To think my dd is very young to be pregnant

[Nantobeb777]

Just 23

How I look at it is - its not too young and a 37 year old is not too old. What effects is the life you will have. For me I had my baby at 30. I spent all my 20s until I fell pregnant few months before my 30th going on holidays, out every Friday Saturday nights with friends, enjoying life with my husband and no worries at all. But now my 16 year old is autistic and I my life how it use old to be is no existent. I mean I do go out but like 2-3 times a year for a night out.
My friends who had baby in early 20s now have their life back as their child are adults and I do have jealousy!
I have friends who had baby early 40s and they are similar situation to me, enjoyed their 20s and 30s but won't get their life back until 50 +

It depends.. do you think she will be relying heavily on you for support? Does she have her own home, job, stable relationship, sensible with money etc? Of course you don’t need all of those things but they certainly help

Men lost in the First World War, presumably.

I think any age beginning with a 2 is stretching it to say very young to be pregnant, but certainly not mid 20s like DD.

All true @Hankunamatata but none of them will have serious professional jobs either. Because those years are the same years that you put in the effort to qualify and move up in your career. There is a huge trade off. I worked until I was 43, flat out, to be very successful, before I felt secure enough to have a baby.

I’d have a heart attack if any of mine had a baby, let alone two by the age of 22. This was the year I finished uni and had yet to see the world. I’ll be 50 next year… and still think 22/23 is far too young to settle down with lifelong partner abs have children

I was pregnant at 23, last year and this is my second child were talking about first I was 15/16

I was 25 and 27. Now enjoying a life at 48 with 2 x 20-somethings. Couldn't imagine still 'actively parenting' at this age. Would recommend having kids 'early' every time.

And I felt old the second time around! This thread is mind blowing! In what world is 23 young?

Yes, I would say very young.

In my world no one has a baby before 30. Friends of ours became grandparents a couple of years ago - their dd was 28. We all commented on how young she was! Her Mum (my friend) had her at 34.

I was 23. I was young enough to be quite energetic and still reasonably young when my child left home so I could do the things I wanted to do and had enough money at that point to do those things.

We’re all different though. Some 23 year olds are “young” 23 year olds.

@Jugjug and @Shallotsaresmallonions do you think you are doing well at parenting? Not meaning to snipe or take shots. Do you have life under control?

I think it’s a lovely age to have a baby, and it wasn’t at all unusual until about 30 years ago

Yes

Yet another thread with no replies from op.
There as been so many threads like this im starting to wonder if its the same poster, using different names.

It's only in the last 25-30 years that having a first baby at over 30 has become fashionable, in the 70s. 80s very few had their first baby at over 30 and it was almost unheard of to be in their 40s, 23 was in the normal range. I was 29 in '77 and was considered 'old'.

I was 22 when I had my first.

I asked my health visitor if there was any young mum groups to go to, she said because I'm not 21 and under I'm not classed as a young mum.

Shes not too young. In fact it's none of your business.

Same. I would be so utterly disappointed if mine at 22 were proud of this. Nothing achieved yet 2 at 22.

No 23 is not too young. She’ll be a great age being young and fit enough to deal with the sleep deprivation and to be running round after a little one.

I think we have become accustom to parents being in their 30s when they start a family, so when someone in their 20s starts a family we naturally compare that age to what we are used to. So 20s seems young to many. Biologically it is a much better age to have a baby

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It’s very young for professional middle class and yanbu to worry a little that she might be lonely as her friend are t likely to have kids for another decade and she might be missing out on stuff mow, but she obviously wants the baby if she’s going ahead with it and she can be a party girl in her 40s and have a great time then!

Why would she not be able to support her baby ‘in many different ways’, in the same way any mother could?

Exactly. Almost all of my friends who chose to have children had their first in their very early 20s, and some in their late teens. I was 34 when I got pregnant in 1992 and I was considered an older mother. I went to ante natal classes for a few weeks and I was by far the oldest.

Two at 24 here (and I had my first at 16) hopefully my parents aren’t too disappointed especially seeing as their own parents all had numerous children in their 20s as was the norm until about 20 years ago

I was 23 and 25 when I got pregnant. I had so much energy. Walking every day with the pram in all weathers. Cleaning the house, doing the gardening, sailing in the summer most weekends. Restarting a career at 30 could still spin all the plates.

I was married and fairly sensible though.