AIBU? Hotel room alone?

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I went away last month for 1 night with work, due to planning an event, in Liverpool, I’m from London.

the event week is here, and now I’ve got 2 nights away, Tuesday - Thursday.

I hated the 1 night I did a few weeks ago, I couldn’t sleep, barely slept Infact,took me ages to fall asleep and when I did, I was tossing and turning every 2 hours.

I get scared about someone breaking in or something ridiculous and I just can’t relax, the bed is unusual. I hate it.

I don’t want to wish my life away, but I want it to be 9am Thursday morning and I’m already on the train home.

ugh

AIBU?

Nasty, unhelpful comment.

If it helps I know women are not put on the ground floor, just make sure you locked the door and take ear plugs.
TV to yourself, bed to yourself, you don't have to make it? Heaven. For me anyway.
Due to that thing at the travel lodge women are put on 1st floor. I've a friend who works at premier she told me.

Putting things by the door is such awful advice

take ear plugs

Not a good idea. You won't hear the fire alarm.

Lets swap places! I'd love 2 nights of peace, long baths, room service, no one to make snacks for or remind to brush their teeth x 100000.

Have you lived on your own before? It's pretty restrictive not to be able to sleep in a place by yourself.

I've spent countless nights alone in hotels for work and leisure and have just spent many weeks in hospital self catering accommodation on my own to receive specialist care away from my home area. Sometimes you just need to get on with things. I'm currently planning a solo camping trip.

Sorry, can't get on board with this. I am away for two nights with work next week and I can't wait! I love my DH dearly, but time in a hotel by myself is an actual dream!

Sounds like heaven in my opinion. I love a hotel room to myself!

Of course you will!

I stay away with work a lot and often have a dreadful night's sleep the first night in the hotel. You have my sympathy. I do always double lock the door and put the chain or other restrictor device on. I always find the rooms are too hot so I take the duvet cover off the duvet and use it as kind of a top sheet. Then I can put the duvet on top if I'm cold in the night. You can tell Reception ahead of your arrival if you are a lone female traveller and they have things they do to make you feel safer like not announcing your room number when they check you in, and giving you the option of having a room near an exit if you want.
I do also stay in Liverpool often and it is a very friendly city with some cracking restaurants which I often dine in alone, although it did take a bit of getting used to.
Sending you chill out vibes for a couple of nice nights in.

YANBU. I travel a lot for work and I’ve stayed in some places where I was completely at ease and others that put me on edge. Mostly due to being made feel uncomfortable by other guests, or by the hotel design/layout.

Always double lock your door, and always have a look at the fire exit route.

Think about things that might make you feel safer - eg. request a room with a spy hole, close to the lift, bring your own pocket torch, a mini speaker if you like to put on your own music, etc. Reception/concierge will look after you if you ask for assistance and say you’re on your own (eg recommending a restaurant, getting you a taxi.)

I hope in time it can become more enjoyable for you.

Was it a dodgy hotel? Why don’t you stay at a different one see if it feels better?

I love nights in a hotel room. Love them. Peace and quiet and a good bed.

I love being away at a hotel. I never fear for my safety. But often there’s a way to double lock the door? I’m reluctant to suggest a physical barrier in case there was an emergency and management has to get the door open which occurs much more frequently.

I’ve just booked two weeks away on my own in a hotel, can’t bloody wait. I also travel once a month for work and I love it.

Take your pillow from home - it tricks my brain into thinking I’m at home in my own bed.

I’m another one who loves a hotel stay on my own. I get to do it for work fairly regularly.

I am a very light sleeper, so I absolutely don’t have to worry about not hearing fire alarms/people evacuating the hotel. I stick a door wedge under the door.

If you don’t have one, push a towel under the door and ram a chair up against it.

Bloody hell, how good do you think earplugs are and how quiet do you think the fire alarm is going to be?! 😁

What is stressing you out?

If it is security a door wedge is a good idea.

If it is just the unfamiliar environment then download a good audio book or podcast and put it on sleep timer to listen to while you drop off - it has to be sufficiently entertaining that you listen to it rather than your own thoughts.

If it is eating alone, take a book or kindle with you to a restaurant if you will feel less awkward with something to do. Eating somewhere like Leon as opposed to a more formal table service option can be a good idea, it is like tasty and nutritious fast food. Or order room service or go to m&s and get a hotel room picnic.

best thing I ever invested in..just a few dollars many years ago, as you can see it has been well used. The flat part goes in where the door latch is, then the pin thru it. No one can open door from outside .

I spend 2 weeks of every month in a hotel for work. Some are better than others, of course. I avoid the ones made out of cardboard and double sided sticky tape!

Do get a grip. You’re a grown adult.

You can use a wedge it's the device up thread, but if you become seriously ill with a medical emergency or that's a true, then you've massively increased your risk.

A chair nearby so it'll make a noise is a better idea if you are really worried about it, as people can still come in during an emergency and you can still easily escape in a fire.

Saying that, I've only I've done this since children and it was bliss. I sat in the bubble bath until it went cold, eating a huge tub of ice cream. Then watched crap TV in bed before starfishing.

Wedge the chair behind the door if you're worried. Editing as realised you've still got time to prime yourself a door wedge which would be even better.

I would also suggesting finding a reasonably unexciting but still relatively interesting audiobook or podcast and listening to that while you try and get off to sleep. It's good to distract yourself from your thoughts if they're intrusive.

Not nice. She is stressed and needs a little support and encouragement, not a put down!