Dh in mood as I said I may get mcdonalds for my dinner he said its selfish

[Tomcdonaldaornot]

Hey mn!
I have just read some other posters complaining about their partners wow there seems to be a lot. I don't want that to cloud my judge ie being angry on their behalf and therefore my dh is wrong.
So I am asking here.
My baby who is 9months woke at 830am and hasn't napped today. She fought her last two naps and I have wasted an hr each time trying to get baby to nap. She usually naps but the last few days she seems more active. With no naps I have found it really impacts my night when baby doesn't nap, she has a bad night. So I have gotten ready. Dh who works from home popped downstairs and asked how day is going. I said its been full on she hasnt napped! He looked at her and said "cheeky" she laughed!
I said I was going a drive as she will nap in the car. I said I was thinking of getting a Starbucks via drive thru so I am not just driving around. At least it'll give me a destination! Then I thought ohh i could get a McDonald's! That'll sort my dinner out. Baby will nap in car. Dh then told me that was weird. I'm a grown women. And then.... wait for it... what about him? I offered to bring him mcdonalds and he said no. I then laughed and said you are a grown man I'm sure you can sort dinner. He stormed away saying "dont treat me like a child!".
Am i wrong?! He has never acted like this!!!!!!
What would you do??

Often what people say, tells you more about them, than anyone else,

in this case
“don’t treat me like a child”

Is it childish to eat McDonald’s? Or to cook your own dinner? Or to need an adult to point out the obvious?

New babies are hard op, and they are like a bomb in the best of marriages. Perhaps the kindest interpretation is that he’s struggling a bit to adjust to this version of adulting? I don’t think anyone is ever ready for the reality of a baby btw.

Is he getting his turn at broken nights? Sleep deprivation needs to be experienced to be understood and even if you can shoulder most of that burden on mat leave, it’s better for everyone if gets some direct appreciation of what’s involved.

It wouldn’t even occur to me that this could be an issue op! He’s being weird about it

I often sort my or dinner and then come home and when husband asks what’s for dinner I’m like oh I’m fine thanks I don’t need anything - then he just makes himself something - what’s the big deal about

Oh dear, you are both probably short of sleep. Enjoy your McD's.

Why isn't this FATHER taking over from his frazzled wife and driving baby around himself?

You're sat there eating grapes, a bit like the OPs husband, except his are sour 😭

Honestly his behaviour is ridiculous. Can he not rustle himself up an omelette or some pasta? Quick and easy dishes.

I don't think there is anything wrong in what you did. The whole point of McDonald's was a drive to get the baby to nap, it wasn't like you planned a meal out and excluded him.

The amount of stuff I've brought him in during lunch, breakfasts. When I've been out as oh he will like this, etc and he is moaning about this. He has never eaten so well before! He always jokes he will lose weight when I go back to work 🙈

I make probably about 80% of dinners but honestly I didnt give dinner two thoughts tonight. Ive not had a minute!

Oh dear!!

Is the poor baby trying to guilt trip you for him having to go hungry.

My heart breaks for him!!

What an absolute fucking baby 😂 ‘a pity McDonald’s’ and all this handwringing over where will I find the time?! Get a fucking grip man 😂

This is a very strange interpretation - the "that'll be my dinner sorted" rather than "our" default is absolutely equally selfish and irritating from a man - it's an equal opportunity kind of self absorbed thinking.

I’d withhold the toy though, in case he throws it out of his pram 😁

Wow. You weren’t ’treating him like a child’, but he sure as hell is acting like one.

“Stupid family going to stupid Flanders' stupid barbecue. What if they got back and I was dead from not eating? Then they'd be sorry!”

I had to look this quote up from the simpsons as it reminds me so much of your DH.

He’d rather throw his toys of out the pram and not eat rather than cook for himself, just to ‘teach you a lesson’.

Its so childish 🤣🤣

He IS acting like a fucking child. A "pity mcdonalds" what a prick. Quite funny that he's going to sulk himself hungry this evening, but I imagine he'll be a whiny PITA about it, just so you know how badly done by he is. Maybe he'll run away from home for a couple of hours to make you worry. 😅

Beans on toast is a suitable dinner for him

Honestly, wtaf. I have no idea why anyone would have a problem with this. Even if you went and ate a McDonald’s without telling him or bringing him anything back, he should be able to accommodate a change of the usual routine and just bloody deal with it. Surely he can make something to eat. It’s not like you’re talking about going out for a 5 course meal by yourself.

A pity McDonalds

Does he mean he's rejected the offer out of petulance just because you didn't offer to him first? (How dare you expect him to come second you bad bad wife who cooks 80% of the meals!!! You must always think of his hungry man-stomach before your own needs.)
Talk about cutting off his nose to spite his face.

In an ideal world you would have referred to "our dinner" but it is totally understandable that the thoughts were forming as you spoke them aloud. Oh I can get myself a drive through Starbucks and enjoy a warm drink in the car, oh actually I could go to McDonald's and grab some dinner then I'll be ready for an early night when I get back as I'm shattered, oh yes I can pick up for both of us.

I really want a McDonald's now yum yum yum.

Agreed!!
She offered him a Maccie D just seconds after saying she was having one. but the "time lag" has resulted in a massive defence of this hard done by WFH DH.

She's now at MacDs and has offered him again.. but is met with
"I don't want a pity burger."

Boo Double Hoo.

And now he's implying he will go without dinner as he wasn't "prepared" for it.

I don't understand the huge defence people are mounting for this silly childish pouting man and his Pity Burgers. What an self pitying idiot he is.

Omfg I'm now fuming!!! He has texted me and said "unbelievable pastries for a grown mans dinner!!" I said what pastries??? He sent a picture of the empty tupperware. That was the fucking apple and cinnamon twirls I made for baby earlier. I made about ten to last a week!!!! Omg this has taken such a turn i am now furious!!!!

Is he expecting a three course meal or something? Can't he bung a pizza in the oven or make himself a sandwich which takes approximately thirty seconds? It's just one meal for god's sake. It's pathetic.

Genuinely OP, is he always this pathetic? What does he do around the house generally if he is unable to cook himself a basic meal?

I dont know what to say to him
Omg so angry

In that case YANBU or selfish and he’s a moron!

Nobody said he has to be uppermost in OPs mind….. what an odd take on what I said