Dh in mood as I said I may get mcdonalds for my dinner he said its selfish

[Tomcdonaldaornot]

Hey mn!
I have just read some other posters complaining about their partners wow there seems to be a lot. I don't want that to cloud my judge ie being angry on their behalf and therefore my dh is wrong.
So I am asking here.
My baby who is 9months woke at 830am and hasn't napped today. She fought her last two naps and I have wasted an hr each time trying to get baby to nap. She usually naps but the last few days she seems more active. With no naps I have found it really impacts my night when baby doesn't nap, she has a bad night. So I have gotten ready. Dh who works from home popped downstairs and asked how day is going. I said its been full on she hasnt napped! He looked at her and said "cheeky" she laughed!
I said I was going a drive as she will nap in the car. I said I was thinking of getting a Starbucks via drive thru so I am not just driving around. At least it'll give me a destination! Then I thought ohh i could get a McDonald's! That'll sort my dinner out. Baby will nap in car. Dh then told me that was weird. I'm a grown women. And then.... wait for it... what about him? I offered to bring him mcdonalds and he said no. I then laughed and said you are a grown man I'm sure you can sort dinner. He stormed away saying "dont treat me like a child!".
Am i wrong?! He has never acted like this!!!!!!
What would you do??

More of a JCB mechanical digger.

OP wasn't just popping out to McDonalds though. OP was driving around trying to get the baby to nap and was going to eat it in the car.

How dare you not think of your poor husbands needs first and foremost! Don't you know he could wither and die if you're not there to put food on his plate?

Do you mean lunch as in mid day meal or dinner as in evening meal. In place of lunch yes no need to offer. If dinner in the evening bit weird not to include him

More importantly what are you going to get from McDonald’s?

There's a goady and confrontational poster on MN who's doing it again, so just ignore them.

Storm in a teacup

but

I usually cook (we do split most chores but I do almost all the food shopping and cooking)

and

I do get annoyed when maybe once a fortnight I mention that I'm really tired from work (I'm on my feet for nine hours straight and he works from home) and will just cook pasta pesto or an omelette or something and his response is

"I can just get myself a sandwich"

there are five of us in the house - it's not meant to be selfish but it absolutely is because he's just thinking about himself, not me or the kids (the kids are also fully able to cook, and ironically will usually offer to get everyone takeaway or make pizza if it's them I tell I'm tired).

We usually eat dinner together/ keep a portion for anyone who is out, so one person having the genius idea to get just their own dinner "sorted" without thinking of the rest of us (not as an afterthought when pulled up on it, but automatically as part of the first thought) IS selfish.

Nothing major, not a reason for a huge drama or strop, but definitely feels like a bit of a slap in the face with a wet fish tbh - just not thinking of the person or people you always eat dinner with.

We’ve been side tracked by someone assuming you didn’t offer to bring one back. Why was his first reaction calling you weird for thinking about it and then telling you you’re too old?

You are being unreasonable for using the word nap nine times, and for making me fancy a McFlurry.

Is your husband just fed up because he’ll have to make his own dinner?

Yeah but apparently she did it in the wrong way and diddums got his pride hurtied

To be honest I'm not sure it is a sidetrack - the way the OP reported her own conversation she only said "that'll get my dinner sorted" - which I would find annoying if my husband said because he would only be thinking about himself, not the rest of the family.

Obviously if for some reason they always eat separately it's different, but if you always eat dinner together "that'll get my dinner sorted" would be annoying phrasing.

Anarchy in the McDs. 🤣

He’s being an arsehole but if he’s not normally like that I’d let it go

Also, when I offer to bring McDonalds or a Subway for DH, I always feel rushed to eat quickly and come straight home because he likes it as warm as possible.

Sometimes it's nice to just be able to take things at your leisure and not worry about delivering hot food to someone else.

I think these comments are mad, given he had popped downstairs while working from home and OP posted at 4pm I imagine she is talking about lunch here - surely a grown man can't get so stroppy about OP going out in the car and getting herself some lunch while at a drive-through?! Jesus Christ, is her life not her own?!?!

Do you make lunch for him every day when he's working from home OP?

Did you enjoy the McD's? Was baby having a good sleep as well?

She did offer

Looks like that poster has been removed from MN...which makes me think they weren't posting in good faith. Quite scary really.

😂😂😂

But you said you would get yourself one. You didn’t automatically say ‘I’ll Get us one’.

You also said he had to ask ‘what about me?’ So you didn’t offer, he had to bring it up before you considered it.

i mean, he’s a grown man, he’s big enough to sort himself out, but can you not see a little bit why he’s a bit miffed at being an afterthought?

If my wife said I need to get out of the house, the baby not napped, might go to Starbucks while I’m out. No actually, I think I’ll just go McDonald’s so I don’t have to cook. I’d say ‘Ooh bring me back a Big Mac!’ She’s caring for our baby, McDonald’s does take away. My first reaction would not be what about me! Because her plans can still include me. And if I don’t like McDonald’s then I’d think hmm if she’s having McDonald’s maybe I’ll get my fav takeaway. I think his reaction is weird

Well I’d just go and get my McDonalds and let him fend for himself.
He is being a big baby

Yes. I agree
and all this fussing about She may have offered but its not really an offer.. .is just nonsense

Its not like she expressly said I'm going to Maccies and getting one but you can go whistle.

It boils down to

OP.. I'm getting a Maccie Dee
DH What about me!
OP I'll get you one too then
DH. No not fair. Sulk.

if she's had no sleep and hits on a plan to get the baby to sleep so they can all have a bit of rest, why is she expected to wait hand and foot on her DH who is an adult, working at home and presumably has access to a fridge?

So OP has to look after two babies?

I can’t believe people are defending his behaviour.

I planned to meet my sister the other day and she said she’ll be back around X time as she’s going to stop off at McDonalds on the way back.
I said can you pick me up some too and she says yes.

I can’t believe people are saying OP should have offered before he had to ask.
Why?
Surely it’s common sense that if he wants something he’ll ask her to get it and if he doesn’t then he won’t.

I think MN is just full of people who don’t have their own voice, like they have to wait to be asked or told to do things.

You did nothing wrong OP and he was just being an arse for no reason.