This is off isn't it?

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Husband and I loaned another couple a significant amount of money as if we didn't their dream home would have fallen through. All properly drawn up, and to be fair was for a short period of time as in just under 3 months.

All paid back two weeks ago as agreed (no interest by the way as it might matter) and friend text saying we want to take you our to dinner to say thanks.

Didn't expect or want that, but lovely gesture.

Went to a very nice place Saturday and other husband said to my husband I'll get the food and you get the wine/drinks. Now to put into context the wine/drinks were about 35% of the bill so other couple paid 65%.

Now it's not the money, and it was a lovely evening, and I would never mention to my friend, but is that a bit cheeky?

I don't have the bottle for that!

No relations, just friends of over 20 years.

They are not short!

Yeah that was out of order of them.
You did them a massive favour, the least they could do is take you out for dinner and actually pay for it.

I suppose it really depends on whether it is 10k or 100k.

Are they short of money at the moment?

Could it be that they wanted to thank you but couldn't stretch to pay for the drinks?

They really don't sound like good friends. I can't see any reason why they would think you should pick up some of the bill when they were taking you out as a thank you.

It's a bit like saying you can buy your own birthday present and I'll get you the card and wrapping paper.

Really not.

Quite substantially north of 100k.

No, I agree with you.

Tiny bit cheeky, but it's not globalising the intifada is it.

Not short at all.

Even 10k is a very large amount to lend friends .

The interest on the loan would have been much more than the meal out so they would have won anyway and I guess you assumed the meal was partly in recognition of not paying any interest. Getting you to pay for the drinks was pretty cheeky and if they expected that it should have been agreed before the meal not as a demand on the night. But hey ho.

You lent them over £100k.

They are taking the piss.

In that case, they were very rude to do that. Not much of a thank you if you have to pay a substantial part of it.

Over 100k and they expected you to buy drinks is incredibly rude.

I'm so sorry OP. How sad to see good long time friends behave so surprisingly out of character like this.

Are they usually nitpicky about money?

I get why you're disappointed, you just look at them in a different light now

Yes it’s cheeky.

No not normally nitpicky at all.

Hehe. Well you all sound very rich and focussed on Money.

Never mix business and friendship.

It wasn't business.

Are they generally a bit socially awkward/ oblivious?

I think if they are have been genuinely very good friends apart from this I would be miffed but wouldn’t let it cloud the friendship as a one off.

They probably know that and that’s how people like this get away with it. Honestly, you need to speak up or be forever taken advantage of.

I would have let things like this go years ago, but realised I got taken advantage of time and time again. I made a conscious decision to change. The people I have in my life now wouldn’t take advantage of me, and those that only liked me when I was more of a people pleaser because they wanted to take advantage, are long gone. Life is much better for it!

Yes it’s cheeky. They offered to take you out as a thank you and suddenly you’re paying for the wine?