"Perhaps you're taking my "not the wisest move" words the wrong way. I didn't mean unwise because there would be "consequences." I meant unwise because it's got potential to confuse the other person."
It's important to understand social context when commenting. We live in a rape culture. Starting in girlhood, women are besieged by men - who are much stronger physically than women - who want sex from them. Including boyfriends and husbands. Marital rape was only criminalised in the UK in the 1990s. One in 30 women in the UK is sexually assaulted every year (800 000 women). 2% of reported rapes leads to charges, and only half of those actually spend any time in jail. Such impunity means that most women are very wary about sexually pressurising men.
Rape culture stems from the notion that men are entitled to sex. This thinking is EXTREMELY prevalent, and we see this here on MN very often: an OP comes and says she doesn't want sex because she's completely exhausted because she does everything, and inevitably there will be a bunch of men (some masquerading under female names) and women saying that she's being "unfair", she "shouldn't be unilaterally deciding to not have sex", she's "withholding".
This is very rapey language, and completely unacceptable. No one has a right to sex, no matter the context.
In the present thread, we have a bloke whose petulant, selfish, punishing behaviour CLEARLY stemmed from her saying no to sex the night before. Punishing a partner with moods, grumpiness, withdrawing non-sexual affection, angry slamming around, nasty comments, picking arguments, EATING HOMEMADE SNACKS INTENDED FOR BABY - this is sexually coercive behaviour. Unless such behaviour is very firmly opposed, it will lead to consensual unwanted sex at best (which can be very psychologically damaging over the long run) and coerced rape at worst.
So in this context, you saying "not the wisest move" sounded very much like you thought OP should dance carefully around her H's desire for sex, making sure she appeases and placates him so that he doesn't punish her.
NO. He should have said, "Alright darling. I'm not tired yet so I'll watch something for a bit. Sleep well" or "Alright darling. Yes, I'm tired too, let's go to bed".
You've clarified your phrasing but the fact that multiple PPs were questioning it suggests that you should consider the frightening rape culture we live in before commenting on such subjects again.