To be furious with DH for this?

[Coffeecherrymama]

First night home since giving birth and DH has gone out with his mates drinking and still isn’t home and he isn’t answering any calls or messages. He didn’t give me any choice, he just said he was going out with his “mates” and then left and said he would be back before 10pm but he’s still not home! I’m so angry that he has just left me here with our newborn when he knows I’m struggling but his mum says I’m overreacting and that he’s “entitled to a night out”! I feel like I could just cry to be honest! AIBU?

This is seriously divorce justifiable! The tickets to Ibiza without telling you? WTF! I’m guessing it’s while he’s on paternity leave? I’m sorry to ask but are you sure he’s not having an affair? Out til 9am AND a secret holiday screams something really suspicious!
I am heartbroken and so sorry for you, Im so glad you’ve got your sister close by - I would tell DH not to come home til he sorts his sh!t out, if you even want him home of course.

Honestly. lock the fucker out and his MATES can put him up.
op why are u with someone like this?? And his asshole mum can fk off and do his washing clan after him. Look after u and ur kids. At least u know what ur doing and won’t get let down by yourself . Can’t stick selfish assholes like this .

@Coffeecherrymama Men who talk about their "mates" make me cringe.

Is your husband 19 years old?

It would be a terrible shame if his passport ended up in the bin with the nappies.

It's "LTB" territory in my book.

What a dick lock the door

First night home since the baby, so I’m assuming you gave birth just days ago?

this is disgusting behaviour. I’m so sorry OP. You’re going to be exhausted, hormonal not to mention sore and you had to clean up his vomit. Let him go to Ibiza and tell him to find somewhere else to move into when he gets back. You and your children deserve better 🌷 xxx

I’m sorry, OP, but he’s quite clearly telling you he wants out of the relationship. Do him a favour and oblige him with a divorce. There is absolutely no coming back from this.

Oh, and tell his mother to f*ck off!

Your bloody mil ought to keep her opinions to herself. Tell her you’re going out tomorrow night and see what the stupid b*h thinks to that! As for your dh, he’s a complete prat. Who does that the first night their child comes home?

I cannot believe how awful this is, I can’t imagine how you feel what a disgusting person

What a selfish fucker.
The Ibiza tickets would 100% send me to the divorce lawyer. That's unforgivable

Sorry OP but this is unforgivable. Your first night at home with a new baby should be quiet family time getting used to being at home. My DH did go out with friends to celebrate, its some ridiculous tradition that they all drink brandy to debate babies, so he did it a good week after we got home, and we pre arranged he would stay at his mums for the night and my sister stayed with me. Thats the respectful way to do it.

How on earth he could book to fly anywhere withiut telling you sums up his maturity level. His parents sound like they just enable him and that can't help.

I know its hard with a brand new baby and a swa of emotions but please don't let this idiot back in your home until he has sorted himself out. Hopefully your family are a bit more sensible and can support you while you get to grips with everything xx

This is so awful I’m struggling to believe this is real. But if it is, poor OP. Don’t do anything rash, enjoy your baby, get all the support you can. But this is definitely relationship-ending surely. Sounds like he doesn’t really want to be a father. You are both very young. If he can’t be a supportive, responsible partner you will be better off without him.

I feel so sorry for you this is awful behaviour. I am glad he is out of the house.
You need love and support ❤️
Sending my love

I could have wrote this, believe me it only gets worse ppl like him dont change, no thoughts for the ppl they supposedly love. One word if Advice i wish someone had given me, always go by actions, words are cheap, actions will always tell you how someone feels about you!

No, cause similarly to paper tickets, he doesn’t exist 😎

Lock the doors and go to bed if you can ......let his mother deal with him !

Thats shocking behaviour, he sounds too immature to be a father. Definitely not ok.

Sounds like he was way too young to start a family. What an idiot

‘loose’ his passport so he can’t go to ibiza. FFS i hope you take him to the cleaners in the pending divorce as you’re the only one responsible enough to take care of the children. Best of luck lovely - I really hope things improve and you have good support from friends and your side of the family x

First post nails it again.
U need to stand up to this lazy bully or u are in for one hell of a ride.
Get an escape plan sorted.
So sorry and congrats on new baby. X

Unforgivable is a bit much but you need to have serious words with him. I'm sorry OP you must be feeling so emotional and drained after this. What a fucking wanker!

I'm convinced the 4% that voted YABU are MIL and her sock accounts lol.

I’m absolutely lost for fucking words. What have I just read 🥵 There is no way you can stay with this loser, please. Let his mother have him back.

Eh? Are you for real ?