AIBU to think excluding children from their dad's wedding was hurtful?

[FunnyBeaker]

My 3 children recently announced their OP was remarrying and were super excited about the event. We spoke about outfits, where they were staying and how fun the day would be. However, on the big day they never went to the ceremony (no after party), no suits or dresses, nothing! AIBU to think this is such a horrible thing to do to your own children? Build them up to think there’s a big event and then exclude them?

Assuming it’s true then it is unlikely to be that simple though. Like he’s going to the bother of buying them outfits and leaving them outside 🙄🙄🙄

The fact the OP hasn’t explained anything isn’t helpful.

OP (as in the Original Poster) did say it was just the ceremony and no celebration afterwards.

I don't think not having your children at your wedding is that odd if you only invite a few people and it's literally the legal bit in the register office. It's the taking them for a 150 mile journey to stand outside that's weird. It surely couldn't have been that hard to organise the wedding for a time when OP was looking after them, if it was a childcare issue.

Can you give a step by step what was said pre-wedding and what happened on the day and what the weddign was like etc.?

How absolutely bizarre. Did they invite too many guests and were only allowed witnesses because that’s all they paid for?

That said, my mum got remarried when I was in my early 30s. She only told me about the wedding the week it was happening. We live a long haul flight from each other and I was already flying out to stay with her for 2 weeks the next month, so there was no way I could have scraped together £2000 for a last minute flight. I wasn’t invited anyway. They had maybe 10-15 friends who attended, a reception afterwards, and to bloody top it off, she sent me all the photos and asked me to edit them for them! For my own mum’s wedding that I wasn’t even invited to. Yep, sure, happy to help! 🙄

We are NC now. That wasn’t the reason. We didn’t go NC until probably another 10 years. But looking back, it fit part of a lifelong pattern of selfishness and wacky decision making that negatively affected me. I bet this isn’t the first time he’s done something like this and won’t be the last.

Who supervised the children left out on the street? And how do they feel about it now?

The OP and subsequent messages read like they're written by an AI bot, to be honest.

This thread is nuts.

There will be SO much more to this

Or someone that perhaps needs some learning support!

Would it have killed you to quote @PrawnAgain so we know what you're agreeing with?

(I'm obviously using "killed you" hyperbolically here)

It’s really not for you to decide what’s obvious to others, And who already said what? You’re not clear.

So you're running with TTA's story then? 😄

I have never heard of 15 witnesses at a wedding - have you?

NB. I have used the initials TTA to mean The Thread Author and anyone who thought "wtf the fuck does that mean?" is obviously just being obtuse and difficult 😄

What a waste of my time to read this with no answers

Im trying to think of reasons numbers might have been restricted necessitating a choice.

This. Hugely annoying way of writing. It’s like pulling teeth.

Why didn't they just go in? Why didn't they question where their wedding clothes were on the morning?

Ok, I'm not really interested in back and forth arguement

This doesn't make sense. They remained outside the building themselves? Why?

There must be some big drip feed/bomb shell coming? The story just doesn’t make any sense.

Plot twist: OP is the OP, but also OP is the DC

Op was also intended to be the celebrant, but as wasn’t allowed in the building nothing happened?

You do have to wonder how people like the OP manage day to day in life

I know situation where kids were dresssed up for photo and handed back - ie used as props - also know cases where marriage was done without kids at all so week not with that parent.

So seems odd to me to take then 150 miles then stand them outside TBH with no dress up for photos.

DN started getting invited to her dad family stuff - was used a free babysitting while rest of family got drunk and got left as very young teen with very young multiple kids - they stopped going very quickly.

Outside the building standing in the road? Sitting in a garden? Sitting in a garden with 10 other children who belonged to other guests.

It is simply not telling the full story to say your children were suited and booted, driven 150 miles and then simply left outside to twiddle their thumbs waiting.

What actually happened?

Agree!! Something which either didn't happen at all or if it did, that's not exactly what happened

Can you just write a full post with all the information rather than giving the briefest of information and answering the odd question. From the scant information you've provided yes he sounds like a right wanker .