To think my dd is very young to be pregnant

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Just 23

My mum was married at 23 and had me at 24. My grandmother had my aunt at 23.
It was completely normal up to about 30 years ago!
I know a few people who have had kids young then gone to uni and had careers etc, it’s hard but not impossible

13 years ago i was 23. Married and had our own home. I started ttc at 23 and had my dc at nearly 26.
23 isnt too young AT ALL. She will breeze through the sleep disruption and have bags of energy.

My first was born just before my 22nd Birthday. Mind you it was a long time ago and quite normal then but it all worked out well.. Whether the time is right for her depends more on her circumstances and the kind of support she has than the number of candles on her Birthday cake.

She’s young compared to the norm for the UK but she’s not very young. Very young, as in inappropriately young, would be a teenager.

I’m in my late 60s (no children myself) but my mum had me when she was 24 and that was entirely normal. I think we have normalised women having babies much later in life.

I suppose in today’s terms it’s quite young as it’s taking longer to settle into their own homes and have independence because of the cost of everything, and jobs being hard to get/keep. Certainly not considered too young in my mum’s day, where late 20s was considered old to have your first.

Unless she is mentally young, in need of a lot of support, no 23 is perfectly fine to be a mother. 18 plus

YABU she is established into adulthood. My mum had me (her eldest) when she was 22.

I had all of my 3 by the time i was 23.

I was slightly younger than that when I had my first. And when I look back, yes I was too young.

But it everyone is different in terms of maturity.

Is she financially stable?

23 is fine

what age were you

Presumably she doesn’t live with you, OP?

Of course it is very young to be pregnant. Very young and too young are not the same thing. She is probably too young for your own sake but old enough for the child's sake.

Is this meant to be today’s bunfight thread?

context?

I think it probably is young by today’s standards but it’s not so young that she’s a child having a child. I think it’s got it’s benefits. Obviously she’ll have more energy, will still be youngish when they reach adult hood and with any luck they’ll have a great relationship that gets to last many many years.

This. I have a relative who had her first at 23. No problem - she & partner had their own house and enough money. When I had DS26 years ago the woman in the next room was 23. She was struggling - but that was because she and partner did not have their own place and could not afford to live together. They were both still living with their parents.

Nowadays it is young, I agree. Not ‘too’ young or anything. I had my first at 25, most of my wider friendship/acquaintance group didn’t start having children until we were in our early-mid thirties. Depends on your social circle.

I looked young when I was younger. I got carded when I was pregnant but I was 27. I’ll never forget one of my mother’s friends saying to me you look very young to be pregnant. My mother turned on her heel and said she is 27 I’m willing to bet you were younger and walked away.

Good for her not tolerated me being shamed. Definitely don’t be the one doing the shaming. Having kids younger is awesome in middle age. I’m nearly done with it all and I’m relatively young.

Nowadays it is younger than average but nothing out of the ordinary and a perfectly good age to have your first baby imo

My mum was pregnant with me at 23 and had me at 24

I think it’s very young. Does she have a job and financial independence, a home or living in her own place, a decent partner who will step up?

Perfectly normal years ago. For some reason, now seen as "too young".

Had my son at 23 , glad I did . I’m a young mother now and get on so well with him

Not really. I was 24 when I got pregnant the first time and I was married with my own house.