This is off isn't it?

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Husband and I loaned another couple a significant amount of money as if we didn't their dream home would have fallen through. All properly drawn up, and to be fair was for a short period of time as in just under 3 months.

All paid back two weeks ago as agreed (no interest by the way as it might matter) and friend text saying we want to take you our to dinner to say thanks.

Didn't expect or want that, but lovely gesture.

Went to a very nice place Saturday and other husband said to my husband I'll get the food and you get the wine/drinks. Now to put into context the wine/drinks were about 35% of the bill so other couple paid 65%.

Now it's not the money, and it was a lovely evening, and I would never mention to my friend, but is that a bit cheeky?

No they are great, generous, and it was out of character.

It's not a massive issue at all, just interested to hear what other think.

Paying for drinks too is the least they could have done!
YANBU!

You’re not wrong!

Well obviously as it was supposed to be a thank-you for OP

Even at a conservative estimate you lost 1000s of pounds of interest on your loan, and they make you pay for wine? Really graceless!

I assume you usually split the bill? Could it just have been habit on his part?

(though personally I’d find it really had to forget that friends funded my house purchase!)

😂

I mean... that was the offer? To say thanks for lending them money (interest free) ?

So yeah... I'd expect them to pay in full TBH.

No, I would say we normally take it in turns to pay.

You think it's grabby to accept a meal from someone you've made an interest free life saving loan to?

Are you generally a doormat?

Maybe you drink too much and they didn't want to pay all of that?! Grins.

Nah, it's fine. Bit strange as not what you'd expect but you guys still had a nice night together? Tbh, I kinda expect this thread to say they never paid back, but they did and on time, pretty good.

No you're not wrong. You did them a huge favour. They should have paid for all of it as it was their offer to say thank you

Drinks too expensive? They just lent them over 100k without expectation of interest upon repayment. There's no drinks that are too expensive to result in such poor behaviour.

I'm genuinely amazed anyone is trying to justify it.

I mean we had a decent drink - but it was her husband ordering the champagne etc!

But as you say they paid back, all is good, no harm done.

My guess is miscommunication between friend wife and husband - she invited you as thank you. And he thought you were just out for a nice meal together. He thought he was being generous in paying for most but not undermining your husband whom he thought was offering to pay by coming to bar with him.

But I always assume everyone has the best intentions. It makes my life more pleasant.

Is wife good enough friend you can ask her does she know your DH paid for drinks?

Aren’t they just.

What??? They charged no interest and they offered to take them out to dinner! Are you grabby?

It really doesn't. They would have lost the house had OP not bailed them out. They then asked them out to dinner to say thank you which would imply they planned to pay the entire bill, not just part of it.

What? Someone who lends you £10k doesn’t deserve as much of a thank you?!

I think it was pretty poor of them. If they were struggling financially they could have picked a cheaper restaurant or cooked at home instead of making themselves look mean or rude!

Id have liked to reply “I thought this night out was a thank you treat, not BYOB!?” or something, but probably wouldn’t have!

Ah, that’s even more confusing then.

I’d be assuming that finances are still not in a good place. Maybe invite them for dinner at your next time, save their blushes.

Of course it bloody was! Typical grabby people!!

Their finances are in an excellent place, and I do mean excellent!

He was ordering champagne???? And then he asked you to pay for drinks?

At a meal they’d offered to “take you out for” to say thank you for a huge favour? That’s absolutely scandalous!

I'm really struggling to believe this is the first time they have ever done something like this and that it's out of character. I suspect if you think back there will have been many occasions where they have treated you like this.

How on any planet does OP sound grabby? They did their friends an enormous favour. Dinner out would be the very least I would offer if I was the friend.

You are not wrong, OP