AIBU to think excluding children from their dad's wedding was hurtful?

[FunnyBeaker]

My 3 children recently announced their OP was remarrying and were super excited about the event. We spoke about outfits, where they were staying and how fun the day would be. However, on the big day they never went to the ceremony (no after party), no suits or dresses, nothing! AIBU to think this is such a horrible thing to do to your own children? Build them up to think there’s a big event and then exclude them?

Op you are either concealing something or lying.

I bet you did somethings mental like go up with the children and try and force yourself into the wedding. Perhaps giving an ultimatum by saying the kids can't go in without you and the bride put her foot down as she's sick of your shit.

This happened at a friend of mines wedding. People are that crazy

Very odd. Were they sitting in a seat outside? For how long? What did they do after the ceremony?

This is so confusing. Why did he leave his children on the street dressed in their suits while he got married?!

It’s certainly… unusual.

OP makes it sound like they were tied up outside the venue like stray dogs

Come on OP, it's not like you're being paid per post. This is boring now.

Oh my! This made me properly lol !

This, did they expect to be in the wedding party but weren’t?
you to attend because they needed you as chaperone?
why would they be arranged to attend then discarded outside like a piece of lint, or a bottle cap?

It’s pretty bad. How long were they outside for?

My daughters were dressed up as bridesmaids for their dad’s next wedding. They went to the ceremony, had photos taken, (the boring bits) then offloaded back to me without being allowed to attend the fun bits, the meal and party etc

It’s threads like this that honestly make me wonder about the education schools are providing.

The inability to craft a brief narrative with pertinent information is bizarre.

There is always more to it than that though

That is odd. Did he give a reason?

Poor kids, so just in their normal clothes and he took them to the wedding but left them outside while everyone else went in ? Is that what happened, I'm trying to make sense of it please enlighten us OP

Karma Never gets them unfortunately

So they didn't end up with fancy new clothes, or attend the actual wedding, or the meal afterwards?

Were they left to starve? What has their father said?

There is not enough information.

What happened that meant they were left outside? Something isn't tracking.

Have you spoken to your ex?

No I don't. Sounds like bullshit, or at best very poorly explained.

Agreed (love your username btw ☺️)

I agree with PP that there seems to be a lot of key info missing here. I think OP is looking for an angle here as seems to be deliberately withholding some info

So it sounds like the dad told him they're involvement in the day without communicating with WTB. But she has arranged the wedding and deliberately not included them.

A friend of mines ex did this with their DD. She was 14 never even asked her to be bridesmaid. Shortly before the wedding she rang him and asked him o meet her in town. Said he couldn't afford the bus fare. She was actually sat in McDonald's at the time. She seen him out the window a few minutes later walking up the street with 1 of his WTB kids.

He chose to be a stay at home dad with her when she was a baby. So it was a bit odd the way he distanced himself once he had a new partner. She has 2 children of her own now and doing better in life than that waster.

This sounds a bit odd to hype it up, take them along just to leave them outside. Did perhaps the children refuse to go in or something and Dad and wife went ahead and got married anyway whilst the kids stayed outside?

Anyone else hear that dripping?

Drip, drip, drip

But when it drips this much it just makes you disbelieve it anyway....

I hear it too.
But I’ll tellya what - OP expected to just say a sentence or two, then have everybody get mad at the ex & call him names.
What she wasn’t expecting was questions. lol

So many questions.

Was the ceremony in a really small room with capped attendance numbers?

How long were they outside for?

What happened after the ceremony - you said there wasn’t a celebration so did your ex then drive just drive them 150 miles home?

is there a cultural/religious factor at play?