I try knickers on in shops.

[Nevershoppingagaininjohnlewis]

My other thread got derailed by this issue.

I, and the friends I saw last night, all try knickers on in shops. We do this over our pants.

We sometimes buy the knickers. We sometimes don't.

We agreed we don't have money to burn on buying knickers that don't fit or don't look lovely or cut your bum up. We try them on as most shops don't allow you to return them for a refund. (Although you can return online)

To clarify from my other thread, the JL shop assistant told me to try on the matching knickers to a bra I was purchasing, as she didn't want me to waste my money.

AWBU in trying knickers on in shops and sometimes returning them to the rail?

(And yes, this is one of those threads where my behaviour will not change as a result of your opinions)

I've lived in a few cities and enjoy shopping day trips with friends. I'd never seen trying on clothes as a kink, but you do you.

Last night's group was 6 of us.

In fairness to @Windowseleventy I disagree with JL policy of allowing me to have a bra fitting in a mixed sex changing room with only a badly fitting curtain between me and him.

They're allowed to disagree with all those shops' policies of trying on underwear.

But as you point out, the knickers can be £100+. Shops know it's in their best interests to allow customers to try them on as most of us don't have £100 to throw away on ill fitting pants.

You know what they say - one woman’s kink is another’s shopping trip 🤣

This thread is so funny. There’s talk of cracks, discharge, thrush etc. No one has yet mentioned about the possibility of breaking wind in the knickers being tried on. Maybe I’m just being unnecessarily gross, 😂

No. And I wouldn't be OK with thongs either. Ridiculous things. You might as well wear no knickers at all.

I can't believe that any one would try knickers on before they buy them.
And trying them on and returning them to the rail is just gross.

But there again buying knickers because they " look lovely" is just so self indulgent it's untrue. Just how vain are some people?

Knickers are knickers for heaven's sake. They serve a function.

I agree, I always try on over the top. If I am going shopping specifically for knickers I make sure to wear big ones for this purpose.

Spending £100 on a pair of knickers is the very epitome of throwing money away!
More money than sense springs to mind.

There does seem to be a lot of frothing here. I just buy knickers in my size, and they always fit. What kind of weird shapes are the rest of you that you need to be trying on knickers?

What if OP is good at folding... 🤢

Oh go on then.

So were you all trying knickers on?

I try them on inside out then if they don’t fit turn them back again and put them back on the hanger or in the packet surely that’s ok?🤔

Frothing? Great choice of word

Always wash clothes before wearing

Do you not buy clothing that looks lovely and makes you look lovely?

I feel sad for you that you don't buy clothing that makes you look and feel good.

Functional doesn't have to be ugly or dull.

I wish I could say I’m surprised!

Seeing if I can squeeze a dance number out of this thread...

Not just evening wear and tops
I try knickers on in shops

Please don't scream or call the cops
While I try knickers on in shops

While I bop to vintage pops
Trying knickers on in shops

etc etc etc

Blimey I thought that in the 68 years I've lived I'd pretty much heard it all.

Trying on KNICKERS before buying........nope, that's an entirely new one on me - and not just the OP but her equally odd friends!

Yes of course I buy clothing which I hope suits me and I try, like most women , to make the best of my appearance.

But I would never ever look in the mirror and think " gosh, don't I look lovely" because I don't have the self obsession and ego to do that. And I am amazed that anyone would be so self satisfied as to do that.

The thought of someone in a changing room mirror in a pair of knickers thinking how lovely they look in them is absolutely risible. Imo of course.

Totally fine.

I've taken to trying on clothes in shops that refuse to have fitting rooms. Tesco is the worst, they relished closing them with the pandemic as a reason and have never bothered opening them.

If I'm going clothes shopping I'll wear a flowy skirt and a tank top and it's easy enough to pull trousers up under the skirt or put a top on over the tank top.

I can't be arsed to buy things that don't fit, then return, then wait for the money to hit my bank account. If they bothered with changing rooms that customers want then people wouldn't need to do this sht.

You don't ever look in the mirror and think you look lovely? Or beautiful? Or gorgeous? Or whatever?

I find that really sad. It's not big headed to be pleased with what you see in the mirror. Looking at your reflection and thinking 'gosh, I look great' isn't a sign of a big ego, it's the sign of health self-esteem.

It's one thing to look in the mirror and think yes I look nice enough, or suitably dressed.
I don't regard looking in the mirror and thinking I look gorgeous, or I look beautiful as having self esteem. I regard it as being narcissistic and big headed. And quite frankly totally off putting that some one has such a high opinion of themselves
Unfortunately society today has produced a large number of people obsessed with appearance and who are absolutely vain.

Fair enough!

I love that people are able to express confidence and happiness with their appearance. I think it's healthier than how it's been for eons which is to put yourself down at every turn. It's culturally baked into us. If you compliment someone on their nice dress it's 'oh, this old thing? I wasn't sure if it fit or not but I guess it's okay...', if you say they look refreshed 'oh I haven't slept in a week, it's all makeup!' it's the norm to bat away compliments. I know so many people who feel extremely uncomfortable with a compliment and if they just try say 'thank you' they feel it's incredibly big headed and rude and the other person will think they're up themselves.

Narcissism is when people have an unreasonably high sense of their own importance, I guess in this context people having an unreasonably high opinion of their appearance. I would take that to mean someone average looking thinking they're supermodel gorgeous. I don't think you need to be deluded to think you look great tbh. I'm no model, I'm well aware of my physical flaws, but when I've dressed up in something that really suits me and put some makeup on and done my hair I do look in the mirror before going out and think 'yeah, I look really pretty today'.

I guess at the core of this is the belief on your side that thinking you look gorgeous means they're big headed. To me, big-headed would be 'I'm the best looking person in this room, that woman is only giving me dirty looks cos she's jealous, every man wants me, I'm going to be snatched up by a modelling agency any moment now'. Thinking 'I look gorgeous today' isn't that, to me. But agree to disagree of course.

I'd be interested in others chipping in with this, do you ever look at yourself in the mirror and think you look great/gorgeous/pretty/really nice? Do you think it's a bad thing if someone else does?

I also think it’s a shame that someone wouldn’t look at themselves in the mirror and think they look gorgeous or beautiful etc. It’s absolutely not vain to recognise something you like about your appearance. As you said, it’s healthy self esteem.

Narcissism is when people have an unreasonably high sense of their own importance,

I was thinking very much of the myth about Narcissus: seeing his reflection in the pool and falling in love with himself because he looked so beautiful.
That's what sprang to mind when OP talked about looking at herself in the changing room mirror and thinking how lovely she looked in a pair of knickers.

when I've dressed up in something that really suits me and put some makeup on and done my hair I do look in the mirror before going out and think 'yeah, I look really pretty today'.
I think that's reasonable. And vastly different from what you posted earlier about looking in the mirror and thinking you look beautiful and gorgeous.