AIBU to expect anything from my husband for my first mother's day?

[Armandi110]

Good morning and happy mother's day to all the moms out there.

AIBU to expect anything for my first mother's day? My baby is 3 months old so obviously not expecting anything from her, but some kind of acknowledgement from my husband that it's actually mother's day?

I am not a demanding person and would have been delighted with a hug and a "happy first mother's day". A box of chocolates or bunch of flowers would have been a bonus, but I wasn't expecting that. I went through IVF so it's been a long and emotional journey to get here and I spent many a mother's day in tears, so today means a lot to me. I've even had messages from friends and family wishing me a happy first mother's day.

My husband has not even acknowledged the fact that it's mothers day, despite the fact he is watching Formula 1 and Lewis Hamilton just wished his mom and all the other moms a happy mothers day.

He is generally quite lacklustre in life and not one for a gesture but this has got me wondering if he is even the right person for me any more. Am I overreacting?

Exactly. All these "he couldn't even let me have a lie-in and a nice bath on Mother's Day" posts are awful. Because they all mask a far bigger issue. Nobody should be waiting till one day in the year to do this basic stuff and then to use that one day of being decent as a get-out clause to do nice caring things for another 12 months.

No, I am writing in context of what the op has written.
I am recovering from surgery at the moment and I have received nothing but care from my partner ( more than normal as I’ve been unwell so it’s proportionate to my needs). Of course her husband needs to be taking care of her every day but it does not seem to be happening. But acknowledging her first year of motherhood would have been lovely for her especially as she cites years of waiting to me a mother. So I wish her the very best and hope things get better for her. These days are special days to celebrate things.

Sending you this belated bunches of flowers for Mother'Day.Hope you like them

💐💐💐💐💐
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Xxx

I got nothing for my first Mother’s Day . He was pissed off when people asked what I had for my first Mother’s Day ,I told them the truth - nothing . He said it made him look like a shit .

This is what I did and he had the cheek to ask where his card was .

Rubbish.... Why can't men use their brains to work out how special a mums first mothers day is especially one that has been through IVF to get their little miracle! It's lazy, thoughtless behaviour at best! I wouldn't say LTB, but I would say don't put him on a pedestal and make celebrations nice for him!

Don't leave me hanging! What did he say, and what was your response?

I had an ex that did this TWO years in a row with my birthday. The first year, I did a low key card/gift for him. But the second year, I took the hint and did nothing. He was upset and accused me of tit for tat.

He didn't forget again though.

Sorry to hear your partner didn't do anything to mark your first Mother's Day.

Tell him he can make up by doing something special for you this weekend instead.

Tbh, it sounds like he needs clear direct instructions given that he doesn't do anything for his own mother.

I would tell him exactly what you would like so that he knows for the future.

An electronic card would be pathetic if he had sent it and it is the weakest of the weak excuses for not doing anything.