AIBU to think excluding children from their dad's wedding was hurtful?

[FunnyBeaker]

My 3 children recently announced their OP was remarrying and were super excited about the event. We spoke about outfits, where they were staying and how fun the day would be. However, on the big day they never went to the ceremony (no after party), no suits or dresses, nothing! AIBU to think this is such a horrible thing to do to your own children? Build them up to think there’s a big event and then exclude them?

Exactly. Why come and post something expecting support when you don’t give all the relevant information. Children left outside building - really?

DP is partner, OP can clarify herself.

''We'' so the father was involved in the biulding up also?

So, he took them to where he got married and made his children wait outside on the street? Did he then go somewhere else for food and drink and leave them outside there as well?

What really happened?

Just tell us what happened in full please OP

So much information missing. Need more context.

I'm glad I'm not the only one confused about what actually happened.

Waaaait I've just caught up on the drip feed. What happened to us wasn't the same actually. Will ask for deletion of first post. Hate a drip feed!

You're right sorry shouldn't have said DP
But it did mean their dad and I don't think anyone's wrong for trying to clarify something on a thread. Lots do that all the time.
There's no rule saying that has to be OP
Never mind the fact that she's probably not going to post again anyway

There’s so much wrong with this opening post that I’m just going to move along. Waste of my energy.

No. Biggest drip feed ever. Are the kids back at school after Easter yet ?

That’s why I asked OP if by OP she meant Other Parent - to clarify it.

Well ok but it obviously did mean their dad like already said. Or other parent but either way it's the same thing

Can we just have a collective agreement that we aren't going to give obviously fake/attention seeking posts any air and are going to stop posting on them. That way they won't get traffic or highlighted on AIBU. State to the OP once what is needed for engagement then just stop posting. These threads just become really tedious and clog up genuine threads otherwise.

Yes, if as you said he let them think they would be going and then they remained outside the building for the ceremony this is hurtful. What reason did he give for excluding them at the last minute?

Definitely reaching here!!

Is he Mormon and marrying in a temple? They're few and far between - hence the travel - and kids can't go in.

My money is on @PrawnAgain being on the nose, or closest. Or, unrelatedly, I’m SO glad the schools are back today…

So were the suits and outfits bought and then not worn? They’d surely know in advance if they hadn’t got the outfits they were excited about?

Not a chance this is a genuine thread.

Do 10,11 or 14 year olds really get excited about wearing a suit?
(I could understand a girl getting excited about a special dress).

How likely is this scenario with no back story?

So their dad took them to the wedding venue but they were in their own clothes and then he left them outside and sent them home on their own afterwards while he had a reception (after party?). When he spoke to them about dresses and suits, was he assuming they would be wearing their own? There is a lot missing and it obviously doesn’t make any sense

Yes it means Other Parent (ie Op’s ExDP) here, I think. Sometimes abbreviations are as clear as mud.

Not sure we have enough detail to comment but if the ex genuinely took the kids 150 to the wedding venue, parked them outside, and then excluded them from any celebratory meal as well, I’d be withdrawing contact and insisting he get an access order via court. It seems utterly cruel when he might simply have changed his access weeks and not taken them with him at all.

Some people are fucking weird. I knew this before MN, but assumed those people were unicorns. I am now beginning to think I’m a rare moderately sane beacon in a dark and complicated world populated by CFs, arsehole dads, and some utterly insane women. None of whom are actually ND despite the MN go-to advisory.

Why? Seems very strange

As in just hang on there for a bit kids while I nip in here and get married?