Dh in mood as I said I may get mcdonalds for my dinner he said its selfish

[Tomcdonaldaornot]

Hey mn!
I have just read some other posters complaining about their partners wow there seems to be a lot. I don't want that to cloud my judge ie being angry on their behalf and therefore my dh is wrong.
So I am asking here.
My baby who is 9months woke at 830am and hasn't napped today. She fought her last two naps and I have wasted an hr each time trying to get baby to nap. She usually naps but the last few days she seems more active. With no naps I have found it really impacts my night when baby doesn't nap, she has a bad night. So I have gotten ready. Dh who works from home popped downstairs and asked how day is going. I said its been full on she hasnt napped! He looked at her and said "cheeky" she laughed!
I said I was going a drive as she will nap in the car. I said I was thinking of getting a Starbucks via drive thru so I am not just driving around. At least it'll give me a destination! Then I thought ohh i could get a McDonald's! That'll sort my dinner out. Baby will nap in car. Dh then told me that was weird. I'm a grown women. And then.... wait for it... what about him? I offered to bring him mcdonalds and he said no. I then laughed and said you are a grown man I'm sure you can sort dinner. He stormed away saying "dont treat me like a child!".
Am i wrong?! He has never acted like this!!!!!!
What would you do??

I literally had the thought when talking to him! I then offered.

Do you mean dinner as in lunch, or dinner as in evening meal? Because I couldnt imagine thinking I could get my evening meal for just myself with considering DP's.
But if you meant lunch and he was out of your way while WFH thats different.

Because she’s the one going for the drive.

He isn’t a permanent appendage to her, she can think about what she wants to eat on her drive to help their baby nap.

She offered to bring him food, that’s more than enough.

Fine to offer to get McDonald’s for tea though I would be a bit disappointed

Think your husbands found this thread OP 😂
YANBU. He’s being really fucking weird.

And you forgot the next bit where she offers to get him some...........

I mean I am driving there to eat in my car 😂
I had the thought whilst talking to him. Its not like I had it planned for hours 😂😂

What do you mean? If he’s disappointed with McDs, he can cook himself something.

I just want to go a drive. A drive thru will make it interesting. Unless I just sit in a cold car.

Depends….

did you say “ooh I fancy a McDonald’s, I could get one while I’m out and bring you one back?”

or

did you only offer to bring him one back AFTER he asked what about him? Ie if he hadn’t said anything would have just gone and bought yourself one?

no issue at all with the first scenario, but if it was the second one then yeah, that’s a bit selfish!

OP, didn’t you realise that you need to put yourself last and what your DH wants to eat and what he thinks is weird should be uppermost on your mind?!

I would have offered. I was thinking out loud when I spoke to him. God wish I only went to Starbucks now 😂😂😂

Why does he need to be uppermost in her mind though? She has a baby to think of?

My mind is frazzled. Baby had been awake all day and crying to held constantly.

Who bloody cares if she offered to get him one or not. OP is entitled to go for a drive to get the baby to nap and buy herself a McDonalds.

He is being weird. Is he annoyed you're not cooking for him like a servant?

So you’re saying that it’s a woman’s job to anticipate whatever her ‘man’ may need, regardless if she has a baby who hasn’t slept all day on her mind? A capable man who can sort his own tea should he uppermost on her mind?

Good god! Surely the man is capable of saying "sounds like a good idea, can you get me something too while you're there?" That would be how I'd expect an adult to communicate.

Good lord, so what? He's a big boy, if he wanted something from there, he could just say yes when she did ask. People are so strange. If this was a conversation in my house and my husband was going out driving to get the baby to sleep and he said "oh I'm going to get McDonalds while I'm out" and I wanted something I would just say oh pick me up a big Mac Meal please and that would be that. Some people really invent issues out of thin air.

You’d be furious if your other half got themselves McDonald’s for dinner????? Surely not 🤣🤣🤣

Exactly. Also don't forget to cook his dinner for him, even though you've already eaten and offered to bring him something, which he refused. Plus make sure you put a bow in your hair and offer to rub his feet after his hard day at work.

OP, don’t you realise that you need to be thinking of your man and his needs constantly? A frazzled brain is no excuse, you need to put your needs last.

I fancy a McDonald’s now! 🍔 🍟 🥤

Can your DH not make himself something to eat if he doesn't fancy a macdonalds, or is that strictly "wifework"? 🤔