To think my dd is very young to be pregnant

[Nantobeb777]

Just 23

Wish I'd been able to have mine younger, would have had so much more energy, optimism and still plenty of time to sort out my career afterwards. I suppose I was a bit clueless about some things but would have done an okay job I think, and had many more years alive (probably) with my child/children which is a lovely thing.

I was 23 when I had my first child. But I had graduated, was married and working full time. I think it depends more on her circumstances than her age. Can she support a child? If so, then it's surely nobody else's business. If she lives with you and depends on you financially then maybe you're right to think she's not ready.

Totally normal age to have a baby.

I had my eldest at 22, he’s now almost 25! I was an adult when I had him. Married, career (nurse) house. Yes it’s young but we can still be good mums, I have 3 younger sons too. Sure your daughter will be delighted you’re on here whinging, better than what my mum said to me though I guess. Hopefully she’s a strong woman who will be an amazing mum,

I think it’s young but not very young. I don’t know anyone who had a baby at that age.

My son and his then gf were 19 when baby was born. She’s 19 now, they’ve got great careers, a gorgeous house, and have been happily married for years.
YABU.

I was pregnant at 24 and owned my first house so no.

I had my first at 21 and second at 23. No regrets and I have never felt too young to be their mum. I'll grant, in many ways we have grown up together, but we have had a good life so far. They're in their teens/tweens now, and my joy and happiness. I have given them everything in my power and the life my mum wasn't able to give me. In turn, they brought stability and love to my life.

Best things I've ever done in my life.

I had my first child at 21 and the second at 23 (and then 2 more before I turned 28). I did a bloody good job IMHO and they've all grown into great adults, but looking back I lacked maturity and it would have been far easier if I'd been settled in a career and more financially secure.

My husband and I have since built very good careers but it was extremely hard to do that with young children.

Having been there I wouldn't want the same for my own children.

It is young and I would worry for my DD. I got married at 24 and I think it was too young and I should have called it off but didn’t have the courage. I’d be worried about her making similar decisions pre 25, not outrageously so, but quietly. I had DD at 28 and I think that was fine, still on the younger side these days but it was a good age.

I expect people will disagree with me, but it is my own life experience that would make me worried for my own DD.

My parents were 21 and 20.

Professional careers and still together. I'm 53 and had my first at 37 when DH was 57.

We were knackered tbh. I think younger is possibly better.

Of course it's OK. It was quite normal until comparatively recently. I know lots of people who were parents in their early 20s. I wish I had but PCOS and constant miscarriages prevented it.

It's fine. It might not be the ideal time given her relationship status or financial situation, but it's not too young to have a baby per se. I always told mine to try to wait until they were at least 25 but 23 isn't the end of the world if she is in a happy and stable relationship.

Up until about 30 years ago it was probably around the most common age to start a family.

23 is a perfectly normal age to be pregnant.

What are you worried about?

The average age women have their first child in the UK is 29-31, so you’re not unreasonable to say she’s statistically young to be having a child.

I guess you wouldn’t be unreasonable to be concerned that she’ll miss out on a lot of opportunities in the near future… Is that part of how you feel?

Who knows it’s different for everyone. I had my first at 20 and my second at 40! I was a much better mum second time around. At 20 I was far too immature and I didn’t do my best which I now feel very guilty about. But that’s only my experience 🤷🏻‍♀️

No, it's a great age to be pregnant.
I had two in my early 20s. No regrets whatsover, I was full of energy, loved playing with them, chasing them round the soft play was a breeze, I adapted really quickly to parenthood (something I see my friends becoming mums later struggle with). They're 16 and 18 now, absolutely thriving in education, lovely polite and respectful young people. Me and their father are still going strong. Not that I'd judge parents who separate, but I did have a couple of people ask "are you still with the dad" when they were little and I did feel like I wouldn't have got that question if I'd been older, in fact I had my third in my mid 30s and no one has asked me that question this time round.

It’s youngish but I don’t see why it’s an issue. Is she happy? I had kids young and tbh, I really glad I did. It’s worked out wonderfully for me.

I understand your concerns, she is young however is an adult. If she’s happy, and can provide a stable home environment then support her as best you can. X

I thought you were going to say she was a teenager 🤦‍♀️

I think it is very young, I think your twenties are about having a good time.

Probably because she still feels like a child to you, but it's a completely normal and common age to have a baby.

I don’t think being “ready” is just about age. You can be ready at 23 just like you can be not ready at 30.

It’s a bit young but not unreasonably so. Can she support herself and her baby?

Fairly young but not massively so. Don’t see the problem. Some people have babies earlier than others, whether planned or not. Whether or not it’s what you had in mind for her is irrelevant really, as she is an adult and her choice to have a baby.