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AIBU to refuse to let relatives take my children’s Easter eggs to donate to a food bank?

296 replies

ConnectionsAndWordle · 19/04/2026 14:04

We had relatives visiting yesterday who saw our children’s Easter eggs and throughout the day kept commenting that they have too many. I said they’ll eat them eventually so not to worry. They do have a lot, but they are all aged 15+ so perfectly capable of deciding what they want to eat. One child opened one during the day and offered it around. They’ve been sharing them with friends and will eat them so they won’t go to waste.

As my relatives were leaving, they said they would take some of the eggs and donate them to a food bank and started putting some in a bag. I told her to stop as kids would eat them. They continued choosing which ones to take so I again told them no.

One of my children came downstairs to tell them to leave them alone as well and asked them to put them back. Relative told my child (teen) that she should think of others and not be so selfish. I told her not to call my child selfish for not wanting to give away eggs that are theirs.

Relatives husband said I was being unreasonable and selfish, like my child. My husband then came home which stopped the conversation. They left soon after, without the eggs, but clearly weren’t happy.

They have sent me a text this morning to say they were disappointed in what I said and for siding with my child and that they would like an apology as they were ‘told off’ and were ‘made to feel embarrassed.’

Would you even bother to respond? It’s completely pathetic but I don’t feel like I have anything to apologise for.

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Thelostjewels · 19/04/2026 14:14

The sense of entitlement

NormasArse · 19/04/2026 14:15

Ask when it would be convenient for you to go over and go through their cupboards and freezer for stuff to donate.

ConnieHeart · 19/04/2026 14:15

I'm wondering what the CF relatives do to "think of others". They were incredibly rude by starting to take the eggs without asking the children who they belonged to. You have nothing to apologise for

PullTheBricksDown · 19/04/2026 14:16

'Feel free to give your own items to whoever you want. Don't try to take items from my house or decide what I should do with them, any more than I would presume to do this with anything of yours.'

TheDenimPoet · 19/04/2026 14:16

It's so weird to come into someone's house and steal things. Which is what they were trying to do!

When I was a kid, we used to get a horrendous amount of easter eggs, because not only family brought them, but also all the neighbours and some friends of the family. There have been times we've had 20 each. But it's chocolate, it lasts for ages, they just get eaten over a number of months, and each one is savoured and enjoyed! Easter eggs are fabulous!

I would honestly never be inviting these relatives to your home again!

AprilMizzel · 19/04/2026 14:17

Probably best to just ignore.

Though I'd be tempeted to text - you tried to steal from my kids and are now demanding an apology I didn't allow that - wtf the matter with you.

I don't think food banks would want them this far after Easter so it sounds like odd behavior all round.

IBlinkedAndBecameMiddleAged · 19/04/2026 14:17

I would ignore the message OP as they have already shown themselves to be unreasonable in their behaviour and they won’t suddenly understand why what they did was awful. All replying will do is start off a to and fro over texts.

If you wanted to then maybe a “let’s agree to disagree on what is acceptable behaviour regarding other people’s property” sort of thing and then change the conversation.

I would be wary of having them round unsupervised anytime! Also, they sound quite unpleasant - great that you stood firm and also supported your DC’s decision.

redboxer321 · 19/04/2026 14:17

Yeah, I'd respond. A two-word response with one of those being off.
Probably not the best advice though.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 19/04/2026 14:18

Outrageous behaviour on their part. I'd be tempted to respond along the following lines:

I'm so sorry you felt that we were being selfish. We will reflect on this. In the meantime, I'll be popping round to your house later on to select some items that I can donate to the charity shop. Will be bringing dc with me so that they can see you modelling a more appropriate response in this scenario.

ChequerToRed · 19/04/2026 14:18

There’s really nothing like a misplaced sense of moral superiority to bring out the utter shitbag in people

Summercocktailsgalore · 19/04/2026 14:18

Reply:

today we showed our children that stealing is wrong. If you feel told off, it is because you were caught stealing and refused to immediately return property that was not yours.

if you wish to help food banks, take the surplus food out of your own cupboards and pass it on. Or, is the food there because you buy in advance? Oh, well then this is my chikdren’s supply of sweet treats all in one go!!

BIWI · 19/04/2026 14:19

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EwwPeople · 19/04/2026 14:20

“I would’ve liked not to have an argument over Easter eggs , so I guess no one’s getting what they want.”

ArtAngel · 19/04/2026 14:21

Whose relatives?

If DH’s get him to deal with them.

If yours I would send a 🤣 emoji, say your terms express generosity and charity in their own way and you suggest that show charity with their own goods rather than giving away things that have been received as gifts by their nephews / grandchildren the situation wouldn’t have arisen.

Dreadful behaviour on their part.

Fuzzymuddle33 · 19/04/2026 14:21

That’s crazy. Not theirs to take!!

ArtAngel · 19/04/2026 14:22

Or ignore… and next time you visit them remove ‘extra’ coats from their coatrack and say you will take them to the charity shop

Whyherewego · 19/04/2026 14:23

How very strange of them. I mean if everyone had been saying "I have too many eggs what should I do with them?" , then fair enough to say let's take to the food bank. But no one was trying to get rid of them

I wouldn't bother replying. I am not sure what I'd even say

nOlives · 19/04/2026 14:24

Time to advertise a garage sale at their place. Everything must go. Put posters up on street lamps on the roads near their house.
The entitled cheek of some people is bewildering.
I'm sure they must have more than they need. Let them give their own stuff away.

Ritasueandbobtoo9 · 19/04/2026 14:24

Text them:

Charity begins at home, your own home, not other people’s homes with other people’s things. What Charity would want others people Easter Eggs after Easter? We can only assume that you wanted them for yourselves and since you are capable of buying yourself chocolate then we think it was appropriate to refuse what we consider your inappropriate request. I’m sorry you were disappointed but you placed us in an awkward situation which has made everyone feel uncomfortable.

AlexaStopAlexaNo · 19/04/2026 14:25

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bunnyvsmonkey · 19/04/2026 14:25

"the food bank" = they were going to scoff them in the car

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 19/04/2026 14:25

Either they wanted the Easter Eggs for themselves or they thought patronising a Food Band with some "here's some leftover Chocolate Eggs we didn't get round to eating. but you can have them "
Cheeky Feckers !

They can go round to any supermarket and buy suitable , requested food , or donate cash .
Sounds like they just fancied punishing your DC for having a number of Easter Eggs (but good on your DC not scoffing them all over the weekend )

thepariscrimefiles · 19/04/2026 14:27

Just tell them that you won't be apologising as they were rude, not you and if they want to donate chocolate to a food bank, they can buy it themselves.

SpryCat · 19/04/2026 14:27

There is no nice reply but you need to assert yourself because they still haven’t accepted the many times you have said no.
I would reply back saying they are not welcome at yours for trying to steal items from your home and being rude to your child.

WhatAMarvelousTune · 19/04/2026 14:28

and started putting them in a bag

That is insane behaviour. And I certainly wouldn’t be apologising if they feel embarrassed or “told off”