To stay in bed when DP gets up with his child?

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DP and I have lived together for 2 years, he has a son aged 5. There is constant tension because I don’t wake up on the weekends he’s here when he gets up (around 6am).

He is with us Monday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday every week.

DP has made comments saying “I’ve been lonely” when I’ve woken up around 8:30/9 and joined them in the living room. Weekdays I usually am up anyway because of work.

DP has said that going forward he wants us to be a “family” which involves me waking up and having breakfast together. He also expects me to look after his son if he’s going on a night out. For example, he’s told me next Saturday he’s out with friends. I’ve said I’m not able to look after his son, so he’s asked his mum (DPs mum).

Hes said that if we have a baby he’ll enjoy all the lie ins in getting.

aibu to not wake up with him and his little boy?

I think it would be a massive mistake to have a baby with this man.

Not a chance I'd be doing that. But having been in a similar situation I'd never start a relationship with a man with a small child especially if you're child free.

And I certainly wouldn't be planning on having a child with him

What a nasty and manipulative creature he is.

He wants you to parent his child. He thinks you are taking the piss by not co parenting and intends to seek revenge by leaving you to do all the early mornings.

If you have a bay together, you share the early mornings. You currently don’t, so you don’t have to get up at 6am when not up for work.

You've posted about this before?

Ridiciulous that he wants you up all the time. Does he think you'll be doing it ALL when you have a baby?

I do think that if you're together and your DSS is with you this often, SOME aceptabce that you are are a parent figure would be appropriate.

Ffs

He is literally waving a bright red flag right in your face. For goodness sake, do not bring a child into this relationship.

Definitely don't have a baby, he wants to trap you into taking over all the childcare - and probably housework too.

I think that other poster has described him perfectly.

Yea they have. It's that line about lie ins when they have their own baby that's too stupid to have come up twice.

I remember your previous thread. Nothing has changed since then, then?
I’ll say the same now as I said then, I wouldn’t be having a baby with this man.

OP, you got great advice on your last thread - ie, leave this man. There is no point doing nothing and reposting the same issue every few weeks.

Ha ha ha, yeah right, jog on, he wouldn't be getting up if it was vice versa. You're already doing plenty, no point you getting up too.

His ex probably did all the wake ups. And he doesn’t like it now as he actually has to parent. I would not have a child with him z

You have posted this before. He is awful and will treat you badly if you have a child with him.

I thought you were leaving OP?

Bears repeating. All of it.

Get out of this ‘relationship’.

As usual, one feels sorry for the poor child, not wanted by anyone in the house he spends half the week.

Have you posted before? And were told you are a nanny with a Fanny?

Wheres your self respect? Dump him.

You would be insane to have a child with him.

Have you posted this before? I have my own two children and I don’t get up with them every weekend! When we’ve nothing on, one person has a lie in until 8 and the other gets up with the kids. We have a day each on each weekend. I would not have a child with this man, you’ll end up looking after both children all the time.

His kid is his responsibility.

Your joint kid is your joint responsibility.

Unfortunately, he sees parenting as woman's work. Be wants to palm his kid off on you. He wants to pass on the responsibility without discussion and consultation. He wants you do his job while you nod and smile.

He wants a nanny with a fanny not a partner.

Do not have a child with this man.

Do not have a baby with this man. He thinks having a baby will mean he gets lie ins?? What if the baby is
a good sleeper? What if you are up all night with the baby?

i’d also say that 6am is an unacceptable time to
wake up at 5 years old. We bought our son a bunny alarm clock and said can’t get up before bunny is awake (around 7:30am). 7.30am was the weekday wake up time so hard to push it more than 30
mins later at the weekend.

You're living with a man who wants a bangmaidnanny.

No, you're not unreasonable, but he is.

Don't have kids with him, he doesn't want to parent.

Assume you’re the same poster as a few weeks ago. Same advice as then, don’t have a baby with this man, and tell him to jog on re getting up at 6am on the weekend. Double up on contraception as his plan is once you have a baby with him, he’ll have you waking with both kids and he will be off out leaving both kids with you. Don’t do it.