This is off isn't it?

[coulditbeme2323]

Husband and I loaned another couple a significant amount of money as if we didn't their dream home would have fallen through. All properly drawn up, and to be fair was for a short period of time as in just under 3 months.

All paid back two weeks ago as agreed (no interest by the way as it might matter) and friend text saying we want to take you our to dinner to say thanks.

Didn't expect or want that, but lovely gesture.

Went to a very nice place Saturday and other husband said to my husband I'll get the food and you get the wine/drinks. Now to put into context the wine/drinks were about 35% of the bill so other couple paid 65%.

Now it's not the money, and it was a lovely evening, and I would never mention to my friend, but is that a bit cheeky?

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Well technically they paid for dinner 😂

Obviously that's not what is commonly understood when offering to take someone out. I would not go near them with money ever again and next time they suggest they treat/thank you you will know you're expected to pay for some of it so can decide to decline in advance if you don't fancy the expense.

Give over

I think they are just ill mannered.

Grabby after loaning the other couple a significant amount of money for 3 months?

Couple wanted to take op and her husband for a thank you dinner and then end up making them pay 40% of the bill.

No, you are right! You don’t invite someone to dinner then ask them to pay for the drinks!

You might think they are flush, but I would say they are letting you think that, as in the past paying has been taking in turns.

The dh ordering champagne on your dime unbeknownst to you until time to pay, and then wanting to split the bill - how awkward a position to be in for you and your dh.

I would never lend them money again- and almost certainly not go out for dinner, unless you split the bill by what you've all had. Because the rules have changed. They don't feel able to tell you, because of loss of face. Which leads me to think the cornwall house etc is a cover for what the money was really for.

offering to treat you both for helping, then you paying for part if said treat is incredibly odd behavior. They sound like scammers to me. Charming scammers.

Yes I’d consider it cheeky too. If someone invites me somewhere as a thank you I wouldn’t be expecting to pick up any of the tab unless I offered to when the bill came!

Tbey invited her and her hzsband as a thank you. Of course she expected them to foot the bill!

If they had had to get a loan how much would the interest have been?

yes, they are cheeky

No, they paid them back and invited them out as a thank you, their treat. OP basically ended up buying their drinks on this night out. It’s weird, you either treat or you don’t.

When you invite someone out for dinner, that's what you do. Well, that's what normal people do. Would you not do that? @Eastie77Returns

Your act of kindness enabled their dream to come true. I’m sure you didn’t expect anything at all, but as they suggested taking you out for a meal to thank you and show their gratitude they should have picked up the whole tab.

Well, by virtue of you loaning the money and strength of friendship, can you expect lots of invitations down to said holiday home going forward (free of charge)? Also, when you DO go down and you all go out to dinner, I'd do a cheeky "just to be clear, who is paying what tonight??"

@Lmnop22 completely agree with you

Absolutely cheap and awful. I am cringing with embarrassment at that! Eeeeeek.

If they offered to take you out to dinner as a thank you then there’s no way you should have paid anything. What a cheek!

Is it possible they are really short of money now after buying the house?

She’s not grabby. She lent friend a significant sum of money ( which is something most people would wisely steer clear of) and they offered to take them out to dinner to say thanks.
If someone offers to take you out to dinner as a thank you then of course you assume they are picking up the whole bill.
Also the drinks portion of the bill in my experience quite often exceeds the cost of food so they are cheap cheeky fuckers to boot.

I think (hope!) @Darragon was using sarcasm. Sadly it can be hard to portray in written form alone….

@coulditbeme2323 You were not being grabby, not wrong. A thank you dinner covers drinks and food in my book. But everyone is different. It was a thank you ‘dinner’ after all…. 🤷‍♀️

I’d be keeping an eye on them.

Glad you, and they, handled the money loan properly! Well done!

They didn’t pay the entire bill. OP had to pay for drinks - so the dinner was not free.

The friends broke a clearly established etiquette.

That’s not grabby they were let of lightly if they had to get a bank loan it would cost them a lot more. Or loose the house .A huge favour in my opinion and they deserved to be treated to all the bill. If they were grabby they could’ve demanded a huge interest on the money owed ,plus’s they took a huge risks of never seeing that loan again. That couple should be very grateful and pay the full bill

Yes an invite to dinner to say thanks shoukd be just that, whole night paid for.

shocking response. They did so much. Did you do any research into the thread prior to posting?

this whole thread is more and more stupid, and indeed negative as the posts go on, and on, and on,

To those who aren't positive - give OP a fucking break.

We all make mistakes sometimes, with different results.