AIBU? Hotel room alone?

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I went away last month for 1 night with work, due to planning an event, in Liverpool, I’m from London.

the event week is here, and now I’ve got 2 nights away, Tuesday - Thursday.

I hated the 1 night I did a few weeks ago, I couldn’t sleep, barely slept Infact,took me ages to fall asleep and when I did, I was tossing and turning every 2 hours.

I get scared about someone breaking in or something ridiculous and I just can’t relax, the bed is unusual. I hate it.

I don’t want to wish my life away, but I want it to be 9am Thursday morning and I’m already on the train home.

ugh

AIBU?

YABU! Solo hotel stays are brilliant!
All these people saying they do it for work trips - I just randomly book myself into a hotel in a "new to me" city on a weekend sometimes for a bit of me time and mini holiday. The joys of the kids being young grown ups now.😁

Double - or triple in your case-trouble.

Last time I stayed away and got *zero" sleep was before an in-law's funeral which meant staying overnight.
And, no, I could not get out of it.
(Contrary to some mn views, there are some events you cannot get out of going to without a damned good reason.)

The stress of the funeral coupled with being away was double trouble.

Honestly I'm at the point where if I manage to get a few hours of unconsciousness when I'm away from home, I'm grateful.

Next time I have to stay overnight, I'm going to try those cooling pads to the back of the neck.
Something about the vagus nerve being stimulated to rest mode.

I don’t think anyone’s fears should be judged as unreasonable (think of all the completely safe things that terrify some - spiders, buttons!)

but OP you’re clearly rattled and know it is not entirely logical. Firstly you know that getting past this worry will help you in future so it’s definitely worth doing all you can.

Security worries are not crazy. Like worrying about fires it is not groundless however unlikely. Ask questions of the hotel about security - eg many have a security check ‘loop’ on the door - that acts like a chain preventing access - and some don’t. They add safety without making things unsafe. That could put your mind at rest a little.

Next concern is the discomfort & all the suggestions already made about familiar items & relaxing/luxe feel are good.

Lastly whether you have to socialise for work or not I would suggest soft drinks only. Keep a clear head. These two nights are just the next step toward building your confidence. Hope it goes really well.

This is the same OP also stressing about hantavirus isolation 11 miles away from her hotel. She needs help to manage her anxiety, not indulgence and validation

Can’t sleep. Ugh

This 💯

I never fully sleep my first night in a hotel room but try to doze. I do this by having the room very dark and use earplugs. I tend to close my eyes and maybe rewrite mentally a part of a book I have read or a film I have watched. I find I tend fall into a light sleep doing this.

Did you manage to sleep?

I got about 3 hours I just kept stirring, it was more the unfamiliar bed than feeling unsafe though, so hopefully I sleep more tonight

3 hours is not bad.

Hopefully you sleep more tonight. 💐💐

I find a podcast helps me drift off.

You've made it! And you've slept more than nothing. It's definitely one of those things that you get better at the more you do it.

That's fine, people can cope with one poor night's sleep. You'll be tireder and sleep better tonight.

I love staying in hotels but I don't always sleep well on the first night.

I've got a night in a hotel tonight, just me from my company there. So I will be with you in solidarity. I do rather enjoy a night away though.

Just been googling the options for my tea. I live in quite a rural area so eating out and takeaway options are poor. I love to get something tasty and different from the norm whilst I am away

Yes but for anything bad to happen as a result of that would be rare. There would usually be absolute embarrassment on both sides and if someone walked in on you undressed that would be uncomfortable of course. Caveat by me that, as I said in an earlier post I had someone break into my room to sexually assault me so someone accidentally coming in whilst it would spike my adrenaline like mad well it’s all relative!