90 year old male watching naked women on tv

[BetteDavisChin]

My cousin told me that her 90yo dad watches 'Babestation' (ugh, makes me feel queasy just typing that word).
He asked her to fix his phone at the weekend and she saw he had 572 you tube videos on it, some thumbnail stills showing close ups of young women's crotches (clothed).
She was upset and said she couldn't believe that a man of his age was looking at stuff like that. She also told me (which I didn't know before) that in the 60s/70s he used to go to the pub on work lunch times and Sunday afternoons to watch strippers.
I said I agree that it's gross, but try not to judge him, but she wasn't happy with me about that and she left. She hasn't returned my text messages since then.
I am going to give her a few days to process what's happened, then try to contact her again.
But AIBU to also be grossed out by the thought of my aged uncle perving over young women?

If he is 90, leave him alone to what he enjoys.
Crikey, the young are so awful.
I am 67 and do sometimes look at porn, because there is not that much opportunity for the real stuff!
You all just wait!

Way to make this strange!
what’s my 14 year old daughter got to do with this and to be honest, why the fuck are you suggesting I’m in agreement?
jesus your a nasty, man hating twat.

If he's phoning Babe Station that will cost him a fortune and I suppose the models will be adept at keeping punters online.

Its revolting and yes, its much worse because he is 90.

He is perving over women who are young enough to be his granddaughter and that is vomit worthy. Thats an age gap of around 70 years FGS. Of course it's bloody gross. If he is going to watch stuff like that on his phone he could at the very least take it off the screen before he gives his phone to his daughter to fix - he surely knows how uncomfortable that is for her, or perhaps he enjoys that aspect and gets a thrill from it 🤷‍♀️

Gross. At 90 or at 30. Yuk. So many apologists for objectification and women debasing themselves publicly as light entertainment on here its a bit demoralising. No wonder we are in such a mess.

Creepy pervy young men grow into creepy, pervy old men. People seem to romanticise old men as kind and sweet when it’s rarely the case.

In fact, been thinking about this..

please explain why you had to bring my 14 year old daughter into this??

genuinely explain yourself you fucking horrible person.

i look forward to your justification on this.

Its quite interesting how extreme some posters have to make conversations like this.

The thread is about a grown adult man, viewing porn/soft porn whatever it is with legal aged adult women

This is not about child abuse.

Quite…

still awaiting @TheSloughBeadle to explain….

This.

If you’re someone who doesn’t agree with porn that’s a different thing entirely. But just to hate the fact an older person has sex drive and is interested in younger women seems unfair. I am 45 and I can’t see me fancying men aged 80 when I’m 80. Getting older is a weird thing, you don’t suddenly fancy older people just because you’re older yourself.

Where have you gone @TheSloughBeadle ???

got nothing to say?

Im not sure how many 90yr olds can actually successfully complete an orgasm with all their prostate issues, heart failure, penis shrinkage and arthritic hands and elbows. I think he’s just watching it like light entertainment. It would be interesting to know what the probability of successful wank would be.

they could have been banned ?

😂✊

It's gross, especially when it's an older family member you'd rather not think of doing such things, but if he tried to keep it to himself, I'd turn a blind eye and try not to notice any evidence of his viewing habits.

I don't understand why she's upset with you, though. She was unhappy about what she found on his phone, then she told you he used to look at strippers... But then she was angry that you were also disgusted (yet suggesting not to judge too harshly) when it sounds like she was disgusted, too? What exactly was she expecting you to do or say? It's an unpleasant topic of conversation, and in your place I'd rather she hadn't told me at all. I don't need to know about the intimate lives of my family members, young or old (but particularly the elderly ones, tbh).

They were tricked into it? They are unaware, being filmed secretly?

There's no objectification. Grow up, service provider of legal services and service user nothing more. Your backwards, personal bias doesn't change this.

I doubt he watches it when other people are there. Why would he?
He's allowed to enjoy what he wants at his age and while I can see why your cousin would be shocked I don't think he's doing anything wrong. If he's watching it when women are still clothed is it pretty tame compared to what he could be watching.

It’s her elderly father and she wasn’t snooping, he asked her to fix something on his phone.

Men like porn. That doesn’t change just because they get older. I doubt there is much porn featuring geriatric women so he’s watching what is generally available. My own dad (82) watches porn, I’ve even encountered him doing so once (he’s very deaf). Aside from the fact that I find porn ethically and morally problematic, I don’t judge my dad any differently to any of the other men I know, all of whom I’m sure watch porn. People’s dads are still men and men generally do like porn.

This. It's gross and misogynistic whether he's 19 or 90. Ew. And the fact that he has no shame about it and flaunts it in her face is even grosser.

Your poor cousin, having to put up with her father having been a disgusting perv right in front of her all her life. Why would you tell her not to judge him?

It's her dad, and he asked her to 'fix his phone' - it's probably in the course of looking to see what's gone wrong with it that she came across the pictures. I wouldn't be surprised if he wanted her to see, frankly.

Actually, 25% of British men don't watch porn.

yougov.co.uk/society/articles/42945-how-often-do-britons-watch-porn

I think because gross men like to wank over young women, and 18 or 14, it doesn't stop them. Let's say your daughter was 16 though (so technically 'legal'), and helping out a man you knew around the house - would you be alright if he told you he'd been whacking one out while imagining having his way with her?
After all, it's legal, and it's only imagination, right? You shouldn't judge!!

Personally, I'm not in favour of the misogynistic objectification of women in any regard - whether paid sex work, or men fantasising about a person they know. 25% of men don't watch porn. They can just imagine a fantasy woman. It's not that difficult if they have an ounce of respect for women.

It must have been so exciting for men when masturbation suddenly became possible in 2000 after 300000 years of frustration and thinking “There’s something missing from my life….”

Lmao, I know, right? It astonishes me the way that people insist men neeeeed porn when that's categorically, clearly untrue. And even in a world where it's freely available, a sizeable minority of men don't use it!

Perhaps prior to porn, the sort of people arguing that men need porn, were the ones who argued that men neeeeeed to rape their servant girls and wives 🙄