Dh in mood as I said I may get mcdonalds for my dinner he said its selfish

[Tomcdonaldaornot]

Hey mn!
I have just read some other posters complaining about their partners wow there seems to be a lot. I don't want that to cloud my judge ie being angry on their behalf and therefore my dh is wrong.
So I am asking here.
My baby who is 9months woke at 830am and hasn't napped today. She fought her last two naps and I have wasted an hr each time trying to get baby to nap. She usually naps but the last few days she seems more active. With no naps I have found it really impacts my night when baby doesn't nap, she has a bad night. So I have gotten ready. Dh who works from home popped downstairs and asked how day is going. I said its been full on she hasnt napped! He looked at her and said "cheeky" she laughed!
I said I was going a drive as she will nap in the car. I said I was thinking of getting a Starbucks via drive thru so I am not just driving around. At least it'll give me a destination! Then I thought ohh i could get a McDonald's! That'll sort my dinner out. Baby will nap in car. Dh then told me that was weird. I'm a grown women. And then.... wait for it... what about him? I offered to bring him mcdonalds and he said no. I then laughed and said you are a grown man I'm sure you can sort dinner. He stormed away saying "dont treat me like a child!".
Am i wrong?! He has never acted like this!!!!!!
What would you do??

If you read the comments OP said nothing more and was quiet restrained. Her husband was in the wrong.

Why are you trying to minimise this? A man having a tantrum and eating his child's food to punish his partner IS a big problem.

because my husband has done the same thing and it has taken me many years to see it isn't normal. I am proud of OP for standing up for herself. I would feel said for anyone that sees this as a non event.

Personally, I think a lot of people on here need to stop man blaming and grow some. Tell HIM about it. Men are so scared of women these days, he'll probably wet his pants. What are we on here going to do about it, all rush around to the op's house and sort it out for her. She has to live with him. The sooner she puts him in his place the better. If he doesn't listen then she has 2 choices.

@southerngirl10

no, obviously not, he was arguing with OP. So do you think that Op should acquiesce… forgo the McDonald’s and stay home and cook something for her and her husband so they can eat together and ensure no argument?

Personally, I would say "I'm getting a McDonald's, so I'm fine for dinner. You can fix yourself something, see you later." If he stropped, I would think that's his issue and buy myself the McDonald's meal and eat it. He can do what he likes. I certainly would cook for him, he's a full grown man.

It is becoming more and more obvious you haven't read any of OPs updates. Stop derailing a vulnerable woman's thread. You should be ashamed of yourself.

So when you posted ‘Are you both still in your teens? Surely you wouldn't be writing this as an adult woman.’, you were actually berating OP not her partner, because your follow up posts show you clearly think OP should have had her Lord and Master’s needs foremost in her mind.

It’s always the way with the ‘Are you both 12?’ posters, it’s always a roundabout way to blame the woman

We see you ‘southern girl’.

I think a lot of people on here need to stop man blaming and grow some.

Grow some? Like yours ‘southern girl’?

If he stropped, I would think that's his issue and buy myself the McDonald's meal and eat it.

Read her posts, she did!

LTB. Or shit in his dinner.

But seriously, he's an idiot. He actuly should have offered to cook for you both whole you were driving. That's what aa decent human would do. Clearly you've been doing too much childcare because he has no concept of how exhausting it is and how impossible it is to get any self care, when they don't sleep or feed to schedule and the knock-on when it slips.

Rates of domestic violence go up too. A friend who works with DV survivors has said it’s really common, which is just awful.

This needs repeating.
Its clear to some of us.🙄

He is a nasty, petty, abusive prick.
His own father told him grow the fxxk up.

If my husband had done this ever, there would be no coming back from it.

When an abusive arsehole shows you who he is.
Believe him.

The OP is worth ten of him.

His apologies would mean nothing to me.
He has shown his hand.

No going back on that.
I sincerely hope the OP protects herself from this petty prick.

He's a ...grown man?

I will be hung drawn and quartered for this.

I will not say what I feel about the various aspects of this very public argument, but will say that it is being fuelled by Mumsnet, and in particular by those posters who refer to the 'we' word, ie, 'we feel that .... etc'. I was not aware that there is a secret group that I haven't been admitted to or invited to join.

OP, you have a young child, and obviously need to focus on him/her, but you also need to work with your DH (or whatever he is) to find a way forward. Having such young children is incredibly difficult, and will impinge on any relationship. I think that the odd fall out regarding a MacDonalds is almost par for the course.

I hope that you work things out so as to find a way forward, with him or without if you feel that way, but hopefully this is just a blip on the road.

because sometimes people cannot realise they were wrong to begin with etc

Thank you. I look forward to seeing these every time somebody complains about their partner.
🤣❤️

Well after mcdonalds gate, I will be getting my ducks in a row with a view to LTB!

Not really, he said it wont ever happen again. We had a very serious chat last night and lines have been drawn and clear boundaries stated. Thanks all

But for next week.. anyone recommend any good drive thrus??? What about tacobell. Any good?? 😂😂😂😂

The only time I've been ill after fast food was a taco bell in Glasgow. The one in Sheffield is also rank.

We like KFC in this house.

Who said ‘We feel that…’?

I’ve scrolled up the last couple of pages and the only ‘we’ statement I could see was by southerngirl10 :

Personally, I think a lot of people on here need to stop man blaming and grow some. Tell HIM about it. Men are so scared of women these days, he'll probably wet his pants. What are we on here going to do about it, all rush around to the op's house and sort it out for her. She has to live with him. The sooner she puts him in his place the better. If he doesn't listen then she has 2 choices.

Wise woman.
Take your time and plan.
Then get out.
Life is too flipping short.
Keep everything to do with this incident.
You never know when it might be of use.
He's a nasty petty prick and he kindly sent you a picture to illustrate the fact.
Tell family and friends the truth too.

Taco Bell is gross! You could pick up a cheeky Nandos and eat in the car!

Lol, glad to hear it OP. In his defence( which is limited as I think he behaved like an absolute dick!), the sleep deprivation and stress of having your first child is intense and makes us all act crazy sometimes. Hope he learned his lesson.

Drive thru recommendations I have none (I don’t drive!). However, my go to is a Costa coffee and tuna melt.

OP’s the one with the sleep deprivation, not him. When baby doesn’t nap, it impacts OP’s nights. He has no excuse for his behaviour, as he has realised.

OP, glad your FiL saw it the right way and helped him see the light.

Taco Bell is just terrible. DD was at a sporting event, if the home team won everyone at the game would get free Taco Bell. She and her friend went there after the victory, and decided Taco Bell wasn't even worth free.