AIBU? Hotel room alone?

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I went away last month for 1 night with work, due to planning an event, in Liverpool, I’m from London.

the event week is here, and now I’ve got 2 nights away, Tuesday - Thursday.

I hated the 1 night I did a few weeks ago, I couldn’t sleep, barely slept Infact,took me ages to fall asleep and when I did, I was tossing and turning every 2 hours.

I get scared about someone breaking in or something ridiculous and I just can’t relax, the bed is unusual. I hate it.

I don’t want to wish my life away, but I want it to be 9am Thursday morning and I’m already on the train home.

ugh

AIBU?

That's my dream. I don't catch a break at home with the kids. So yes YABU in my opinion

You don’t sound well travelled if a hotel room is making you feel this way ?
Maybe see it as an opportunity, rather than worrying about things that probably won’t happen !

Would a doorstop or other security measure help you fel safer?

I also hate sleeping away from home, absolutely hate it. YANBU.

I stay in hotels for work sometimes and I absolutely love it 😄

I am a worrier too.

You can buy a cheap metal device that fits to the hotel room door that stops anyone being able to open it from outside even with a pass key (I’ve been robbed in a hotel room by someone using a pass key so I do worry).

Push the chair up against the door if you're afraid of a possible intruder.

Will you be spending time in the evening with people from the event? If not, get yourself some nice things to eat and drink, something you've been wanting to read on your tablet, warm shower and stretch out on the bed in your dressing gown.

Don't worry in advance about not sleeping. Strange bed, stress of having to do the event, might keep you awake. Just tell yourself it's no big deal and you can catch up when you get home.

What exactly are you worried about?
(are you at the ACT?)

No idea if you're being unreasonable but it seems an excessively disproportionate response to a few nights away in a hotel. Unless something unpleasant has happened to you in the past, just look on it as a mini holiday. Bath or shower as you like, watch what you want on telly in bed, go for a wander around the city in the evening and find somewhere to eat. I love a work trip away.

An old fashioned rubber wedge doorstop on the inside of the hotel room door will stop anyone being able to push it open when you're in there.

Could you try to make yourself sleep better by making the place feel more like home? Room spray, a pillow case you're familiar with, making your usual hot drink before bed, hot water bottle, reading your book for a bit before turning the light out?

YABU. You’re an adult. Get yourself together.

I bring a door wedge when I travel, or if I forget wedge a chair and balance my keys on the door handle.

I use one of these if I don't feel the door is safe enough:

This is so incredibly dangerous

I just had 9 nights away with work in 4 different hotels. It was amazing. Slept badly one night but put that down to delayed jetlag. Otherwise absolutely loved it.

Totally depends on the hotel..

Me too!

I always try to get a room with a fabulous shower or a nice bath, I take a face mask and nice toiletries and I scope out somewhere brilliant for food nearby. Then I take full advantage of work paying for my meal and have a little pamper evening usually accompanied by some kind of delicious dessert eaten in bed with a movie on.

Honestly OP, talk yourself down as much as possible, and get used to staying in hotels.

You know your fears are irrational, try and see it in a different light.

Take calming pillow spray, little cosy home comforts.

You are a professional woman important enough to be despatched to an event in Liverpool - stand tall, be proud of yourself and take on the world.

And have fin with your colleagues or networking acquaintances - Liverpool is fab!

Dd has to travel for college every couple of months. Her first time was when she was 16. Alone, three hours away from us, didn't know a soul.
I asked dh to remind reception she was a16yr old female on her own and to show her how the door locked.
She slept like a baby. I didn't.

Get a door wedge for peace of mind- but you'll be fine. Enjoy the alone time!

You’re safer in the worst hotel in the ‘Pool than anywhere in that London.

Aren't the door wedges a bit dangerous in case of a fire? Stop you getting out quickly if you're panicking and stop anyone breaking in easily to rescue you. I'm not but, if I was to worry about anything, it'd be fire rather than someone getting into my room when I'm in there.

Why do you think someone is more likely to break into your hotel than your home?

Put a chair with things on it in front of the door, that way if someone tried to get in you’ll hear them.

Put your phone by your bed so you can dial 999 in an emergency.

If you have a shop close by, buy a door wedge or google a make shift one.

The worst thing that will happen is someone does break in (literally so rare) but you’ll hear them and can grab your phone within seconds.

I have spent the best part of 40 years staying in hotels for work, sometimes all week. I draw the line at anything in the Britannia chain as they really are dumps but otherwise I make the most of it.

I understand not getting the best night sleep in a new bed but for me the second night is much better

You felt all that just because you had to stay in a hotel? Do you never go anywhere then? Must be a very boring life.