To be sick of my hobbies being judged differently just because I’m fat?

[hobbiesevademe]

Basically just the question in my title.

I run, but slowly. Of course the fact I’m slow in some moral failing and I must aim to lose as much weight as possible and get faster. But if a skinny person is a slow runner, it’s something that’s praised and respected.

I bake, really bloody good cakes. And it’s obviously because I like eating cake, right 🙄 but if someone skinny bakes an impressive cake, it’s a work of art.

I sew, and it’s grandma-ish and frumpy. But if a skinny person sews their own clothes it’s cool, sustainable and “cottage core”

I like sports and it must be to get guys, but when a skinny girl likes the same sports it’s cool and she’s accepted.

i read, and it’s “lonely” and a bit pathetic.

im a bit sick of being labelled negatively for everything I bloody do. I feel like I can’t win.

That's not what the phrase means. Hth.

Just to clarify, you think someone told your to get a life as you were sewing (something I’d also assume as jokey) is because your fat?

Sorry but as someone who has always been slim (except for pregnancy & medication related weight gain) I do find the term "skinny" offensive. It is rarely meant as a compliment. Skinny is not "a fact". It is both a subjective and judgmental term. I wouldn't call someone "fat" but I would say that they were overweight. There's a difference. And I agree with other posters: who are these people who are judging you? Have you actually had this said to your face? Or are you simply projecting?

I am fat and I bake, sew, crochet, knit, read.

I have never felt judged and think you are projecting.

Who are these people that are judging you this way? You need to get them out of your life and appreciate yourself for you! People who look down on other people will find any reason. If not weight, then hair colour, partner choice, accent, car etc. That's a them problem! Also, if you need appreciation for baking, feel free to bring me all of your cakes!! 💓

I think it may be general self esteem issues. You don’t like the way you look and this can make a person lack overall confidence and believe everyone is judging them or staring at them. I’ve felt this way too in the past when overweight, I remember actually crying once after taking DC swimming because I was utterly convinced I was being laughed at. In hindsight, I think they were laughing at something totally different and I also wasn’t the only overweight person there by any means. It’s in your head, basically.