Partner spending weekend fitting ex wifes bathroom

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If your partner was fitting a bathroom for his ex wife for 4 months spending a large part of every weekend doing this, what would ypu think?
For reference they have been divorced years,definitly just a friendship, adult daughter (28) lives there also.
Been together 4 months, bathroom was started before we met.
We are very serious about eachother and very happy with him.
But this is upsetting me now.
Spending all day sunday and sunday evening there until around 8pm.
Meaning Saturday is his only day off. He is constantly tired because he works really hard then this on top. Which means hes often tired and not willing to do things saturday evenings with me due to being up early to do this room.
We went for a meal Saturday night but was asleep by 10pm and up at 7 ready to do the room. So i feel its impacting the whole weekend. He also spent easter sunday and bank holuiday monday there while i was alone.
Am i right to feel annoyed?

We are very serious about eachother and very happy with him.

If you're very serious after only 4 months and very happy, I don't see the problem.

The bloke started the job before he met you and he's trying to finish it 🤷‍♂️

Oh don't start with the drip-feeding for goodness sake 🙄

And you're serious about someone who speaks to you like that? I wouldn't be, not after four days or four months. That's unacceptable. Leave. His controlling behaviour is far more an issue than how many days it is taking him to sort out a flipping bathroom. Focus on the real elephant in the room - it's not his ex.

Partner after 4 months?

So hes a hypocrite The hypocisy alone would have me ending it

Ia he a qualified bathroom fitter or plumber. Is she paying him for the work. What was his reason for going every evening qnd Saturdays, is it still his house.

And yet ppl expect to sleep together on date three No wonder men are laughing

A bathroom should take about a week to fit.

4 months and he’s telling who you can see, and how you spend your time, and your jealous about his friendship with his ex-wife (and how’s he’s spending his time)

It’s all too much too soon.

You both need to take a huge step back, and just date for a while

Oh he does, does he? Well he can jog on then. Honestly OP what are you getting out of this? He sounds like a selfish hypocrite.

You've only been together 4 months. That doesn't sound serious to me especially if he is still invested in his ex wife. But not on that he complains about you seeing your ex. I think I'd call it a day on this relationship.

So why did you say you are happy with him?

Oh mate! You’ve been seeing each other for 4 months and you’re both getting nit picky about how you spend your time and who you spend it with? This is ONLY going to get worse, just finish it now and save yourself the grief.

I think it’s her downstairs plumbing he’s been working on tbh

And did you not trust that partner and he not trust you either?

You're trying to control him, he's trying to control you.... what's not to love 🙄

He's a controlling hypocrite and you're a fool.
Just because it worked for you once doesn't mean going serious after a short amount of time is a real recipe for success.

Bonkers. Why don’t you just enjoy being single for a while. 26 years is a long time, don’t settle for the first doofus who turns your head, if he’s this crap in the first four months, what have you got to look forward to?
fuck him off

I would think he is incredibly shit at fitting bathrooms and would never want him to do mine! Four months!!

4 months and he’s still installing it? What on earth is he doing, creating every tile from scratch??

To me it seems you are thinking you are in serious relationship but maybe he does not..For me, it would be too complicated.. Cannot and I know it's hard nowadays, you find someone who is truly single?

It’s only one day a week so it will take a few months surely

He has horrendous double standards, and is far too entangled with his ex, not to mention rubbish at fitting bathrooms

4 months in, he's not your partner, he's a guy you're dating/ getting to know and you don't get to decide how he spends his free time. If he doesn't have enough free time for you then perhaps you should look for someone who does.

He's doing something besides renovating a bathroom. It shouldn't take 4 months of weekend work.

He's also controlling and interfering in your co-parenting relationship with your ex and son. That would be the deal breaker for me. This is a bf of a few months and he's already that controlling. He's going to have issues with your son next.

This guy is bad news, get rid of him.

Even without the bathroom drama I wouldn't be having this. Adding in the bathroom drama he can fuck right off.

4 months. I've got cheese older. Just get rid of the monumental twat.