New boyfriend snapped at me

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Could do with your opinion. FWIW I am happy to be told AIBU. Im just trying to make sure I dont ignore anything important.

I was driving down the motorway with my boyfriend of 3 months. He was driving and I was supposed to be giving directions. We were talking and then he asked whether he should be taking the exit and I kind of hesitated for a few seconds as wasn't sure abd then said yes. He tutted and said for fucks sake and then quickly switched lames to exit

Now totally get why that would be irritating 😅 Its just that I was with my ex for 10 years and for all his faults, I dont think we ever snapped at each other once. We had massive bust ups about the big questions but irritating things like this we were both very generous with each other so im not sure what's normal. But I felt like a child being reprimanded and felt like saying "jesus get over it"

Get help.

Please get a grip.

They walk amongst us.

Or ought that be among? 😉

Absolutely! I'm off to the dressing up box to find my Princess crown to match yours 🤡😖

Jesus christ, I wonder how both you and most of the respondees on her actually manage yo get through life if you create so much drama over such a non event.... and if you clearly can't cope with someone getting mildly irritated or slightly snapping.
God help you all in your lives

People have asked repeatedly - no answer.

I always want the person navigating to give clear indications of what is coming up. I may well be able to see the signs etc, but there is a lot to concentrate on when you're driving, so if someone has agreed to navigate, it takes some of the stress off. Having to make a quick lane change on a motorway is not ideal.

If I have a navigator, I do expect clear warnings. It's not difficult. I, too, would have muttered FFS, especially as it wasn't the first wrong direction you'd given him.

He was in the middle of a stressful drive, you weren't. He sounds like a nice guy for apologising, because, tbh, his annoyance with you was totally justified.

He didn’t snap at you ffs. He muttered his annoyance at your mistake (one of many it seems) and later apologised. You sound like incredibly hard work.

I would hate this too, OP. Of course people will sometimes get annoyed or frustrated with each other, but I would want my partner to show patience and kindness towards me, and vice versa. You were doing your best and so should he.

Having said that, he did apologise, so he maybe knows he was in the wrong. I think I would make it crystal clear that snapping and nastiness is not something I want or tolerate in my relationships, and so if that's something he thinks is okay, maybe we're not a good match. It doesn't matter that you've already spoken on this - it's okay to bring the topic up again. Tell him it's been playing on your mind and you want to clear things up.

Other people on here can tell you it's fine and that they and their partners speak to each other that way often. I can tell you the research shows that partners showing contempt to one another is virtually a guarantee that the relationship won't last. But more importantly, you have your own standards of behaviour and don't have to lower them just because pp on here do.

Look, if I was doing a 12 hour drive and had already had an extra 30 mins added because my passenger gave me the wrong directions, and then didn't direct me when asked I think I might have said a lot more than he did.

Also, he didn't sulk and did apologise...I think you are being a bit precious.

You are being defensive OP

you did a really bad job and he was frustrated

car journeys are definitely not the right place to decide boundaries of your relationship

I would have definitely swore at the situation - having to change lanes on motorway to get to exit is really dangerous

You drive next time, OP. Let's see you do a 12-hour shift without any stress.

Exactly... insane over reaction much?

I’d have snapped at you if you’d kept cocking up the navigation so much.

you did a really bad job

Ok, Stig!

Everyone makes mistakes. It’s not easy giving directions for 12 hours.

I would much prefer to drive rather than give directions.

Honestly if DH had just made a 12 hour car journey several hours longer by giving me shit directions multiple times, I think muttering “FFS” under my breath would be pretty restrained.

I voted YABU but I think you’re even more after that drip feed

He did 12 hours of driving and the person who agreed to navigate kept giving the wrong directions. I'd have said a lot more than FFS if it was me.
It wasn't even aimed at the OP from the sound of it just because he was annoyed. I really wonder how some people cope. They are offended by everything

Did you see how many mistakes she made?

it’s reasonable when having switch lanes quickly on motorway to exit to get annoyed

It's a tricky one, sounds like he was tired after a very long journey, and have been there when you need a instance decision whether to come off or not which is high pressure situation, however at the same time his reaction is not great, sounds like he apologised, I would just ask that he doesn't speak like that in future.

Well she can drive so she has that option but chose to navigate poorly. One FFS after all the wrong turns is a lot less than I'd expect if I'd cocked up that often.

His apology was fine - you don’t need to make a point - he’d apologised

If snapping at a partner while in the car was an immediate disqualification for a relationship, I’d have been divorced 10 times over by now. 😂

Not necessarily, depends on location.