Aibu to feel jealous of my neighbour

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We’re both single parents, she has 2 children aged 12 and 2. I have an 8yo and one on the way.

We’ve both lived in our houses for the same amount of time around 8 years so I know her quite well. I work 4 days a week until 8pm plus over time, I do a course alongside my job as I work in pharmacy and have to complete a 3 year course so I can be a qualified dispenser and hoping to go to uni next year. I’m working really hard and don’t seem to have any time or money to keep my house, garden and even myself in check as I’m always working and paying bills/food/driving lessons/daughter etc. I earn around £900 a month plus £200 UC. My 8yo is being assessed for autism and ADHD but I feel like I shouldn’t apply for PIP until she’s officially diagnosed as she’s not too high on the spectrum.

my next door neighbour hasn’t worked a day since I’ve known her, she told me a few years ago it’s because she “coughs too much”, she is constantly smoking weed. She receives over £1,000 a month for he 12yo because he is mildly autistic but undiagnosed atm and told me she actually exaggerated his symptoms to get more money, plus the other benefits she gets. She gets around £2,000 a month in total. Since she has started receiving the PIP for her son, she has covered herself in tattoos, her front and back garden has transformed and is full of flowers which she has said she spent £300 at home bargains last week, she gambles on gambling apps and has spent over £100 in one day, and just in general spends allot of money on herself and her house and has all day everyday to do this.

(forgot to mention I receive housing benefit too based on my income each month)

ABIU to be feeling jealous, we’ve got along quite well the past few years but am now starting to resent her, I’m even thinking of moving house so I don’t have to see her everyday

I also receive UC and housing benefit based on my income so not bashing at all

Here we go, yet again.

Well someone certainly is...

I work 2-8pm and do my course unpaid from 9:30-1:30

Claiming to also receive benefits doesn't change the nasty tone of your posts.

In the senario you've written I don't see any reason to be jealous of your neighbour, you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and look at what you are achieving, change your perspective.

How many hours a week do you work?

This. ^

No, of course you're not 🤣🤣

🤔

You're working till 8pm 4 days a week and picking up overtime but only earn £900 per month? Unless your starting late in the day (not putting the start time implies the typical 9am start) it doesn't sound right at all. Did you miss a digit and mean £1900?

Exactly. Disgusting thread.

Always stupid threads like this
"My neighbour is claiming benefits for her asd child and sat on her fat arse all day, wow I wish I could live like that, but instead I have morals sadly how can i deal with this" LMAO

Assuming this is real someone somewhere is probably jealous of you with your UC and housing benefit! And free school meals etc reduction in school trip costs. £1 trips to the theatre or zoo and what not. And you'll get PIP soon surely so there you go!

So what does that tell you.
As for wanting to move away so you don't see her 🙈🤣

It’s hardly a disgusting thread, people getting too hurt by the fact I’m talking the truth

Yeah, this. ^ The OP seems to know exactly what her neighbour brings in, but doesn't seem to know what she brings in herself.

What 'truth' is that then, pray tell......

YANBU and she isn’t the one defrauding the system.

@Keroppi · Today 12:11
Always stupid threads like this
"My neighbour is claiming benefits for her asd child and sat on her fat arse all day, wow I wish I could live like that, but instead I have morals sadly how can i deal with this" LMAO

😂

Why would you be jealous of someone like that? You are doing everything you can to make yourself and your life better. She’ll spend her life wasting tax payer’s money on simply existing. Keep doing your thing, OP, and start distancing yourself from her- not because of who she is, but because of how her life makes you feel.

You may find she is gloating because she’s jealous of you.
id rather be in your shoes than hers, can’t imagine sitting at home all day doing nothing is much fun.
your building a career and eventually will earn better for your future, hers is likely to stay the same.

your also showing your child that in life you have to work to get what you want.

Just get on with your life, yes it seems a struggle now, but it will get easier and your building for a future , she isn’t.

She’s admitted she lied to get more money? Spends it on herself and gambling? Hasn’t brought her son anything? All of a sudden covered in tattoos foe neck to toe tattoos are expensive? You seem to be really offended by my post

I hate the faux naivety shown on here “why would you be jealous of her” asked all wide eyed. Surely, it’s obvious? Yes of course op will be in a much better position long term and yes she is bettering herself etc etc, but she’s in the thick of it at the minute, working her arse off and her neighbour doesn’t seem to have to do…anything, for a lot more money. I get why it feels unfair op.
Focus on you and your children and don’t engage with her. She’s probably exaggerating her income anyway.

What did her son want her to bring him?

my next door neighbour hasn’t worked a day since I’ve known her

Yet you’re jealous of her!

Do you also want to be a worthless slob?

These are the DLA rates for children.

https://www.gov.uk/disability-living-allowance-children/rates

Even if she is claiming highest care and highest mobility she';'s not getting £1 k a month so if she told you that she is telling porkies.

And yes- you have a career and a future. She doesn't.