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Dh in mood as I said I may get mcdonalds for my dinner he said its selfish

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Tomcdonaldaornot · 14/04/2026 16:06

Hey mn!
I have just read some other posters complaining about their partners wow there seems to be a lot. I don't want that to cloud my judge ie being angry on their behalf and therefore my dh is wrong.
So I am asking here.
My baby who is 9months woke at 830am and hasn't napped today. She fought her last two naps and I have wasted an hr each time trying to get baby to nap. She usually naps but the last few days she seems more active. With no naps I have found it really impacts my night when baby doesn't nap, she has a bad night. So I have gotten ready. Dh who works from home popped downstairs and asked how day is going. I said its been full on she hasnt napped! He looked at her and said "cheeky" she laughed!
I said I was going a drive as she will nap in the car. I said I was thinking of getting a Starbucks via drive thru so I am not just driving around. At least it'll give me a destination! Then I thought ohh i could get a McDonald's! That'll sort my dinner out. Baby will nap in car. Dh then told me that was weird. I'm a grown women. And then.... wait for it... what about him? I offered to bring him mcdonalds and he said no. I then laughed and said you are a grown man I'm sure you can sort dinner. He stormed away saying "dont treat me like a child!".
Am i wrong?! He has never acted like this!!!!!!
What would you do??

OP posts:
EnthusiasticPony · 17/04/2026 16:24

nomas · 17/04/2026 16:17

How has she cut him out of a meal? She offered to bring him a meal back.

Only when he reacted negatively. Maybe he's tired too?

Boomer55 · 17/04/2026 16:35

Tomcdonaldaornot · 14/04/2026 16:06

Hey mn!
I have just read some other posters complaining about their partners wow there seems to be a lot. I don't want that to cloud my judge ie being angry on their behalf and therefore my dh is wrong.
So I am asking here.
My baby who is 9months woke at 830am and hasn't napped today. She fought her last two naps and I have wasted an hr each time trying to get baby to nap. She usually naps but the last few days she seems more active. With no naps I have found it really impacts my night when baby doesn't nap, she has a bad night. So I have gotten ready. Dh who works from home popped downstairs and asked how day is going. I said its been full on she hasnt napped! He looked at her and said "cheeky" she laughed!
I said I was going a drive as she will nap in the car. I said I was thinking of getting a Starbucks via drive thru so I am not just driving around. At least it'll give me a destination! Then I thought ohh i could get a McDonald's! That'll sort my dinner out. Baby will nap in car. Dh then told me that was weird. I'm a grown women. And then.... wait for it... what about him? I offered to bring him mcdonalds and he said no. I then laughed and said you are a grown man I'm sure you can sort dinner. He stormed away saying "dont treat me like a child!".
Am i wrong?! He has never acted like this!!!!!!
What would you do??

I’ve got no clue about this daft row. You wanted a McD. He didn’t. Your baby hasn’t napped today. Normal stuff. 🤷‍♀️

nomas · 17/04/2026 16:45

EnthusiasticPony · 17/04/2026 16:24

Only when he reacted negatively. Maybe he's tired too?

She was thinking aloud what what she would do on her drive. Why does he need to be uppermost on her mind above her baby? What should she have said? “My lord… I beg thee, with the trembling devotion of a humble wife who has battled the napless dragon all day… grant me permission to partake in the sacred feast of McDonald’s. I ask not for riches, nor jewels, nor even a moment’s peace — only a humble cheeseburger to sustain my weary soul as I drive our tiny tyrant to sleep. I throw myself at your mercy.” ?

nomas · 17/04/2026 16:46

Boomer55 · 17/04/2026 16:35

I’ve got no clue about this daft row. You wanted a McD. He didn’t. Your baby hasn’t napped today. Normal stuff. 🤷‍♀️

What an amazing contribution to a 500 post thread.

LouiseMadetheBestBroccoliPasta · 17/04/2026 16:53

nomas · 17/04/2026 16:45

She was thinking aloud what what she would do on her drive. Why does he need to be uppermost on her mind above her baby? What should she have said? “My lord… I beg thee, with the trembling devotion of a humble wife who has battled the napless dragon all day… grant me permission to partake in the sacred feast of McDonald’s. I ask not for riches, nor jewels, nor even a moment’s peace — only a humble cheeseburger to sustain my weary soul as I drive our tiny tyrant to sleep. I throw myself at your mercy.” ?

"napless dragon" 😂

Perfect description 😂

TheAutumnCrow · 17/04/2026 16:55

Boomer55 · 17/04/2026 16:35

I’ve got no clue about this daft row. You wanted a McD. He didn’t. Your baby hasn’t napped today. Normal stuff. 🤷‍♀️

It's about him sex-sulking.

Tomcdonaldaornot · 17/04/2026 21:38

I think its wild there are other adults who would get annoyed with this... toxic!!!

OP posts:
Candy24 · 17/04/2026 21:51

Tomcdonaldaornot · 17/04/2026 21:38

I think its wild there are other adults who would get annoyed with this... toxic!!!

Weird they are upsrt. Hope your husband is ok .....lol

Tomcdonaldaornot · 17/04/2026 21:52

Candy24 · 17/04/2026 21:51

Weird they are upsrt. Hope your husband is ok .....lol

Edited

Yes after sleeping on couch for 2 nights!!!!
He has grovelled lots. He said he told his dad who told him to grow up.

OP posts:
Error404FucksNotFound · 17/04/2026 21:57

TheAutumnCrow · 17/04/2026 16:55

It's about him sex-sulking.

