Can i actually be charged for this ??

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My mother (I’ve been NC for years she has instructed DB to tell me) has informed me that when she dies

1. I will receive no inheritance (sister gets the house DB gets the money)
2. I will be expected to help clear the house for my sister to move in and if I don’t I will be charged a clearance / skip fee!

There’s no obligation for me to do this and they can’t charge me? Apparently if I refuse they’ll say it’s my stuff so I’m liable ???

Just tell anyone who comes with a bill to f themselves. You didn't enter into the contract with them so you will not be liable.

Which country does your Mum live in? If Scotland, you might be automatically entitled to a share of the estate, regardless of what the will says. https://www.wallacequinn.co.uk/disinheriting-your-children-in-scotland/

You cannot be made liable for this so no need to be cocerned

Someone suggested it could all be left to you in a will but no-one has to accept anything that they are left and it goes back into the estate

If she willed you a desk for example, you can either refuse it (‘disclaim’ the gift, then it’s not your problem), or collect it. You are under no obligation whatsoever to clear anything else. The executor is responsible for doing that, and the estate pays. Ignore her and rest easy.
As for not informing you? There’s no reason why they cannot inform you right away.

I'd text back that to the best of your knowledge you have no property in 'mother's address' and if that is incorrect could they send you the details of what your Mother has that is your's. Give some time, then block the lot of them.

If a bequest is refused unless the will specified a default beneficiary it will automatically form part of the residue and will pass to whoever the residue has been left to.

An executor can step back from the role and have no responsibilities as an executor.

The vile woman may have been ill, but she might live for some years yet. If I were the OP I'd just forget all about it and respond to any communications, as a pp above suggests, with a 😂 to every message from the flying monkey brother. Who, incidentally, appears to be rather enjoying his role in all this.

If the OP is in Scotland and is left out of the will she is entitled to make a claim on part of the moveable estate, if she wants to. She doesn't have to do anything.

Depending on the amount of the estate the Executors might ask her to discharge her legal rights. She can ignore any such request, it still doesn't mean she will be liable as she has to positively claim.

The term “children” includes any adopted and illegitimate children

I'm shocked at a Scottish solicitor referring to "illegitimate children". No child subject to Scots law is illegitimate.

No, you can't leave tasks required to be done, or charges in your will.

She is NC by her own choice with her M. The mother is trying to re-engage, using OP's siblings as flying monkeys to enable her. OP does not need to engage in this sick scenario. She may well be in some kind of occasional contact with siblings but she can and for her own peace of mind should not engage on this, as it is the mother's horrible mind games. Ignore, ignore, don't let them drag you back OP into what amounts to a dialogue with your M. And don't worry about the legal side - its all complete rubbish. No response required there.

Your DB needn't have told you this OP. What do you think his motivation is, spite?

They’re after a reaction from you. Bit of drama they can reel in. Just ignore them, you don’t have to do anything, aren’t obliged to do anything. They can eff off really 😁

LOL! No they can’t. I’d dearly love to charge my husband’s siblings for doing sod all the last few months and they are actually inheriting, but you can’t. It all comes out of the estate or they have to pay. Nothing to do with you. Just block them all.

She's just being a cunt I'm afraid 🫂

I think this is an attempt of nastiness and designed to frighten you off.
I would talk through options with Citizens Advice or even better a solicitor, but i think;
if you do own things in the house or they say you do, you can keep saying you are going to pick them up, but then keep delaying. They will not be allowed to throw things in a skip if you say you want to collect them. As they are classified as ypur legal possessions.
And if you dont own things in the house or they say you havent inherited anything then they havent got a leg to stand on in terms of getting you to order or pay for skips.

Also you would be within your rights to dispute the will. That would upset your bro and sister and delay things nicely. Even better if you dont actually want to inherit anything. But if your siblings sort everything out in the house, and then have to sell the house so you get a third of the estate then you will be laughing. This 3rd outcome is probably what your mum and siblings are trying to avoid. I like the 3rd option best. Why should you get nothing? You might need trauma therapy or not be able to work full time and have extra expenses as a result of your mums actions. Why should they all get off scott free?

You won’t get a bill, unless your siblings try to bill you, but I’d like to try and see them make you pay it.

If your mum put in her will that she’s leaving you the contents of her house, then you would have to sort through/clear it, but she’s not.

If your siblings don’t want to do/pay for it, then her estate has to pay for it before any inheritance is divided up, in the same way as it would settle any loans/credit cards/utilities etc.

You can will someone a debt. Just ignore them.

I believe one can refuse any part of an inheritance.

You don't have to accept any sort of inheritance OP. They can't make you pay or do anything.
I would be completely no contact with all 3 of them.
Block. Ignore. Don't engage. Have a happier life.

An involuntary bailee does not have to keep things forever until you decide to get them.

After reasonable notice is given, 14 days is likely to be more than enough to count for almost any normal situation (unless there's multiple vans worth of stuff or something silly), the estate could then just sell the items and keep the money safe for you instead. They could move the items to a storage facility if it is required to move forward with the legal management of the estate, and you will owe those storage costs. Or if the objects have no inherent monetary value and are just personal (or so low it will cost more to sell than they would fetch), then they can throw the items away after the notice period - this is always the worst option just in case, but they can.

Even if she bequethes you her junk contents you can renunciate the inheritance

Ie decline the junk.

She sounds bonkers I'd want to be well clear of it.

Yes. I was named as an executor on a will and decided I didn't want to do it. As the person hasn't died yet, I merely had to write to them to say I didn't want to do it. If they had already died, I would have had to fill in a form to formally rescind my duties, but either way you don't have to do it and aren't liable for anything.

Ha ha, of course you can’t be charged. What rubbish.

Pay them no heed OP.

Sounds like she just wants to upset you

This basically

The woman hasn't actually died yet. Plenty of time for doing all of that when the time comes, but for now the OP doesn't need to do anything or worry about it.