can’t find a strapless bra that fits, why buy and wear boop tubes or any other clothing that shows off bra straps. Not a good look.

Why do women think it’s ok to wear clothes like this

Mind your business

I wear strapless dresses and bras with straps. I've got big boobs and I can wear what I want. Women have boobs. Some of us need the support of straps. Someone call the police.

The men who do this are
. skinny or have a massive beer belly
. Covered with tattoos

Much less likely now more women wear trousers or in hot weather shorts. To have the benefit of pockets or stop the possibility of upskirting.

I did see a guy in Greggs the other day who was topless, and very buxom. I could see his moobs from behind.
But I was mad at him anyway because him and his partner seemed to think there was a 'buy 1, get 8 free' deal in there (shoplifting).

Why do you have to be so judgemental, personally think you should keep your nose out and get on with your own life clearly isnt interesting enough.

Must admit to wearing a strappy top today with bra straps but if I went out I’d put a shirt over my shoulders.

strapless bras don’t seem to lift me and my boobs look weird

some people just have low standards for themselves

I had my bra straps on show today. I always do when it's warm, and a lot when it's not. What are you going to do about it apart from crying on the internet?

Snowflake.

That stick must be mighty uncomfortable in this weather. Might want to pull it out a bit.

What I find odd is a grown woman going out of her way to come post this on Mumsnet , maybe just grow up and mind your own business.

What's the consensus on bums in g strings, with weird non skirts that don't cover them? And I don't mean short skirts that are a little bit too short, I mean kind of frilly belts that only cover the top few inches so literally about three quarters of the arse is right out there? As streetwear, not swimwear. I was out last night and saw a lot of young girls wearing this so it's obviously an intentional fashion.

I don't think visible bra straps look great sartorially but they're just shoulder straps at the end of the day, nothing obscene or anything. I'm not a fan of thong swimwear but at the pool or beach, ok, it's swimwear. Don't like those stupid scrunch bum leggings either but it looks like they've mostly had their day and they didn't bother me either. Something about arses out in a city centre, though, seemed different. Am I wrong?

Needless to say, they're absolutely no excuse to harass anyone (fortunately I didn't see any of that, hopefully it didn't happen).

Yes, plenty of men with things on display, why is it always women calling women? There is enough pressure on our appearance as it is.

It is because women are not allowed to be "scruffy" and they have to be acceptable and presentable at all times !

I also find it annoying. I realise its not life or death stuff but sometimes I look at pictures from the 1940s and 50s and am astounded at how smartly people dressed. They really took pride in their appearance, even if they had one coat and two dresses. Now we have access to so much cheap fast fashion and yet people still dress with so little respect for themsleves or others.

I dress for me, and I wear what I am comfortable in. It s nothing to do with a lack of self respect for myself or other people.

You know, sometimes women struggle to get out the door some days so.wear what they have to hand it has nothing to do with "lack of self respect" but as long as their clothes are pretty then that is all that matters!

What other people wear (or don't wear) is none of my business. If you don't like, don't look

This thread OP is a great example of how standards have slipped and people don’t give a shit any more. It’s well beyond a grubby bra strap. It has completely permeated our society.

why do women wear clothes like this?
Why are women sanctimonious pricks?
Why don’t women carry on with their day when seeing something that has literally no impact on them whatsoever?
So many questions we will never have answers to. Best to just enjoy your day, OP

Why does it bother you ? It's hardly obscene to show a bra strap. Maybe not look if it offends you so much

There is a tiny bit of my bra strap on show today but I’m wearing a fairly thick strapped dress
if I can’t accidentally show any bra strap at any time it really limits my summer wear but I don’t think this looks horrendous

This thread is a great example of the way most people have stopped obsessing over 'what people will think', which is great. Now to get over the obsession with social class and school uniform and then we'll be getting somewhere.

There's a difference between having a bra strap slightly visible under a sleeveless top and deliberately choosing to wear a boob tube with a normal (grubby) bra. People on here who are pretending it's the same thing or that it doesn't matter or the problem is with the person who notices and thinks it lacks self respect, are being disingenuous. We all notice and form opinions based on how people present themselves to the world - clothes matter and we all know it.

Obviously she has the right to wear whatever she likes, but other people do have to look at us when we are out in public, so I think that being clean and decently dressed is something we owe to other people, as well as to ourselves.

It's not only women judging women - I don't want to see men with no tops on, sweaty, grubby clothes, manky feet on display in sandals, stinky people, greasy hair, or people's underwear. Male or female.