Partner spending weekend fitting ex wifes bathroom

[user1467973151]

If your partner was fitting a bathroom for his ex wife for 4 months spending a large part of every weekend doing this, what would ypu think?
For reference they have been divorced years,definitly just a friendship, adult daughter (28) lives there also.
Been together 4 months, bathroom was started before we met.
We are very serious about eachother and very happy with him.
But this is upsetting me now.
Spending all day sunday and sunday evening there until around 8pm.
Meaning Saturday is his only day off. He is constantly tired because he works really hard then this on top. Which means hes often tired and not willing to do things saturday evenings with me due to being up early to do this room.
We went for a meal Saturday night but was asleep by 10pm and up at 7 ready to do the room. So i feel its impacting the whole weekend. He also spent easter sunday and bank holuiday monday there while i was alone.
Am i right to feel annoyed?

Being a doormat is not attractive OP. Get a life and get rid of that man.

I replaced our en-suite in less time than that whilst 6 months pregnant and mostly on my own. (New shower, cubicle and tray, new sink, toilet and fitted cupboards, various re-plumbing, new wall tiles and floor tiles.)

I am not a plumber.

Blimey, some people have interesting standards that they're willing to accept in a "relationship", sod that.

He is a total hypocrite saying you can’t watch sports with your ex re your child. I’d be telling him to get lost on that front, great if you can maintain a good co-parenting relationship. But how on earth has he got the cheek to say that when he’s spending hours at his ex’s weekly. How long until it’s finished. I guess he’s started so he’ll finish now, but yes it’s excessive and yes he’s a total hypocrite.

Did you miss the post where she says he was going every evening for a few weeks to start with?

Now he just spends a whole day and one evening on this "bathroom project".

🤣🤣🤣

Sixteen weeks and he’s already laying down the law about your co parenting relationship with your child’s father? No. Fuck that for a game of soldiers. It’s fuck all to do with him, not to mention seriously controlling. If you continue this relationship, you are setting yourself up for misery and aggravation.

And I seriously hope that however serious you think you are, that you haven’t introduced him to your child. Because you don’t need a crystal ball to see that you two will not be spending your twilight years together

Gosh, our bathroom took about 8/9 weeks!

We did move a wall and the whole thing needed back to brick, loads of rewiring ect. Small tiles that took ages.

Dunno how everyone thinks he can be done in 16 days?! Unless she's literally just having the sanitary ware replaced in the same place. Our tiling alone took longer than that! Bet it also quite awkward doing one day a week, tidying up and restarting a week later, can't really get any flow of work going.

He was going every evening and Saturday also until recently so not just Sundays

OMG he's shagging her OP!
No way is the bathroom taking all this time!

Or he's got another girlfriend, and isn't at his ex's house at all.

@user1467973151 I was going to say tell him toget back in touch once the bathroom is finished , he has time and energy and can put you first . Then …… I read this update . You need to get rid of him.
So he’s controlling and on the flip side does as he likes. I wouldn’t be serious about him
a minute longer . Ditch this one op

He’s doing 12 hours days, which your average plumber doesn’t do. Thats 5.5 weeks based on a 35 hour week. That’s on top of the extra days he was doing before dropping to Sunday only.

And you just accept this, do you?

Why is a man you’ve been with 4 months got a word to say about your family set up?

I will never cease to be amazed the the sheer bollocks people allow.

So he can do what he wants but had started dictating who you can see. Red flags all over. Get rid of him.

A man you have known for 4 months should have absolutely no opinion on your relationship with the father of your child. I really hope you have not listened to him.

Is someone you’ve been seeing for just 4 months a “partner” now ??!!

It doesn't take that long to refit a bathroom. Why are you putting up with this?

I hope you didn't agree to this? You're a fool if you did, letting your boyfriend of a few months impact your son. The relationship sounds unhealthy, too intense and too controlling.

Plenty of couples are together and live apart.

This man prefers to spend time with his ex wife and daughter and expects you to simp after him, while not spending time with your child and his father.

Give your head a wobble and end this barely existing relationship. It's been four months, you aren't serious, you have barely spent any time with the man.

My xh did most of the renovation work on my new house, I can assure you that we are absolutely not sleeping together!

Eh...

4 months together 😂😂😂😂😂😂 yeah he's still madly in love with his ex and not doing it for his daughter at all..mind ya if I had to listen to your whining I'd prefer to spend more time with my ex after 4 months aswell ffs..what age are you ?? 13 !! Before anyone says oh you'd be the same,no i wouldn't,im a grown adult woman,who have children and exs and we all get on great and help each other out,soend time together,go out for meals together still without significant others ..omg imagine that 😳

A man she's been seeing 4 months who has spent his weekends and was spending his evenings at his ex wife's house.

No doubt he's already met the young son as otherwise when do they actually see each other?

It sounds to me like he wasn't happy or ready to leave married life. Seems he's missing his ex and their daughter and is finding any excuse to spend all his time with them.

And you describe yourself as being "very happy" with him. Dear God.

Honestly my first thought here is he is still sleeping with her!

he is devoting most of his free time to her and her house.

Yeah this is a red flag, dump him