Oh yes, that will be what its actually about.

Op said no to sex so must pay

Tomcdonaldaornot · 17/04/2026 22:01

Mrsgreen100 · 15/04/2026 20:38

If you go to food and drinks or Starbucks and McDonald’s, I kind of feel that life isn’t gonna be great for you starting eating some real food, stop being junk please for goodness sake don’t feed that shit to your baby when it’s able to eat it

Don't feed baby that shit 😂😂😂😂

OP posts:
Tomcdonaldaornot · 17/04/2026 22:03

southerngirl10 · 15/04/2026 15:33

Are you both still in your teens? Surely you wouldn't be writing this as an adult woman.

Why?? I wasnt the immature one.

But it'd wild you read my post and as an adult woman commented that. What was the point??

OP posts:
Candy24 · 17/04/2026 22:05

Tomcdonaldaornot · 17/04/2026 21:52

Yes after sleeping on couch for 2 nights!!!!
He has grovelled lots. He said he told his dad who told him to grow up.

At least dad is on your side

Hailstoness · 17/04/2026 22:06

Good woman standing your ground.
His father is right.
He needs to grow the fxxk up.

Woodfiresareamazing · 17/04/2026 22:34

Tomcdonaldaornot · 17/04/2026 21:52

Yes after sleeping on couch for 2 nights!!!!
He has grovelled lots. He said he told his dad who told him to grow up.

Oh god, he really does sound hopeless.

I would be struggling to work up any enthusiasm for sex any time soon...

PyongyangKipperbang · 17/04/2026 22:53

I think your last update made it worse!

It has conjured images of the kid who played knock and run saying "My dad says I have got to say that I am sorry and won't do it again".

Urgh.......

ETA.... if he told you that his dad told him to grow up, the reality probably is that his dad tore him a new one.

southerngirl10 · 17/04/2026 22:55

Tomcdonaldaornot · 17/04/2026 22:03

Why?? I wasnt the immature one.

But it'd wild you read my post and as an adult woman commented that. What was the point??

It just feels that with all the problems in the world arguing over a happy meal is a bit first world problem, especially if your other half has never done anything like it before. I'm sure you'll both get over it.

Tomcdonaldaornot · 17/04/2026 22:57

southerngirl10 · 17/04/2026 22:55

It just feels that with all the problems in the world arguing over a happy meal is a bit first world problem, especially if your other half has never done anything like it before. I'm sure you'll both get over it.

It wasnt over a happy meal. He was the one arguing. Thanks for your pointless comment. Move on now

OP posts:
southerngirl10 · 17/04/2026 23:00

Tomcdonaldaornot · 17/04/2026 22:57

It wasnt over a happy meal. He was the one arguing. Thanks for your pointless comment. Move on now

Arguing with himself was he?

PyongyangKipperbang · 17/04/2026 23:00

southerngirl10 · 17/04/2026 22:55

It just feels that with all the problems in the world arguing over a happy meal is a bit first world problem, especially if your other half has never done anything like it before. I'm sure you'll both get over it.

I would say that a marriage having issues due to a selfish man throwing a massive tantrum to his wife and using his child to punish her, in this case by eating the childs food, isnt a first world problem at all. Plus ca change.

Millions of women the world over, whatever part of the world they live in, suffer this every day. This was not about the Maccies, but I think you know that really. And if you dont, well now you do.

PyongyangKipperbang · 17/04/2026 23:04

southerngirl10 · 17/04/2026 23:00

Arguing with himself was he?

Kind of yes!

He was offered food from maccies, he said no. There was food available, he didnt eat it. What he did was take something that his wife had made especially for their child, ate that and sent a photo to the make the point. "Look what you made me do!!!"

This was never about a maccies, it was about a man who didnt like not being put first. Not uncommon after the birth of the first child amongst needy insecure men and is why a lot of marriages fail in the first five years after the birth of a child.

southerngirl10 · 17/04/2026 23:05

PyongyangKipperbang · 17/04/2026 23:00

I would say that a marriage having issues due to a selfish man throwing a massive tantrum to his wife and using his child to punish her, in this case by eating the childs food, isnt a first world problem at all. Plus ca change.

Millions of women the world over, whatever part of the world they live in, suffer this every day. This was not about the Maccies, but I think you know that really. And if you dont, well now you do.

Read what the op said, "He's never acted like this before." So, a one-off?

PyongyangKipperbang · 17/04/2026 23:06

southerngirl10 · 17/04/2026 23:05

Read what the op said, "He's never acted like this before." So, a one-off?

She never had a baby before.

I am glad that you dont understand how this happens because it means that this has never happened to you. Its a thing, google it.

southerngirl10 · 17/04/2026 23:06

PyongyangKipperbang · 17/04/2026 23:04

Kind of yes!

He was offered food from maccies, he said no. There was food available, he didnt eat it. What he did was take something that his wife had made especially for their child, ate that and sent a photo to the make the point. "Look what you made me do!!!"

This was never about a maccies, it was about a man who didnt like not being put first. Not uncommon after the birth of the first child amongst needy insecure men and is why a lot of marriages fail in the first five years after the birth of a child.

You seem to know a lot about this argument. Were you there?

PyongyangKipperbang · 17/04/2026 23:08

southerngirl10 · 17/04/2026 23:06

You seem to know a lot about this argument. Were you there?

No but I can, and have, read all of the OP's posts.

Have you?

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