To be furious with DH for this?

[Coffeecherrymama]

First night home since giving birth and DH has gone out with his mates drinking and still isn’t home and he isn’t answering any calls or messages. He didn’t give me any choice, he just said he was going out with his “mates” and then left and said he would be back before 10pm but he’s still not home! I’m so angry that he has just left me here with our newborn when he knows I’m struggling but his mum says I’m overreacting and that he’s “entitled to a night out”! I feel like I could just cry to be honest! AIBU?

This is someone who’s apparently trying to keep it secret … so printing the actual booking confirmation so he doesn’t stress at the airport wouldn’t be his priority , would it ?

Yeah, and what’s he said about it…?

Because everything else he's done has been so clever?

On the basis she has only just found it and he is likely still comatose from alcohol, it is unlikely she has been able to ask him yet!

@Coffeecherrymama did his dad pick him up!?

I'm so sorry OP! I think you need space and support. Don't let him ruin this time in your life x

He was reportedly 'comatose' at 9.30am- that's more than 6 hours ago and if he is still in the same state maybe consider phoning an ambulance?

You can’t stay with him after this.

His actions are telling you, he doesn’t give a shit. And mother who condones the actions!!! Clearly she thinks the sun shines out of his arse.

Please do not stay with this boy. Your life will only get worse. I can only imagine how scary it will be to do, but you are worth more.

In a former relationship in my early twenties my ex-BF did awful things like this to me (no DC with him thank goodness!) but booking surprise trips, going off for days unexpectedly without telling me, disappearing for hours on end. When we split he admitted he did these things to drive me away as he didn't know how to end the relationship. Completely inexcusable but I suspect your DH is using similar tactics. My advice would be to put yourself and those children first, now. It will more than likely only become more painful.

Yup i will because her response to her manchild leaving his wife at home alone all night with a 3 year old and a newborn and coming home at 9am in the morning and being so drunk he cant stand is "looks like he had a good night" yeah you can see where the entitled twatish behaviour comes from

I would be so ashamed if he was my son

Sorry thought I had!!! see I'm not used to posting, just reading others, no need to be quite so direct tho.

... especially if he's still lying in his own vomit. How on earth are you managing to step around him and keep the toddler away from him, and indeed the vomit? The smell must be overwhelming.

Opinion forum - if the opinion is that TrollyMcTrollSeal is a cunt then that's quite fair enough.

He’s gone to his fathers now!!

Change the locks.

Did he clean up?
Explain?
Apologise?
Check on the bairns?
Check on you?

Did you read what his mum said?

Yes, as you can see...

IAmBeaIDrinkTea · Today 15:25

Although to be fair in this case the mum does sound just as bad.... 😁

and he will probably be welcomed with open arms by his mother and totally overindulged.

sadly you are left with the mess to clean / tidy up
a new baby
and a child

clearly he was too immature to get married young and have children.

What are you going to do

No it didn't happen unfortunately im saying that's what I would have been tempted to do if someone had dared to leave me on my first night home with a new born then come back the next day and vomit all over my floor

OP between him being comatose and lying in his vomit, and going to his dad’s, how was he? What kind of conversation did you have with him?

Then why on earth did you come out with that straw man about it always being the mother’s fault?

What an absolute thunder cunt.

OP, is this how you want you and your babies to live? I am sorry, but unless you want this to be your life forever, with worse and worse behaviour from him as the years go by, and more and more trauma for you and your children, you need to end this relationship and separate as soon as humanly possible.

You can make that choice. Your kids need your protection.

Op friend had this.
She had the wit to throw him out and file for divorce the same week as he did it.
He isnt going to be there for you. He isnt going to support you