Dh in mood as I said I may get mcdonalds for my dinner he said its selfish

[Tomcdonaldaornot]

Hey mn!
I have just read some other posters complaining about their partners wow there seems to be a lot. I don't want that to cloud my judge ie being angry on their behalf and therefore my dh is wrong.
So I am asking here.
My baby who is 9months woke at 830am and hasn't napped today. She fought her last two naps and I have wasted an hr each time trying to get baby to nap. She usually naps but the last few days she seems more active. With no naps I have found it really impacts my night when baby doesn't nap, she has a bad night. So I have gotten ready. Dh who works from home popped downstairs and asked how day is going. I said its been full on she hasnt napped! He looked at her and said "cheeky" she laughed!
I said I was going a drive as she will nap in the car. I said I was thinking of getting a Starbucks via drive thru so I am not just driving around. At least it'll give me a destination! Then I thought ohh i could get a McDonald's! That'll sort my dinner out. Baby will nap in car. Dh then told me that was weird. I'm a grown women. And then.... wait for it... what about him? I offered to bring him mcdonalds and he said no. I then laughed and said you are a grown man I'm sure you can sort dinner. He stormed away saying "dont treat me like a child!".
Am i wrong?! He has never acted like this!!!!!!
What would you do??

Yes, people can read. That's how - unlike you - they read the part where she says she ALSO said "I offered to bring him mcdonalds and he said no".

Jesus fucking Christ. This isn't complicated.

Why is it the frazzled mum’s responsibility to feed him? Why not his responsibility to say ‘grab me a Big Mac too’?

Ignore him.
He can sort his own dinner like a grown up!

Oh, do grow up.

I swear Andrew Tate is paying a bunch of incels to try and brainwash the women of Mumsnet.

Who would normally be cooking dinner??? You or DH?

Enjoy your McDs!

Yanbu op. At all. Some people on here just cannot read.

Do you always make dinner? If you do, stop that shit immediately.

Yes it's odd because she wasn't going out to get the food and then come home and eat it at home in front of him. She was going out because she had to sort the baby out, and it just so happened that she would therefore be out at teatime, so she thought she would probably feed herself while out, which is a sensible idea when it's a mealtime tbh.

If I told my husband I was going out to a baby group from 11-2 so I'll buy myself some lunch while I'm there, I would expect him to say "ok, see you later," not "what, and you're not going to buy some for me and bring it home in a bag even though I'm at home where the fridge is???"

That's not how the OP described the scenario though is it? She was going out driving so the baby would sleep, that was the purpose of the going out driving part. Not - she had a frazzled day so decided to go out and get herself McDonalds. The thought of getting McDonalds only occured to her as she was talking about maybe getting a drive through coffee, like a light bulb moment of something to do and get dinner at the same time which is probably why the offer to also pick something up for her husband came about after - The offer he didn't even want by the way.......

So it's weird for a grown woman to drive her car to a McDonald's and eat from there?

If he doesn't like McDonald's because he thinks it's 'children's' food then he doesn't have to eat it.

How are you treating him like a child by suggesting he makes his own dinner?!

'Don't treat me like a child'?!

'Lol. Well stop acting like one then you big stupid sulky baby.' 🤣

His reaction literally makes no sense and he sounds like a knob.

Next time don't bother telling him when you fancy fast food, coffee, to go for a cheeky pint etc. just go ahead and get it and enjoy it.

Maybe he could try looking after the baby on his own for a change?

Don't let him spoil your fun.

This thread is bonkers.

Op literally had the thought as she was chatting to DH and it popped out. The most normal reaction from him would have been "oh awesome get me x" or "I'll grab something else at home as don't fancy that" and off Op went.

Why on earth should be planning everything for everyone. She's frazzled and wants to make life easy and she can hopefully eat in the car in peace for 20 mins whilst baby naps. (I spent many an hour in Maccys car parks with engine running, book out and food to just get ten mins peace from must sleep upright on me baby). DH can articulate if he'd like something bringing back. Or he could even offer to do the drive with said crying baby!

My reading of it was you only offered to bring him some after he asked? Not before.

So what?
Do you never think on your feet and adjust what you mean or do as you think things through. I know I do.
She intended to go to Starbucks and then a plan evolved.

Lots of knickers are getting twisted on this post over dinner/ tea/ lunch, who would be disappointed with a maccies etc.
Such fuss about nothing!

This.
Perhaps he would like to do the same at the weekend when he isn't working and is looking after the baby, allowing you chance to sleep at home. Or maybe not.

Incidentally OP what did baby eat for tea? I'd be tempted to tell DH there was some sweet potato mush left over if he wants, but I'm petty like that 🤣

Why is he annoyed though?
When you offered to get him some too he said no.
Is he annoyed that you aren't cooking like a "grown woman" should?
Do you cook every night? If so it's about time he cooked for you or you got takeaway!

You read the whole OP and didn't read the bit where OP made precisely that offer?

And? She still made the offer.

The post reads as though the OP first said something like: ‘I could get MY dinner at McDonald’s’ which potentially the husband took offence to because she didn’t say ‘OUR dinner’ - though why he reacted with: ‘that’s weird, you’re a grown woman’ rather than ‘just your dinner?’ or something along those lines, I don’t understand.
AFTER he responded she then asked if he wanted anything - so it sounds like an afterthought, but considering she did ask, I think it was an over reaction on the husband’s part to continue the ‘argument’

If I did this I'd plan to go to Mcdonalds for myself while out with kiddo, then bring my DH something back with me on my way home, but he loves mcdonalds, so would definitely be disappointed if he missed out on it! You seemed to reluctantly offer to bring him food only after he asked you about it.

I'd be a little peeved if my DH said he was off out to get his own tea with no thought for what I was going to do, it's not a man/woman/sexist issue, it's basic consideration, he'd ask me if I was okay to sort my own tea out, or if I wanted something bought back. If you usually eat together every evening it is a little odd for one to just suddenly go out and sort themselves out, unless you do that routinely anyway?

This reminds me of when I had my first and she would not sleep unless walked in a pram. I used to get a nice coffee and sometimes a croissant and walk. I know DH once got a McDonalds wrap and walked her.

My husband would never care if I got myself dinner as he is a fully grown adult and can sort himself out and obviously I feel the same.

Your husband is a werido. You offered to get him one youve done nout wrong!

And what? That's all I said as I wanted to clarify what was said when as the original post is incredibly difficult to read (as evidenced by the comments😃)

Are you the OPs husband? 🤔